i've never ever have sex. and my marriage has been fixed. please tell me what to do and how to do? on whet site i can find some help?
2006-11-18 20:58:50 · 15 answers · asked by MAGGY@YAHOO.COM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry you have to have a fixed marriage. You could possibly try telling him that you don't want to consumate the marriage until you feel entirely comfortable with him. I have known a few people that have had fixed marriages and they have learned to love the person they were with. It has to be really hard not having a choice.
My best advice to you is to ask him to be patient with you. If he is a real man he will understand. Don't do anything you don't feel like doing. Everything should be your choice. When you feel like it's time make sure he knows that you need him to be gentle. He needs to respect every one of your wishes. If you need him to stop or slow down then tell him to. I pray for the best. God Bless.
In certain parts of the world there are still fixed marriages and believe it or not, the female in the fixed marriage, more often than not is a virgin. And their parents don't tell them what to expect. It's all about culture. I know what year it is but it still happens. It's a crap deal to me, but her parents obviously aren't American. All she really needs is for people to understand, not ridicule.
2006-11-18 21:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you have a girlfriend who is married that you could talk to? One who also had a fixed marriage? Much better to talk to someone of your own culture, because it is a pretty strange practice to Americans.
2006-11-19 08:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will fall in place you will know what to do love does it all,when you are married you can't do it wrong,that is great that you have never had sex.the two of you will learn together what each one likes and nobody in the world will know what is going on behind your door.that is special. there is nothing to be scared of .and your husband will love it knowing he is the first and only.men are scared to so y'all just do it there is no right or wrong way to having sex,but for the two of you it is not sex it is making "LOVE' VERY SPECIAL BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE!!! I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST IN YOUR MARRIAGE GOD BLESS P.S. TELL YOUR CHILDREN YOU LOVE THEM EVERYDAY AND BE THERE FOR THEM FOR THEY ARE VERY SPECIAL PEOPLE TOO!! ALSO TELL THEM ABOUT THE BIRDS AND THE BEES SO THEY DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH (SMILE AND BE HAPPY)
2006-11-19 05:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by donna_brown806 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need help figuring it out; just go for it. If all else fails, let the man take over; just tell him if he's doing something you don't like.
Generally, your partner will let you know what he wants. Just ask. Reading a website won't help you much, as sex is one of the few activities where practice really does make perfect.
2006-11-19 05:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by squarewaffle 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its pretty simple. Take all of your clothes off, get some KY jelly or sexual lubricant of some kind, lay down on the bed with your husband, put the lubricant on his penis and some on your vagina, open your legs and let your husband penetrate you with his penis. It will hurt like hell, but there is really no better way.
2006-11-19 05:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Paul S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Where are you from and why in the world would you want to marry someone you don't even no.If you are over 18 you can do what ever you want .
2006-11-19 05:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My god... what year is this?????? did you say your marriage was fixed??????? I didn't realize this was 2006....... oh wait it is.... don't marry the fool..... get a brain of your own and find the person of your dreams.... not someone Else's.....
2006-11-19 05:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by crimson_carnage 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The same as the rest of us hun, just keep repeating quietly to yourself, a new fridge freezer, a new cooker or whatever it is you've got your eye on, personally mines "Oh Mel Gibson, you're goooood" it works, honestly, hee hee hee.
2006-11-19 05:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Relax and let your husband show you the way. Tell him you are nervous if you want to and ask him to go slow with you.
2006-11-19 05:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ull learn in time, let him do the wrk for now, what you can do is watch porn u learn a lot from there, but dont worry ull b fine
2006-11-19 05:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋