He has a low concentration level, and just doesnt want to study at all. He has exams 2 times a year and its a big fight to try and get him to actually sit and read his books. I am at my wits end. I cant always sit with him as i am working or have other kids. But he needs to be able to memorize stuff on his own Please help if anyone can i would be grateful.
2006-11-18 21:15:54 · 9 answers · asked by hampots 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Good Luck! I have a 15 yo with the same problem. He is ADHD with severe impulsivity and it has been a continuous battle to do any kind of school work. He would come up with all kinds of excuses about not doing his school work. I also didn't know what to do. So I started NOT letting him do anything. No TV, no video games (on TV or portable), no friends over, no going anywhere, nothing. He finally got the message. He told me he was going to give me "The Mean Mom" award because I wouldn't let him do anything or go anywhere. The thing was he knew most of the work, just had a hard time putting it on paper. He is in high school now and being homeschooled (which really works out much better). But the 'doing nothing' still stands if he doesn't do the work. He still has a problem with taking it out of his head and putting it on paper (he can tell you anything you want to know about his subjects, orally). But he has to put it on paper. But now he will sit down and do the work. I told him I was not having this foolishness anymore, I know he can do the work and if he wants any free time he'd better get it done.
2006-11-18 22:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by liloony 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 13 years old and I study all the time. When I study though I have to be in a room where there is a radio, computer, and tv. I'll study for 10-20 minutes then I"ll watch tv or go on the computer for the same amount of time. I also do some study groups at the library with my friends. It works every time and we always get good grades afterwards too!! I also tell this to some of the kids I tutor. Also sometimes some people don't need to study to get good grades. One of my friends always gets a 96 or above and she never studies. It's almost the same with me.
2006-11-19 12:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to look at what motivates him, and at his age, he's probably more interested in socialising and brand names than education for its own sake, or thinking about his future. I hate to say it, but striking up some kind of deal is probably the way to go. If you sit down with him and agree on a reasonable grade for him to attain, and an ongoing program of study for him, and discuss what you'd allow him in return (a later bed-time, a financial reward or something like that), he'll have an incentive. If you make the attainment ongoing, and draw up a chart and stick stars up when he achieves each goal, then it'll keep it fresh in his mind, give him a sense of achievement which he'll associate with study every time he looks at it, and it'll be more immediate than one long-term goal (of exam results for example) which would allow him to procrastinate. You could have a series of small ongoing rewards, and then a larger one for him, if he gets the grades you've agreed with him to be reasonable.
If you just punish him for not studying, his resentment will grow, and he'll be less likely to study, and feel negative towards education. As with any age-group, it's a case of finding the right carrot, and at his age, the most effective stick could be lack of the carrot (if it's something he badly wants).
Good luck!
2006-11-19 03:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he doing well in previous years? if so, dont worry, some kids dont need to study and in the olden days, we dont study so hard and yet we still pass. So if he is already doing well, dont pressure him to get the higher 'A' - just be satisfied with his achievement. If he is at his optimum, pushing him may discourage him and unwittingly he may perform the opposite. You must also know the capacity of your child. So please try to be accommodating. Talk to him quietly and sensibly - tell him the options, the future, what he wants to make out of his life, his future. The options are wide, dont restrict your ambition for him by looking at the successful stories of society where $$ is the main and seems the only criteria of success. There are many other ways of measuring success.
2006-11-18 21:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 06:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Collaborative work is good. See if you can get him to study with friends who are doing well.
As a kid who never studied, I can vouch that a big problem many kids face is that they do not take school seriously, and so do not work hard.
The straight A students are not always the smart ones, but rather the ones who take school seriously and work hard. Collaborative work can help inspire your kid to change his attitude toward work - "hey, these other kids take school seriously, and they sorta depend on me. Maybe I should take it seriously too."
2006-11-18 21:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by maradonxp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs a different approach to memorization.. Reading it outloud and recording it too.. writing it down.. listening to the recording.. He may have a different way he learns and that could be boring him. If its truly lazy intellect or overly stimulated teenager, my dad used to punish us and wear us out by giving us alot of chores. Seems to have worked.
2006-11-18 22:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by GypsyKitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help to get him to study with someone else; other students or some adult that can meet him and read with him.
2006-11-18 21:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some1 he knows well and likes and get them to study with him and try to not 2 be harsh make it more fun gor him . x
2006-11-19 06:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋