Is this letter good for my family in-laws as an apology for cheating on my husband?

Question

Dear family,

I know you guys are upset, and writing this letter is very difficult for me. I apologize for crossing the line by cheating, and can only imagine how angry you must be with me. Though sometimes a sorry can't fix everything, I am truly, deeply sorry for what I did, and promise never to repeat my mistake. My intentions are to spend my life trying to make it up to you guys and especially to him. I am ashamed as his wife and one of your family members for my actions and sincerely want to regain yours and his trust. you my not believe I deserve a secong chance with him, but I still ask that you please forgive me.

Sincerely,


Is this okay?

Answer 1

There are some spelling, punctuation and grammatical errors, but the intent sounds good.

The more important question is,.........Why do you owe them a letter, wouldn't it be better to talk to them? To my mind, a letter seems a little distant and "stand-off-ish"...... face to face talking is much more personal.

Plus, if you write a letter, they will have a piece of paper to hang onto, which they might wave at you in later years, or it might fall into the wrong person's hands..... for example - your child(ren)....... do you want to risk the existence of such a damning piece of evidence against you? I'd be much more inclined to just sit down and talk to them.

Answer 2

This is a good letter. You did not try to justify your cheating and I like that. Just some vocabulary mistakes, I have corrected below :

Dear family,

I know all of you are upset, and writing this letter is very difficult for me. I apologize for crossing the line by cheating, and know that you are very angry with me. Though sometimes an apology cannot fix everything, I am truly, deeply sorry for what I did, and promise never to repeat my mistake. My intentions are to spend my life trying to make it up to you guys and especially to him. I am ashamed as his wife and one of your family members for my actions and sincerely want to regain yours and his trust. You may not believe I deserve a secong chance with him, but I still ask that you please forgive me. I cherish the family ties that I have with you and him. I would like to have a happy family.

Sincerely,

Answer 3

Letter Of Apology For Cheating

Answer 4

Hi Jane, you indeed earn my respect in acknowledging your mistake as not much people in this world can live up to it and what you have done (letter of apology) does spell out your sincerity.

Not to worry much about how you should write your letter of apology, as it is the sincerity that matters. For me, I have chosen to face my in-laws and apologise for the mistake i have made (like you, I have cheated on my spouse), as i truly wants to prove my sincerity by facing them.

Two things to bare in mind and not to take for granted:
1) doesnt mean that we apologise, the other party must forgive.
2) doesnt mean that we apologise, the other party must forget.

Thus, have patience and put in your best efforts to prove your sincerity through actions. It may be tough in the beginning, but do not despair as your effort will definitely pay off.

"Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always perseveres. Love never fails"
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

PS: Frankly speaking, I dont see anything wrong in seeking the forgiveness from in-laws, though marriage is a union of 2, but it is the relationship that binds a marriage/family together and this relationship does not necessary only between you and your spouse, it can also comes from your immediate families, like parents and in-laws.

Answer 5

I think you have to be more sympethetic.. But honestly i dont think you will ever be able to regain theirs or your husbands trust again. By cheating on him that means you have lost all respect for him. There is never an excuse for cheating, why didnt you just break up with him if he wasnt giving you what you needed or even try talking it out with him. After you lose respect for the other person, they end up losing respect for you, there is no reason to cheat. and if you truly are sorry you should have a better letter then this. I'm sorry if I sound like I'm coming on too strong, I just dont believe in cheating, and neither does my husband. We made an agreement to tell each other if we felt that we werent giving each other something we needed and we were going to cheat on each other. Its something called respect and as long as you respect each other you will maintain a good relationship but once you lose that respect for one another you will spend a lifetime trying to regain it..

Answer 6

Why a letter?? I think it is a good idea to apologize to the family for the simple fact it is FAMILY. If you are truly sorry, you should first discuss aplogizing to them with your husband. Get his view on things. He might not want dirty laundry aired for everyone to give their opinion. If you still think you need to apologize, let him know the reason you would like to do so. Cheating is one thing within a marriage that is truly personal and whether people say it's none of your in-laws business is a mute point. Look at it from their point of view: if this were your brother who was cheated on, how would you overcome the feelings of betrayal to the entire family. I think it is a good idea to say sorry, but please discuss it with you husband first. Best of luck. Not to many people own up to their mistakes in life and it takes a bigger person to say "I'm sorry."

Answer 7

Sorry to declare yet i think of this is kind of your fault. Is your mom conscious that once she turn into speaking badly approximately your spouse you went and informed her each little thing your mom mentioned? because of the fact i think of this is the place all of it went undesirable. if your mom would not be conscious of which you probably did that then i'm able to verify why she is at a loss for words. even regardless of the undeniable fact that, that being mentioned your spouse is interior the the superb option all the way. i could advise writing a letter on your mom explaining the area and which you omit her and want issues have been distinctive yet do no longer take your mothers part only clarify which you omit her and which you such as you hadn't informed your spouse what she mentioned approximately her (no remember in case you advise it or no longer). you need to stand at the back of your spouse in this one. Does your spouse choose for an apology? could she be keen to forget approximately it ever ensue on the grounds which you mentioned your mom will never say sorry? ... there is often counseling

Answer 8

Personally, I would not involve them. You need to work through this with your husband first and foremost. If you go all out and are sincere, they will see this. I would not even discuss it with them unless it cannot be avoided. What could you possibly say to justify what you have done in their eyes?

If you send a letter like that to them you are only asking for more trouble. Your husband is probably having a hard enough time with all of this without all of his family being involved in it also.

Go to counseling - alone and/or with your husband. A good, family-oriented counselor can help guide you through this.

Answer 9

Why in heaven's name are you apologizing to your in-laws? It is not their business and if you do you will be in their power for the rest of your married life - that letter will always be over your head like the sword of Damocles. Who cares if they forgive you or not, it is your husband that matters here. Partners only cheat when there is something not quite right in a relationship so there is fault on both sides. I wish you luck but please think again about that letter.

Answer 10

Personally I don't like the idea of writing an apology letter let alone to my in laws. This is a matter that has to be dealt directly ( no letters) between your husband and yourself.