It all started a few weeks ago, he started hitting on me at work. But he's married! I am seriously starting to fall for him because he says sooo many nice things to me, it really makes me feel good about myself. I know, I know, don't fall for that kind of stuff, but I just can't help it. My bf of 4 years is completely not on the same page as I am, and I think that's what's drawing me to this guy. I have tried talking with my bf about my feelings and things like that, but of course, he doesn't seem to care. I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them and what they did.
2006-11-18 18:34:36 · 24 answers · asked by Honey_Bun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, of course he's saying nice things to you, he's trying to get in your pants.
Secondly, you are vulnerable to this garbage because you are in a failing relationship that you are afraid to deal with.
You need to handle what's going on with your boyfriend. If the relationship needs to end, end it.
As for Mr. Married..........how nice will it be when he tells you he will never leave his wife for you? How nice will it be when you spend all of your holidays home alone because Mr. Married has to be with his wife? How wonderful will you feel when he takes her on vacation and leaves you home alone? Won't it be great to lie to your friends and family about this relationship? Won't mom and dad be proud to find out your screwing a married man? Won't it be great to not be able to go to any social functions with him because he's afraid to be seen, and you have to protect him so you can protect your sleazy relationship?
Do you really have the ego to survive an assault on your heart like this? Think about it. You already KNOW he's a jerk, he wants to cheat on his wife. You think he'll be less of a jerk with you?
Stop playing with fire and throw some cold water on this thing before you end up getting burned. Trust me, he will not come to your rescue!
2006-11-19 00:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, leave the guy that is married alone. Afterall, if your looking for a man that says sweet things to you, you would want to be able to share it with him openly! Getting involved with a married anything only leads to alot of heartache, lies , and anger. If your current bf isn't paying you the attention you need.. Then I think it might be time to cruise the SINGLES dating scene. Why bother with a married man and start a relationship built on lies and deception? Also too, if you believe in karma, than you know what the saying is...and KARMA WILL COME AROUND. Think of how you would feel if you were that married woman and your beloved hubby was cheating on you...What makes you think he will not flirt with another woman once you and him get involved? There is just sooo many factors that I can tell you, but them again, you know better!!!! Otherwise you wouldn't be in here asking such a question if you knew it was a good idea. Good LUck and Happy Hunting:)
2006-11-18 18:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to bring a permission slip from his wife, with a phone # you can call to verify. Get rid of both these guys! One doesn't care enough to fix things, and the other, not only is he married, but if he is doing this now, he would do it with another if you were with him.
Is your generation falling apart? Kick your wanna be in the butt, and the married guy, kick him in the wallet! Make him buy you something real nice!
2006-11-18 18:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Dante_of_Phoenix 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The married guy is working you for the good stuff.. so when you "fall for him" just remember, your gonna get it! Married guy's know all the right things to say to slide you in the sack! Has he said he's thinking about leaving his wife yet? has he said, if I could only find someone to be with before I leave? Has he said I just don't want to be alone? If he was going to leave his wife then he would had left before he met you.. Don't be a freaken sucker!
2006-11-18 18:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by CHUCK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! complementing women does get you laid, even if she has a long term boyfriend and you are married. Sometimes the person answering the question learns more than the person asking the question.
Women also tend to question their boyfriends or husbands when another man comes along that they like. It's natural. It's funny how you think higher of a man who cheats on his wife(your not the first) than a boyfriend who doesn't give you complements on a constant basis so he can get laid.
2006-11-18 18:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you were this guys wife? How would you feel. Obviously this guy isn't all that you paint him out to be. He is borderline cheating on his wife with you and the same with you and your bf. If you and your bf aren't working end it. If you start something with the married guy dont be surprised if someday you walk out of work and run into his p issed off wife!
2006-11-18 18:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for a married man....a relationship started in cheating can never work anyway, and you may be contributing to the break up of a family. Stay away from him. You deserve someone who can give you their everything, don't settle for a piece.
2006-11-18 19:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ...sorry this has not happend to me. however i can tell you what i think.
I think you should not mess with that man at work. he is with some one and you need to sit down and have a real talk with your BF. he needs to listen. if you still feel the way you do after your lil talk then leave him. he will only hold you back. then move on and find a new life. good luck
2006-11-18 18:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying nice things does not mean that he is really a nice man. Just remember he is married. falling for a married man will lead you nowhere. Better stay off him and concentrate on your work and on your relationship with your bf.
2006-11-18 18:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, all the wonderful things about him that are attracting you to him will dissipate with time; it's a con, he wants to get laid. The fact that he shows such horrible disrespect to his wife should give you a clue what kind of man he is. I suggest you record one of his little flirting sessions and threaten to send it to his wife unless he quits doing this type of crap. Men and women like this are the reason humanity is going down the drain.
2006-11-18 19:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by sassy and evil 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋