2006-11-20 00:01:16 · 25 answers · asked by s f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pack your Bags, see if he wakes up
Peace
2006-11-20 00:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like more than a bit of a narcissist, your husband. That is ONE personality type no one is going to 'change' at all; if he ever agrees to attempt to somewhat modify his behavior in order to keep your relationship, then he's one a million. Narcissists always think they are 'right' and their need to control is what keeps them relatively 'sane'; take that away from them, and they can become dangerous, except under very clinically controlled conditions.
The problem is--some of these people will really turn around and HURT you, if they ever feel slighted or humilated or put down by you in any way. How long you choose to put up with such behavior is up to you; I hope you can work something out, perhaps with the assistance of a therapist? Life is too precious to have to just keep on putting up with such nonsense, in your life.
2006-11-20 00:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by no1kn0smi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but NO, Not unless he wants to change. He is a control freak and this IS a form of abuse. And just so you know, it WILL get WORSE. He first MUST ADMIT that he has a problem and then he, (which may include you) have to go get some help. Without this there isn't much you can do except accepting it, or dumping him. Please do not allow this to continue as it will get worse not better. For you and kids if there are any. Good Luck.
2006-11-20 00:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, talk to him and discuss with him, tell him u need ur space. Ask him if he has lost trust in U or if he doubts U that he wants to control ur movement. About money, if ur spending way tooooooo much unnecessarily then ur at fault. If ur wise in ur spending then discuss that also, Let go of your Ego for sometime and try to make things work ok.
maybe he's too stressed out so he's behaving tat way. Have a calm and cool talk and try to work things out, be open and ask him a few questions as to Y he hurts u by saying this that etc.
i am sure it will work out if both of u want issues tobe settled.
2006-11-20 00:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tanu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was like that before you married him, chances are not. If this is a new development I would suggest seeking assistance in the form of some type of therapy. There is a good book out there by Shakti Gawain on relationship and managing them. It might be of some help.
2006-11-20 00:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by paulrdietz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't usually change the control freaks, and usually they deny being like that. You can either work around it or get out of the marriage. Would he appreciate it if you were like that with him???
2006-11-20 00:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't change him. But, you can change where you live. Just move out before you become a physically abused wife instead of just mentally abused (which is really bad in the first place). There are women's shelters in most areas. If you don't know where one is, call a church. They can help you.
2006-11-20 00:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by istitch2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that. They are the sort of "i know it all", too self-righteous. The only way to change that is to always prove him wrong by doing this your way. Don't listen to him when you are sure he is wrong and you are right. After a few times, he will start loosening up. Good luck.
2006-11-20 00:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch Dr. Phil, go to his website and write him... in my unprofessional opinion you cant ask him to change, show him how to change, tell him the things that upset you over a cup of coffee... dont make him feel like he is a bad husband cos that wont help anything, maybe he feels his life is out of control and now hes controlling little things...
2006-11-20 00:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by S4Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u undergone any change in accordance with the desires or wishes of ur husband in the matters of movement, money etc. If no, forget about changing him. If yes, show patience and resilience. Results will come in due course.
2006-11-20 00:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Control freaks never change! Either accept him as he is
or move on.
2006-11-20 00:56:57 · answer #11 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋