I work overseas in asia and the middle east for extended periods of time. My wife wanted to leave me and was talking to another man online only as he is deployed to iraq. She stated for me just not to come home. I came home after a month of this goiing on for 3 weeks. The first week was fighting and *******, second week it was like we were happily separated and still screwing and the end of the third she was crying for me to come back to her. I dont understand how this even makes sence. Why would she do somthing like that. Shes never met him or seen him. Why would she want to leave and since shes saying she loves him why was she screwing me and writting to him while doing things to me? i dont understand ladies can you explain this to me because im lost with all of this
2006-11-18 21:02:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest with you I feel your wife still loves you and only reached for this other guy to chat with because of loneliness. I realize it's your job and your working to be able to have things for the two of you but at the same time I'm sure she misses having you around a lot. The other guy probably just said things to her that made her feel good inside. Sometimes when people are married for a while they stop saying little things that makes the other feel good. Then once you were back for a while she started getting those feelings back that made her fall in love with you in the first place. They probably have spoken intimate with each other so she probably feels she can't just let the guy go. That's why she probably still chats with him. Not saying its right cause you are her husband but only saying what I think is the case. I think you guys should think seriously about counseling if you want your marriage to work out. Since she'll have to decide to let the other guy go completely for it to work. good luck to you ;o).
2006-11-19 00:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl.Let me tell you 1 thing all ladies are not like that
In fact i am afraid what if my husband turns out to be a fraud
Your case is really diffrent.even i am not understanding why the hell is she doing like this.
If you feel she is just using you for some reason and wants you back for some reason then just leave her
First of al how could she talk to some man and that too love affair when she is already married
Think dear Because she doesnt seem to be loyal
2006-11-19 05:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is wrong.
You seem so nice to even try to figure her out instead of saying mean things about her.
Maybe she is confused, lonely, or she feels that you aren't there for her as often as she wishes.
If in that case, she should make up her mind and either commit, or break up first before moving on.
She shouldn't do what she did or say that she love the other man, then screw around still and linger with you...
I say move on.. but it's only my opinion. Take it or leave it.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-19 05:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by denh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me she was lonely and went off the deep end. You and her need to have a serious discussion about your life together and how it's going to work. Can you trust her again when you leave? Are there other issues that may have caused her to do something like this? My advice would be to start looking for a good marriage counselor, you two have a lot to sort out to save your marriage.
2006-11-19 07:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by LilRedHrdGrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs you in her bed everynight not saying good night or good bye on the phone everyday.It's different for women when we get lonely we need a warm body beside us at night.For you men all it takes is a female next to you any female will do.
2006-11-19 05:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't understand it either. As a married woman I wouldn't do something like that. She probably just got caught up in the fantasy. Just having a little fun doing what would seem is 'forbidden' to her. Good luck with that. God bless.
2006-11-19 05:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would personally have to say she is stupid.....But maybe she is having seperation issues and just wanted to get back at you, have her go see a Counselor and hope for the best especially if you love her
2006-11-19 05:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mariha E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She remembered how much she enjoyed you in bed.
2006-11-19 05:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she doesnt know what she wants
2006-11-19 05:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait..and see what happens...
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2006-11-19 05:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋