i live in a state that doesn't recognize same sex marriages.
2006-11-18 19:37:00 · 9 answers · asked by kelleygaither2000 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Legally, you can't. In hospitals, for example, you mother would be the one to make the decisions for you when you become not capable of making them yourself. She can even say she doesn't want your life partner to visit you and your life partner would not be allowed to visit you while you were in the hospital until you were able to make your own decisions again.
2006-11-18 19:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by firerookie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what you are filling out that is requiring next of kin. Beneficiaries can be anyone you state you want them to be. Assets, however are a different story. You need to make sure you have a will, living trust and durable power of attorney. Next step, carry everything with you. If you are ever in a "next of kin" situation, you will have to prove that you and your partner both have durable power of attorney for each other. Best to check on the laws of your state and a estate planning attorney for more specifics.
2006-11-19 03:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by amexpro 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Paperwork, paperwork, paperwork. It all depends upon the laws in your state/country.
Most states have a step-down list of who is considered "next of kin." Usually it starts with spouse, then oldest adult child, then parents, then siblings, etc.
With Estate Planning Documents (Wills, Living Revocable Trusts), Advance Directives (providing you with the right to make choices about your end-of-life medical treatment. Include a hospital visitation clause so that your health care agent (whoever you name) will have the right to visit you in any area of the hospital) you can take steps to make it better than nothing.
However, parents can, and often do, sue to invalidate such claims. It's often a good idea to include your doctor, family, and priest/pastor in on your agreements to get their buy-in. Their word will go a long way should your family try to stop your written requests.
Contact a gay/gay-friendly lawyer in your area. If you live in a major metropolitan area, then you may have several to choose from. If you do not, look on-line for the nearest major metropolitan area in your state and seek their assistance.
The best of luck to you!
2006-11-19 07:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by yetanothergwm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the laws in your state but in Calif you may designate anyone as your power of attorney. They can make decisions for you if you are too sick to make your own. You may also make a life partner the recipient of you estate in a will. This will help protect any property you have acquired together.
Talk to a lawyer of social service agency in your area.
2006-11-19 04:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way that you can do this is with a power of attorney. Have one drawn up by a lawyer, and make sure that you have plenty of copies. If you travel, make sure to take a copy with you and to let your physician know. It is unfortunate, but people will most likely not take your word for it (like they would a heterosexual couple who says that they are married), so you have to try to cover all your bases.
2006-11-19 04:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jamir 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suppose hiring a lawyer to draw up a binding legal contract, making your partner your sole beneficiary and the person to be notified (next of kin) might be a first step
2006-11-19 03:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
speak to a lawyer. i don't think next of kin can be changed, but i think u can get someone to surpass that status. if your mom is really anti-gay, then u might want to hurry that process up
2006-11-19 04:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jessicat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to fill out the paperwork to have her become your durable power of attorney. this will grant her the rights to act on your behalf in case of emergencies etc. if youe search for the paperwork for your state through any search engine you should be able to find the paperwork for free, then all you have to do is fill them out and get them notarized.
2006-11-19 05:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by riot grrrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer to draw up the correct paperwork.
2006-11-19 05:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋