Birth control and personal question?

Question

I first want to apologize if i might be posting in the wrong forum, but i had a question regarding sex and this seemed like the best place to get answers. Well my girlfriend and i are sexually active but all we use is a condom, and we both love each other very much but we dont plan to have a child til we're atleast 28. She wants to have sex without a condom, but i wanted to ask this community if we should do that, and if we do, how can we prevent pregnancy.I know there is birth control pills, but my girlfriend is concerned about whether there are side-effects and what they might be? Also i had a question about the morning after pill and if thats just taken the morning after having sex, or if it has to be taken regularly? Any other methods of birth control you may know about, or any information at all would be very helpful. thank you.

Answer 1

I wouldn't ever suggest having sex without a condom for the simple fact of STDs, but when fact comes to fact, people are going to do what they want. So here's my best answer hun.
Morning Afters are just that, morning afters to be taken within 48 hours. However, these are meant to be used infrequently. Since you are dating and will be having sex often, I don't know what the effects could be. Some people believe that taking them too frequently will reduce a woman's chances of concieving later in life.
I would, in ways of pills, suggest one of 3 brands. Ortho-Tricyclin Lo (I had an allergic reaction to a hormone is the plain Ortho-Tricyclin, and the only way to tell in terms of allergic reactions is to wait a week and see if she breaks out in hives, runs a fever, or begins to feel sick in general), Yaz, or Seasonel. I recommend these three because of multi-benefits. All three show low signs for any kind of side effects, plus are all very helpful when it comes to her Aunt Flow. These include a more predictable cycle, less bloating, fewer cramps and shorter menstruation. In fact, the last, Seasonel, allows her to healthily have only 4 periods a year. Only draw back to Seasonel however is that when you go to fill the prescription, it costs 3 times more than Yaz and Lo (in actuality, they cost the same but it works like this. Yaz and Lo cost $50 for a 28 day supply, but Seasonel comes in an 84 day supply, three times that of Yaz and Lo, so you pay $150 every 3 months compared to $50 every month)
But don't despair, there is also films, foams, NuvaRing, The Patch and The Shot. The most common film I find is the VCF, or Vaginal Controception Film, but be careful not to confuse it with its sister product, Vaginal Cleansing Film. How the film works is that she makes sure her hands are dry, takes the film from the package, folds it over her finger and inserts. Allow at least 15 minutes for the spermacidal film to melt but be sure not to have sex after 3 hours of her putting it in. As a helpful hint, I suggest that before you even kiss, she try one film alone. What I mean is insert the film and watch what happens for 6 hours. Some women can't adjust. My body spits it out before my partner can even get his pants off!
Foams, I've never used so just buy a can and read!
With NuvaRing, it's a once monthly vaginal insert. It's beasically just like the VCF, only it's infused with hormones in a much slower melting ring.
The patch is simple. Once a week, peel the old one off and slap a new one on. Just make sure it's in a discreet area of the body.
The shot is just what I called it, a shot. She just goes to her gynocologist or local Planned Parenthood and gets a dose. However, the shot carries a high chance of weight gain. Also, I can't remember if you renew your shot once a year or every six months.

But my personal favorite, the Naturalamb Condom. It's just like any old condom, but the material it's made from is different. It doesn't protect against STDs but it does defend against pregnancy. The condom itself is usually lubed and packaged like your average Trojan or LifeStyles, but the material is actually an organic membrane. This way, she feels the real you, the way you are supposed to be felt and vice versa. You can get them anywhere that sells condoms!

Hope I helped!

Oh, IUDs are a little complicated. They are most easily introduced to the body directly after GIVING BIRTH to prevent another pregnancy. They are in the shape of a T and are usually made of a metal or some type of hardened hormone. The hormone has to be replaced every year, while the metal has to be checked every year and changed at about every 5.

Answer 2

Birth control comes in various forms for a woman. The standard is the pill, but other forms include patches, and injections.

There are various types of birth control pills, with varying effects. None of these effects, however, are extremely noticable. There can be weight gain, or loss (again, nothing extreme at all), increased breast tenderness, and even (on the good side, depending on what type of pill) a decrease in acne breakouts. All in all, the pill is quite harmless, and will not be a burden to a woman taking it; aside from the hassle of remembering to take it everyday, but that's really not a big deal.

As far as the Morning After pill is concerned, it is a one-time pill, taken the morning after (hence the name) contraceptive may have failed (a condom breaking, she forgot to take her pills for a couple of days and you had sex, etc).

Have your girlfriend go to the local clinic (free clinic, if insurance is an issue), and she can get all the information she needs, as well as the contraceptive of her choice, after an exam.

Cheers.

Answer 3

I would suggest you use a condom at all times - as no birth control can be 100% effective.
There are several types of birth control - a coil fitted inside a female - an injection every few months for your partner, a female condom, the pill
With most things there are possibilities of side effects - but sex without a condom can result in STd's / pregnancy etc.. and if you both are not ready for this then you need to pick something!!
Go to your local family planning clinic - who can give you advice or see your GP
(Also, the Morning after pill - isnt for regular use - it is in case of accidents like the condom splitting etc.. and shouldnt be relyed on)

Answer 4

I have been very happily married for twenty years now, and have used various methods of birth control.
The best form of birth control we have used is the implanted type (we use Implanon, but there are others), it lasts for three years. Sort of a "set and forget" thing. It has been as successful as the pill in preventing pregnancy.

Stay away from the morning after pill, it is strong medicine, which is designed to have a damaging effect on the uterine lining, thats how it works. It was not designed for regular contraceptive use.

I would also stay away from Intrauterine devices, they are best used by women who have already had children.

Your girlfriend should be respected for not wanting to use condoms, sex is best without them (in my opinion). In a stable monogamous relationship, they can be a bit of a nuisance.

Or course, this is general advice only, but this method has worked very well for us, and if you don't want children for a few years, may also be ideal for you. Talk to your doctor for more specific advice.

Answer 5

Birth Control pills are generally lacking side effects. However, you can experienced lowered sex drive (Your hormones level out), and you may gain some weight (This is only until your body adjusts to the hormones).


I've been on birth control for a year now, and I've experienced a lower sex drive, however the reasons I was on birth control wasn't just for sex. Birth control helps ease cramps also, which is fantastic. :)


The Morning After Pill should *NOT* be used more than twice in a row. It is EXTREMELY hazardous, and she may even damage her body, rendering her sterile or damage her uterine lining where she will not be able to have children. It's called plan B for a reason.


If you want to have unprotected sex, use birth control. However, birth control is NOT 100% effective. She still may become pregnant.

Be smart. Use a condom.

Answer 6

ok the morning after pill is only to be taken the morning after.. An if you wanna wait awhile to have kids then the best thing she needs to get is a iud, its a small brass clamp like thing they put on you uteros in you there only like a 1% chance of getting pregnant.. An you can get a 5 year one or a 10 year one.. I have the 5 year one.. More an more they are finding out that birthcontrol pills are not safe... Its not painful at all an it only takes like 10 secs' for a dr to put it in... They are great so think about it.. But what ever you do please dont let her get the depo shot!!! An you know with a IUD you dont have to worry about taking a pill every day... Best of luck!!!

Answer 7

The morning after pill (taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex) is an EMERGENCY measure, it cannot be taken on a regular basis. It contains the same hormones as a months worth of ordinary pills. The safest method of birth control is pills. There are other methods such as IUD and a diaphragm but none are stastistically as safe as the pill...;

Answer 8

You should use a condom always to prevent disease. Unless you are BOTH faithful and have been tested. There are all sorts of types of contraceptives not just the pill. There are creams, nova-ring, the list goes on. The morning after pill is used to abort unwanted pregnancy. It is taken once after unprotected sex.

Answer 9

If she does not smoke, the pill is a very good choice. There is also the patch and the shot. She should go to her OB/GYN for a consult as to what method she would prefer. The side effects are usually rare.
The condom is also a safe bet assuming they are good quality.
I do not reccommend the morning after pill.

Answer 10

For the best information, search for your local planned parenthood office or website. They have very informative articles about birth control and risks.

If your up for it, you can go in with her to a dr. visit and the two of you can ask questions together.