do fights strengthen a marriage?

Answer 1

It is healthy for you's to have a fight every now and then because there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Maybe you should concentrate on like the first person said, solving these disputes together.

Answer 2

I dont know about marraige but you definately need fights in any relationship, I have been with my partner for 3 years and sometimes you need a GOOD fight to clear the air a little, couples tend to look over things and not speak exactly what they are thinking and if this is what happens, a fight is sometimes whats needed.

there is a big difference between fighting occasionally to fighting 24/7, this is the start of soemthing awful or a bad patch, but remember bad patches arent the end of the world, they can simply mean that one of you are feeling down and taking it out on the other. It could mean that you should look at your relationship closer and decide what the next step is.

Good Luck and remember there is nothing wrong with argueing, I mean making up is great fun,.

Answer 3

Fights (or heated discussions) between partners are merely strongly expressed, DIFFERENT viewpoints.

Expressing yourselves is always a strengthening exercise provided that:
1. Neither one of you are abusive, &
2. The differences end up with a mutually-satisfying SOLUTION.

Otherwise, the issue will keep cropping up; with each time being a more negative experience.

Fight? No.
Argue? No.
Express Yourselves? Absolutely!

A marriage without differences is no marriage at all. So, go ahead - express yourselves HONESTLY. Respect the difference your partner has from YOUR ideals - that's what makes you both unique - and try to keep your temper in check when listening.

Very intelligent question - I hope my advice helped.

Good Luck to you!

Answer 4

I believe that disagreements/arguments (no violence, of course) can help get issues out and hopefully resolved. In the long run, most couples I've seen that argue seem to have stronger relationships than the couples where one or both partners hold everything in. They are letting their partner know that there is a problem and 'discussing' it - fights don't have to be yelling matches. Just the act of 'airing' to your partner can be a huge stress reliever. Some couples thrive on 'animated' discussions; they look forward to them. It is their way of progressing forward.

The key to most successful arguments is that neither party holds a grudge and that there is an agreement in effect - such as not going to bed angry, or taking out on the kids, or bringing up again and again in retaliation for unrelated events. When it's done, it's done except for discussion or reminiscing purposes.

Answer 5

its like this,
small fights are like cracks on a new wall. If u patch up after a little misunderstanding. (i mean discuss it and settle it and end of the pb) they actually strengthen the marriage.
if u sleep over the small problem and do not discuss and settle the issue,because of ur ego pbs etc etc. then its one crack leading to another crack in the wall and eventually the entire wall will come down, exactly how a marriage will fail.

Answer 6

Conflict is inevitable. It's how you manage to get from conflict back to intimacy that is important. It's important to NOT go from conflict to Withdrawal. Studies show that long running successful marriages (such as mine, 25 years) are most dependent on how they 'fight', if you can maintain respect for both him and yourself during your disagreement you have the best chance of a happy marriage.

You can learn to disagree and negotiate effectively.

Answer 7

Avoid fighting! Because, fighting might weaken marriage instead! If you avoid fighting, that means you both love each other! And if not, you shouldn't have not got married in the first place!

Answer 8

to an extent, i believe so. i think that a couple who NEVER fights doesn't know each other as well as a couple who has fought at least a few times. absolutely NO relationship is perfect, and b/c all people are different, it's only human to have disagreements. without that, i find it hard to believe that both partners are being honest with eachother. perhaps they aren't fighting for what they believe in, or they are trying to hard to be polite which translates to perhaps putting up a front. then you know you only know one side of that person. i know every side of my husband, good and bad and i love all of him. i feel every couple in a healthy relationship needs to have a disagreement here and there.

Answer 9

It depends why you are fighting. If the fight is to resolve a problem then it is good. If you fight because you don't like each other then your marriage is not going to last.

Answer 10

No they break up marriages... little disagreements are normal but big fights make you say things that hurt each other and that wears thin after a while