is it wrong that i haven't visit my mom's grave since she dies 7 years ago?

Answer 1

My brother died almost 3 years ago. I haven't been to his grave since we buried him. Part of that is because it takes 10+/- hours to get there, part is because it took 6 months for me to quit crying every day, another year before I quit crying a few days a week. I'm not sure I am ready to go visit his grave yet.

Answer 2

Preferrably, you should visit her grave once a year, on her anniversary. Out of respect. At least be there, to place some of her favourite flowers and clean the area around her grave, keeping it tidy and clean. Then again, it's your choice. Think of the reason for you not to go visit. Is it because of a family feud? Resentment? Bitterness? Whatever it is, she's not around anymore, and it's your choice of whether you wanna let it go or not.

Answer 3

Losing your mom, that was a hard one. My mom died Jan 8, 1999, I was 26. I have never once gone to the mausoleum. I truly believe that i can talk to her anywhere. There is not a day that goes by I do not think of her or wish she was here. Sometimes that littlest things will make me think of her. Her body in a grave is not her spirit or soul, i do not believe there is anything wrong with not visiting her grave. You talk to her, or remember her anywhere.

Answer 4

No. Some people need a place to go to visit their loved ones after they pass on. Some don't. If you havent gone to visit your moms grave, it doesn't make you a bad person, it just means that you don't need to go to a certain place to remember and miss her. You can do that from anywhere

Answer 5

Each person has a way of dealing with death. No one person grieves the same way. If you are ok with not going to see your moms grave, then why are you asking this question? Sounds like to me you want to go see her grave. You might just feel better.
Take care

Answer 6

I'm sure it's OK with her. I have not been to my father's grave since the day of his funeral (14 yrs ago) I can't bring myself to look at the grave marker. Something about seeing it in writing, I'm guessing. I know that he doesn't care if I go to his grave or not. He knows I love him and miss him and I don't have to go to his grave to talk to him. Speak to her with your heart, she will hear you where ever you are. The grave is only holding her body not her soul. Did I help?

Answer 7

Of course not, visiting graves is only for making the living feel better and does nothing for the dead. Don't worry about it.

Answer 8

My father has been gone for 21 years...the last time I visited his gravesite was when we buried my mother 17 years ago. I have not gone back. I feel that we are spirits in host bodies and when we die, the spirit (and the personality) leaves the body and all that's left is a shell. It is not them. I know their spirits are around me all the time and I can talk to them whenever I want. They are not at their gravesite...they are right here next to me and in my heart. You can do the same with your mother...just talk to her like she's still around, because she is. Don't worry what others think about you not going to her gravesite...it's all a very personal decision and no one else has to understand your reasons.
Sorry to hear of your loss.

Answer 9

there is nothing wrong or right its your choice and you choose not to go... its not anyone else business to tell you that its wrong etc!! you have your own reasons why you did not go to her grave.... another thing going to her grave what would that signify?? that you miss her etc... its not what is outside seen by the world that matters its what you have inside of you that counts!!!
I personally have not talked or gone to my fathers grave in 15 years!! Going there means nothing to me... i know he is gone and is in a better place than me and i am happy for him!! we pick the best flowers for our self right.... just like god picks the best people for himself!!

Answer 10

I don't think its wrong, I haven't visited my uncle in 3 years. It just take some time.