we HAD sex with condom on everytime.. and QUITE frequently also.. it is just normal condom with no spermicide function. she missed her period for 1month already? is she really pregnant? if the pregnancy kit show positive where can i do abortion? because we are not ready to get a child so soon. will it be very painful? where can i get the abortion done SAFELY ? she got a weak body, i am afraid she can't take it.. can some one help me ?????
by right if i use condom, we should be safe right? but i can;t explain why she miss her period for a month.. she say she seems to get a bigger breast..
what other symptons can i check with ?
URGENT !!!!!!!!
2006-11-20 00:18:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok, I'm gonna answer your question like this:
- Condoms only work 98% of the time (which means 2% of the time you are not protected at all) but it's very rare for them not to work.
- She missed her period maybe bc she's pg or maybe it's just stress.
- The only place you can go to get an abortion is a clinic, where is done safely and hygenically.
- Depending on the procedure done on her (depending on how far along is she) it will be painful or not. Usually it is...
I'm not telling you it's the right thing to do. I just think people have the right to decide whatever they want to do. It's a free country after all.
If she missed her period for a month, why haven't she taken a home pg test? Be there for her and wahetever you decide be supportive, she's gonna need you a lot right now. Good luck.
2006-11-20 00:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing to check is the expiration date on the condoms. They could have been expired rendering them no good.
Second, just because she missed her period, does not mean that she is pregnant. Other things could be going on. All women's bodies are fragile and any little stress or infection can throw us off. So her next step would be to get a home pregnancy test. Just to be sure. If she is a month late and is pregnant, than it should definitely register on the HPT. However, if she is a month late and it registers negative, than she still needs to go to the doctor, because there obviously is a problem.
Third, if she is pregnant, ultimately it is her decision as to whether she wants to get an abortion. Abortions are painful (speaking from experience) and its can cause other problems. If that is a route that she chooses to go, depending on where you live there is always plenty of places, that offers that service. Depending on your ages, parental notification maybe required as well (varies statewide).
Fourth, what makes you think that she has a weak body. If her body is weak and you think she wont be able to handle pregnancy, what makes you think that she will be able to handle the abortion? The body is a wonderful thing and makes adjustments as needed. So don't just assume that because you may think she is weak that she wont be able to handle a situation such as a pregnancy.
And lastly, condoms are not 100 percent, regardless of their expiration date. Also, in the future, be sure to check the condom package before opening. Sometimes, they are punctured, either by mistake or human error, and you not know it.
The other symptoms of pregnancy could be:
• 10. Tender, swollen breasts
• 9. Fatigue
• 8. Implantation bleeding
• 7. Nausea or vomiting
• 6. Increased sensitivity to odors
• 5. Abdominal bloating
• 4. Frequent urination
• 3. A missed period
• 2. Your basal body temperature stays high
• 1. The proof: A positive home pregnancy test
2006-11-20 08:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angelwhispers27 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First she should have a pregnancy test done...either with a kit from the pharmacy or a doctors office. If it's positive, and she is pregnant...then the 2 of you need to decide what to do. Abortion can be dangerous even in a safe environment. Make sure if you go this route, that it's done by a reputable doctor in a clinic or hospital. It can be physically as well as emotionally traumatic. Condoms safeguard against diseases, but not recommended for prevention of pregnancy. Discuss better, more effective alternatives with a doctor
2006-11-20 08:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you guys? You should know that condoms are not always 100% effective, and if you're not ready to have children you should have abstained, or use some other contraceptive in addition to the condoms.
How regular is her cycle? It could just be a false alarm. Let her take a home pregnancy test or make an appointment to visit a doctor.
I don't really advocate abortions, so I'd tell you all to have the child; but then I don't know your circumstances. On the other hand, if you think you're old enough to be having sex, you should be ready to handle the responsibility of having a child.
2006-11-20 08:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by smokey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abstinance is the only sure method of birth control. A person can still get pregnant using anything else. I know from personal experience. First of all get a home pregnancy test and take it just to be on the safe side. Sometimes a person can miss their period due to stress. Girls breasts do grow and not always due to pregnancy. As for getting an abortion if it turns out that she's pregnant you'd need to talk to a doctor (try a family planning clinic) considering as you say she has a weak body.
2006-11-20 08:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by CPht 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Condoms are very effective if they are used properly, but there is still a slight chance that something could have gone wrong. If you are in the U.S., you can try Planned Parenthood
http://www.plannedparenthood.org
On the website, you can find a clinic in your area and they can help you with everything, from pregnancy tests to helping your girlfriend find out why she may have missed her period. They can help with prenatal care if you decide to keep the baby, or refer you to a place for a safe abortion if you do not. They can help you even if you don't have a lot of money.
2006-11-20 08:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Krista D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you used a condom, Then it is possible you may have use a faulty condom during one of those time. There are multipal ways for and accident to happen, if that is not the case then you should be ready for some bad news. For it will not be the first time that a woman was having another man's child while blaming it on the guy she is going with. so what ever the case is just make sure that you get a blood test and that will prove if you are the father of that child or not................... But if that child proves to be yours then take care of the child the very best way that you can...........................
2006-11-20 08:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing you need to do is get a test you can even get one at the dollar store, i have 2 children and i got both my test from there. If see is then you both need to speak with someone professionally to tell you all your options don't be thinking about abortion already, there are so many women who cant have children that would love to adopt yours if you don't think you can take care the child. but being a parent is one of the best things in the world i got preg at 16 and i did just fine, i stayed in school and graduated then went to collage, you wouldn't believe all the resources out there to help young parents. You have a lot to think about but just remember to take it one step at a time good luck
2006-11-20 08:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Heather B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to life, you enjoyed sex, well now you need to enjoy the pregnancy period and the new baby. Condoms are not 100% safe, read the little letters in the package.
Congratulations, everything you say is showing that you will be a new father, i hope you became a good man and no one more of the statistics leaving home because the pressure... Good luck..
2006-11-20 08:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by El Recio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did the condom split or i hate to say it but could she be having un protected sex with someone else.
i think its unlikely she is pregnant if you answered no to the above two questions.
my breasts hurt and get bigger when i am about to have a period. have you discussed the 'abortion' side of things with her as she is the one who gets the final decision?
i have never had an abortion and never plan to so i cant help with clinics sorry
2006-11-20 08:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by only me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋