Her 22yr daughter has been living in London since May. The daughter planned to come home to Australia for this week to surprise her mum for an early Xmas. I helped the daughter plan the big surprise. My friend is really angry with me for not telling her that her daughter was coming home and that I was the one to meet daughter at the airport. She says she will never forgive me. What did I do wrong? I thought friend would love the surprise. The daughter is devastated. Can anyone give me any ideas how to fix the mess. HELP
2006-11-18 20:09:12 · 12 answers · asked by jojammum48 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow...you tried to fix a nice surprise for your friend, you went way out of your way to do it, and now she's mad at you. you must feel like she kicked you in the stomach when you were expecting a hug.
First, give your friend some time to get over her shock. Just totally give her some time and distance away from you. You won't be able to reason with her anyway for a bit. Hopefully in time she'll begin to realize that both you and her daughter had only good intentions. Some people (like control freaks) don't like surprises. But really, I think she's the one who should fix this mess. You were only trying to do them both a favor. You could try telling her this when she's ready to listen. It probably wont' be very long before she regroups.
Hey, you sound like a great friend. If she doesn't appreciate you, I am sure many others would.
blessings,
cryllie
2006-11-18 20:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very silly on your friend's part not to see that you were only helping her daughter surprise her mom. Maybe she did not want to be surprised and prefered knowing that her daughter was going to come home so she could have planned and done things better. But then, you are not to be blamed for this. Try talking to your friend again, explaining that you thought you'd like the surprise planned by her daughter and you went with it hoping to make her happy. If she still rants about it, forget it. Get on with your day and work. Give her the space and time and let her talk it out with her daughter. If she truly considers you as her close friend, she will call you and talk to you sometime.
2006-11-19 04:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny how Friends act sometimes.I can' tell you that you didn't do anything wrong. For the simple fact that there are always two sides to a story. But I can tell you this, true Friends will always be friends no matter what comes between them.
All I can tell you is to talk to her. Tell her that you thought it would surprise her and she would be happy. Tell her that's all you were tring to do. That if you hurt her in anyway that you are sorry. Then from there it is all on your friend to do the right thing and say she is sorry as well.
let me know how it goes.
2006-11-19 04:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of hard to put in words. I say just ignore it,she'll forget about it soon enough. And as for the daughter maby you 2 could meet up and have her explain it to her so you both could make up or something like that.
2006-11-19 04:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kayla [(Adam)] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe how ungrateful she has been, what a cow........ Hopefully she'll come to her senses soon, for her daughters sake. I'm sorry that you are upset, but you didn't do anything wrong, try not to worry about it too much. She will properly sort herself out and I hope she apologizes to you, if she doesn't, don't worry, you don't need friends like that.
2006-11-19 04:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is being ridiculous. the whole point was for it to be a surprise. It was a nice gesture. You can only apologize; your friend has to take it from there. do not get caught up trying to make it up to her because then you're just playing her game. An apology simply for hurting her feelings, apparently, not for betraying her; because you didn't
2006-11-19 04:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd just apologize and never do a surprise for her again.
2006-11-19 04:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lady_Lavinia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she might me a bit JEALOUS of you and her daughter because you guys kindda left her out...let her cool a bit and hang out with her, talk to her, you know that kind of stuff till she
HAS to forgive you!
2006-11-19 04:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is just being really stupid if you ask me....i come on now that is really pathetic dont you think......
2006-11-19 04:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sit next to her and have a chat
2006-11-19 04:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Nadia A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋