i am married 5 years to a wonderful man. but been having an affair with my best g/f! after all the advise on here , i have decided to end it! how do i tell her i love my husband and it is over with us?
2006-11-18 18:08:34 · 19 answers · asked by sissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell her when she's cool n' calm.....n' quick!! say something like ' u're a great gf , i like u very much but unfortunately i gotta choose between u n' my hubby.....sorry but i can't leave my hubby.....i can't betray him.....u're awesome n' i'm sure u'll find a better one who loves u forever......don't take it personally......life is too short for u to grieve.....forget about me n' enjoy......just assume that we've never met.....good luck!!'
2006-11-18 18:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a wise choice and I'm hoping that your husband will forgive you. First of all you must explain that your marriage is more important to you then this cheating on the man you love. That you have chosen to work on the marriage and to stop this affair.
2006-11-19 02:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who sleeps with a married person has to no they are going to get hurt somewhere down the line.I think she knows it's coming and even if she doesn't you o her nothing. I feel sorry for your husband.You say he is a wonderful man, so why brake this mans heart and destroy your marriage. You sound like a very mean and selfish woman.
2006-11-19 02:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you have finally grown up enough to honor your commitments. Explain that a Marriage is a forever thing and that you have decided to honor it. Ending it won't be enough, you need to break off contact with her completely. Sometimes it's difficult to take the high road but there is no shame in it.
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2006-11-19 02:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by j.swaney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are going to work on your marriage. Cease all contact with her. Be prepared for the proverbial "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" response from her. She will try to ruin your marriage although you opened the door to that yourself and now must deal with the consequences.
2006-11-19 07:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just did it.Tell her I'm very sorry but I love my husband and it is over between you and I.Do it soon and get right to the point.Do not wait any longer and do not try to sound sweet.It may send the wrong message.It's best to be direct.
2006-11-19 02:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by brownifox2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love your husband and it has to be over between you two. What other way is there?
2006-11-19 02:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to dinner and tell her this cannot go on any longer i like her and all but i love my husband he;s more importment in my life for the sake of our marriage.......she'll prob get hurt and all good luck with her
2006-11-19 02:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by pisceslady a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to us,,,what do we know..have your cake and eat it too..what your husband dont know wont hurt him..but you also gotta tell your gf not to ever break up your relation with your husband , if she's cool with it then i say have fun...good luck
2006-11-19 04:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by having fun in life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just bring your best g/f home and into bed with you and your husband ?...
She could even have her own room if she wanted it....
Will they agree ??
2006-11-19 02:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋