Is it right to hit kids?

Question

I asked this a while back but got a load of bible bashers answering...

IF ANYONE ANSWERS THIS QUESTION WITH REGARDS TO GOD THEN I WILL REPORT THEM EVERYTIME THEY ASK OR ANSWER A QUESTION!

...just a brief warning.

is it right to hit em? i'm talking about spanking, discipline, not smacking them round the face with a sock full of pool balls.

Answer 1

Yes, if done with proper love and care. It is not the only tool that should be used, but it should not be disregarded just because of a pack of raving idiots.

Answer 2

I'm always interested in the rhetorical intent behind the wording of such questions. The term "hit" can have positive connotations or negative connotations depending on the context. When it comes to children the term is broad enough to include loving discipline or physical abuse. People with non-traditional moral views will use general terminology like this to promote the idea that any kind of "hit" would be abusive. It puts people who would spank their children in unselfish love necessarily in the same category with child abusers. In effect, the question's rhetoric is so biased, that a reasonably fair answer would be unlikely. The pressure would be too high because no one, even those who properly discipline their children, wants to be known as a child abuser. Your question, friend, betrays your bias.

As for your term "bible bashers," why are you concerned about people answering who bash the Bible? Don't those who hate God's Word have the right to answer your question too?

It sounds like you're putting up too many barriers to searching for correct methods of child discipline. Are you really concerned about the children being raised properly, or is their discipline just an academic issue for you?

Answer 3

No, I believe its not.
I babysit up to 11 childeren at a time while their folks go to AA meetings. Besides the fact that it would be illegal for me to spank them, it is possible to discipline the kids without spanking/hitting ect. It can be done...with a ton of patience! Check out books with news ways of disciplining the kid if you're stuck and can't think of anything. ...or maybe just ask Dr.Phil!

My folks spanked me when i was little and I think it just puts fear into the kid. And would you want someone over you (like the police or government ect.) putting fear into you in order to get what they want you to do? ...I hope not.

anyway good luck
peace!

Answer 4

I spanked my son 1 time hard on the behind.I beleive it was for a good reason and he never did what he was going to do ever again so it worked that time.I don't think it's something that you should do all the time only if it is serious and you don't do it when you r angry and no more then 3 spanks on the behind or they call that abuse.In canada we r not alound to hit our kids more then 3 times or it's considered abuse n they will take our kids away if your caught .That can also lead to the chil hitting someone else thinking it's ok.

Answer 5

I think it's alright when they do something wrong. They have to be corrected and educated on what's right and wrong. One must be careful about over-spanking as this can sort of backfire. Kids might end up being more naughty. Spanking and discipline aren't totally good and bad. Parents ought to assess the problem and use 'spanking and discipline' appropriately. When to tighten the rein, when to loosen it. =)

Answer 6

Yes It is right to hit kids.But it shouldnt be the first and only measure.Parents and elders should talk to their children and explain why they should and shouldnt do things.If the child persists to disobey then yes the child SHOULD get disciplinary action like spanking.When hitting the child one should not over -do the situation and mame the child or break a bone or something.But it is important that parents let the child know very early who is boss, if not then the world will only become worse with lawlessness and disrepect from children.

Answer 7

If you choose to spank or not to spank that is really a question you and your spouse need to decide on how to raise children. I have 2 boys and I have spanked them both. One is 19 and doing fine. His brother is 7 and doing fine. The way i have done this I wait until I have calmed down from initially being angry over what they did. First I explain to them why they are being punished. Then carry it out.

Answer 8

NO, spanking or slapping your children just shows how out of control you are. What do you do when you are in an argument with someone at your own level? Hit them? What do you think your children will learn to do, if they can't solve problems except through violence? If they don't learn to communicate their problems with their parents, then they'll end up being abusive to their spouses or children in the future. Children learn much better from feeling your disappointment in them than just hitting them.

Answer 9

If it is used solely for disciplinary actions and not out of anger I don't see the harm in it. If, however, you leave any kinds of marks on your child you know you have gone too far and would constitute abuse.
My best advice though, before hit try the 3 strike rule:
1st strike: Verbal warning and discussion about what they have done.
2nd strike: Loss of some privileges.
3rd strike: Stand in the corner holding books.
I very rarely ever have to go beyond strike 3 before they acknowledge what they have done wrong.

Answer 10

I used to believe that it was not okay to hit your children, but I have since changed my mind. If it is done out of concern and love, it is not damaging in any way. In fact, I believe now that it helps to set boundaries and in no way causes violence. I am the mother of three teen-aged girls. When spanked recently for inappropriate behavior recently, my middle daughter reacted only by stopping the concerning behavior. She understands the reasoning and agreed with the punishment.