Why i cannot get along with girls?

Question

I moved in USA from my country almost 2 years ago and i cannot get along with the girls here.Back in my country i have my girls that are like me and we love eachother like sisters.Still after being away they consider me on of their best friend.I'm open minded so the girls back in my country.We used to go in clubs and have a bunch of fun and made dance shows on the dance floor.Here girls just run away from me.Most of my friends are guys.Like tonight i went to this east eropean restaurant.I went with this group that are all from my country,but i get along with the guys.The guy that i use to dance whenever i'm going there started avoiding me after he found out that i have a bf,but i didn't took it with me because he doesn't like to be around ppl are smoking.The only girls were talking with me where the one who either were the youngest in the group like 15 years ( im 18) or either they didn't know anybody around.And with them i didn't have to much to discuss.The best jokes i were with guys

Than i realize some guys dont like me around either. In my classes is the same. The girls here are pretty different than i am. I have to girlfriends but i don't feel that confortable with them either. At school girls are nice with me because i have so many jokes and crazy stories, but is hard to have that kind of relationship with them like to talk with them on the phone hours and hours... and have sleep overs. i feel so alone. And i don't know what to do to have more girls around me ... i'm sick of guys...and evan with them ...most of them expect more after one point...so....

I'm pretty sure i'm not ugly... actually a lot of ppl told me that i look like Eva Mendez ...who is really hoooooooot...i'm not a nerd , i'm not a ***** , i'm a good advicer, i like to have a lot of fun , i have a crap of experience in life, and i don't behave like a stuck up person , just when i feel offended , because i'm a proud person and i don't let anybody hurt me no matter what.

Answer 1

Foreign girls are usually more comfortable and easy going than their American counterparts. You probably have a very strong presence that guys find attractive for many reasons... this inner confidence translates to girls (especially in this country) as a threat to their self esteem and ego issues; they probably see you as being conceited... The truth is girls are jealous and envy those who have the qualities and traits they wish they had themselves. Keep trying and eventually you will find true friends that value who you are and do not feel threatened by your personality. Sorry you are havong such a hard time finding some real home girls. Good luck!!! Remember, back home it may be easier to find fun loving friends, but here, because of all the media and self conscious negativity, real people are hard to find. Oh, as for the guys, some may confuse your strong personality a a "sexual advance", that's probably why that guy was into you until he found out you had a boy friend. Back home it may be acceptable to be cool with male friends regardless of loving relationships. Here, on the other hand, guys DO NOT like to get to close to another guy's girl because it either means you are trying to cheat on your man, or they are sneaky men who just like getting with other guy's girls. So, don't get too close to dudes unless your boyfreind is okay with it and it is understood it is just good fun between friends. Be yourself, don't change and I know you will find the true friends you seek!!! :-)

Answer 2

At work, every cool woman I've ever worked with says that they would FAR RATHER work with a man than with a woman.

Women can be under the radar mean, hunt in packs and have serious pecking orders.

Plus women NEVER forget the smallest slight, obsess on the most ridiculous things, and find great importance in things that are not.

No worries there are a great number of other "normal" cool chicks like yourself out there too... it's only a matter of time before you meet.

Answer 3

How come some guys can't get along with each other? There's no difference; most of the time it's either a personality conflict, or one did something to make the other mad.

Answer 4

You need to adjust to their culture. It's not easy being in a different country. You just have to be patient. But if the girls don't like you because you're not American or because, well, you're different, then don't worry about it. Find the right friends. You can't please everybody and you don't need many friends. Just a couple of friends who'll like you for you who are, and who'll respect your culture. Don't worry too much about it. If they act that way around you and you don't know why and you know you're not doing anything wrong, then screw them, they're not worth it. Just enjoy.

Answer 5

Because, girls are bitches. They are just mean. Guys like you for who you are. I get along with them so much better. I have girl friends but alot more guy friends. Just dont worry about it sweetie, theyre just jealous cause all the guys like you more.

Answer 6

Ever heard of "Opposites Attract?"


This goes for almost everything.


Good + Bad
Christian + Athiest
Boy + Girl
Black + White


If it's your opposite, you're going to be subconciously curious and be attracted to it.

Answer 7

Because the other girls feel ugly and stupid around you because you are so much cooler. You know what they don't know. You understand what they don't get. So they feel envy and avoid you so they don't feel bad about themself. Most girls are that way.

Answer 8

well many people have trouble making friends when they move to a new country !
maybe you should learn to be with yourself sometimes !
remeber tat no one will be with you forveer !
tc
all the best

Answer 9

I think it is a cultural difference and you have not adopted the values of relations here.

Answer 10

Only American girls can get along with American girls.

The best thing to do is nod, smile, and pretend you're paying attention to them.