I have this problem. Like extremely bad problem. He is a family friend (a cop) he is 12years younger then my mother. He likes me any all that stuff..well I got drunk with him. And I couldnt tell you what happened after that. I am 17yrs old. And he keeps asking how I am and acting like idk different around me. Then finally he was like you know you are awesome in bed. And stuff like that. He told me he didnt use a condom. And I am scared. What if I am pregnant with his child. What am I suppose to do? If I am how can I tell my mother?
And I have a feeling you all are going to be like well take a pregnance test before anything. Yeah, well what if it comes back positive. Huh? How do I explain to my parents that their friend is my baby's father?
2006-11-18 20:50:06 · 10 answers · asked by innocentbabiigurl5606 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i guess you should of thought about that before
17 years old is old enough to know better
2006-11-18 20:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by ahafner2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Well, even though you are 17 and technically old enough to know better, you are still significantly younger than this man who isn't much of a "family friend" for this to have even happened. If your parents are reasonable and not abusive people, they would understand and help you come to a decision about the pregnancy.
Even if you are not pregnant, you should tell your parents because this man needs to have it made clear to him that inappropriate sexual conduct with the inebriated teenage daughter of friends is unacceptable. He may have done this before or may do this again. You do not want that on your hands.
Good luck to you, and please be more cautious about the situations you put yourself in. I'm not blaming you in the least; but we girls have got to think ahead.
2006-11-18 21:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jojos Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother about the whole situation. Just go talk to her. I'm sure she will be upset, but not necessarily at you. Unless she doesn't have a reason to trust you, she will believe you. There are actions that can be taken against this man for his inappropriate (and possibly illegal) behavior. Your parents will only (I'm sure) want to help and protect you. Please go talk to you mom.
As far as possibly being pregnant. You are going to have to take a test to find out. You should also visit your doctor to get checked out for STDs. If you are pregnant, you are going to have some big decisions to make. This is where your mother will truly be an asset for you.
You will be in my thoughts. I am sorry that you are going through this. Please talk to your mother. Let your family support you right now. Best wishes and take care.
2006-11-18 21:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his Superior NOW what he's saying.
get a video camera with sound to put in your car, drive to where he is, start a conversation. let him bring up the facts.
if you are pregnant, he will loose his job and it will be difficult for him to find a new one. (little to no child support)
honey, if this is the truth, YOU WERE RAPED. i hate to be the one to tell you. but the truth hurts less than a lie. and it's easier to deal with than a lie.
have the panties you wore that night been washed yet? how about your clothing?
tell your parents what he's saying to you. BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER. if he could even be playing around with you about what happened that night, he's not a friend to your parents. a friend wouldn't do anything remotely close to this.
at your parents' ages, i can tell you from experience, they can do without some friends. at this age , it's ALL about FAMILY.
since you were raped, it's not your fault if you are pregnant. do what feels right to you. you have LOTS of options. (abortion;adoption , open or closed,; give the child to your parents to adopt or to raise until you are able; keep the child and raise the child yourself, or with the help of your parents; - lots of options.) and it seems to me like you might have a descent head on you. i have a suspicion you will make the right choice for you.
hope this helped.
2006-11-19 01:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by craina c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming the test is positive, you have to guess how your parents will react. If they will react badly (hurt you, lock you up, stop speaking to you, force you to do something you don't want to) then you should find a neutral group, like a counselor you trust, or planned parenthood, and explain the situation in detail to them. Then, try to talk to a good friend. Then calmly and carefully think about your future, his future, and the future of your potential baby.
But if you trust you parents, try to tell them (or one of them). And the family friend thing isn't really your problem--that might even make it better.
Be safe, and be smart.
2006-11-18 20:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the guy. Take care of you first. Get a pregnancy test if you feel you need to know but I also think you should tell someone like your mom... tell her you might have made a mistake and you need her help... she will be there for you. You have to tell because something is not right about this guy, and you feel that inside, dont you? Tell...... It will be alright..
2006-11-18 21:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by She Said 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, get an actuall test from a doctor to be sure. Then set down with your parents and tell them, after telling him. They will find out eventually, but it will be better coming from you. It will be tough, but after a little time passes, they will just have to except it. As a cop, he should have known better, with you being a minor. He is a disgrace.
2006-11-18 20:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by crashvander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to tell your parents about this so called "family friend" because what he did was wrong. you are not to blame for any of this. And do go get a test done just to make sure, then take it step by step from there. Your parents may get angry but they wont be angry at you they will be angry at themselves for letting this man into your life.
I hope things work out for you...
2006-11-19 04:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to relax first of all. maybe you are not pregnant. First of all:
Is your period late? If so, by how many dates?
Yes, if you are late, you have to put your mind at rest and get a home pregnancy test.
Maybe you are worrying for nothing. Good luck and lets us know how it goes.
2006-11-18 20:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh...17,...several years older...,got you drunk......;statutory rape, at the least.
You might want to contact a rape couselor
Ben thinking about it since I last posted to you. You say you don't remember anything. Is it possible he slipped you the date rape drug?
How do you tell your mom? "Mom, you know that friend of yours? Well.he's not a friend!..."
If you can't tell your mom, tell someone.
2006-11-18 21:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by fbbfh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋