Like if you kept arguing because both didn't think the other appreciate each other. That both need recognition the other refuses to give because they wamt it more.
2006-11-18 22:29:22 · 9 answers · asked by wondering 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And have been trying to improve it for couple of years with the same thing occuring.
2006-11-18 22:37:23 · update #1
Both are a insecure and have to have the reassurance.
2006-11-18 22:43:18 · update #2
Arguing all the time so stopped communication. Both have to get the recognition for survival of the self idenity. Sounds immature, but that is the way it is.
2006-11-18 22:55:09 · update #3
It also includes getting recognition from people outside the relationship. Like with strangers as well. Getting more recognition. One is taking it from the other and causes competition and conflict.
2006-11-18 23:18:57 · update #4
this will end up going nowhere & end up with ya'll hatiing each other in the end. if it's that bad get out while u can.
2006-11-18 22:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by DAYNA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy to have a relationship in the beginning, when both partners are all hot for each other. But it is hard work after the "new" wears off. Relationships are about supporting one another. Do you love this person?
If you or the other person got into this deal just to have a mutual admiration club, then you are sure to be disappointed.
You both have to have social and family support. You can't get all your needs met with one another, it is obvious from what you are writing.
Yes. It is very immature. And, of course, you can cut and run. However, the universe has a way of making you face your issues. So, the next partner, whether you think so or not, will being up the same issues in you. We are all destined to live the same situations over and over until we learn how to deal with them in a healthy and loving way.
May the Force be with you.
2006-11-19 08:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is good with only that one thing, then the answer is no I wouldn't leave. Your both focussed on who's doing or saying what, why are you keeping score, you said you both THINK the other doesn't appreciate each other. Talk to one another, ask how your day went, be sympathetic if one has had a bad day, show interest in what the other is saying to you, and above all listen to what they are saying. nothing worse than husband/wife talking and the other being distracted by something else, shows your not interested in what they are telling you. It works both ways. You both sound very babyish.
2006-11-19 06:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are always arguing and neither will give a little. Then yeah, I'd say so, just because it wont make for a happy relationship and it wouldn't last long. Why be so hard headed and not give into the others needs? I can see the need to be needed and appreciated. I think both of the individuals are to much alike and neither are willing to share, very spoiled brat-esk. Not saying relationships is perfect, because its not and everyone has their problems. Relationships, like marriage needs work and needs to be tended to and cared for or it will never succeed. But this sounds like both are to selfish and conceided to care what the other needs and what the relationship needs to work.
2006-11-19 06:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that's the only problem then i would stay cuz we would get over it eventually. if that's the only problem then we would go get counseling or something like that because that's a bad reason to break up an otherwise perfectly good relationship.
besides, there are only three reasons why i leave a relationship: cheating, you can tell it isn't going to work out (which it could be i guess), or if you are not happy anymore and you don't want to work it out.
and my last relationship was all three of them and i was STILL trying to work it out. that's just the way i am i guess.
2006-11-19 07:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that there are always problems in relationships. it's inevitable. evry1 goes through it. you're always left wanting more out of the relationship and therefore arguments occur. the key is to try to overcome what comes and come out as stronger people for it. dont leave someone for something that can be worked on in the future otherwise every relationship you have you will always feel the same way and never really get to achieve what you want out of the relationship.
2006-11-19 06:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have problems. I think there is also a lot of stress in the house. Stress is caused by uncertainty, maybe someone is unemployed, a shopping addict, is a gambler or a drug user. I'd try and identify causes of stress and deal with them first.
2006-11-19 06:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, in a heart beat
2006-11-19 06:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by =Bee-8-Nnn= 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not just go to counseling?
2006-11-19 08:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋