preference is?? Why don't we "We Like to Be On Top" people have a parade? Or let's have a "Doggie-style" parade. I'm not homophobic at all. I just don't understand it? I've worked with gay folks for ten years and, my godson is gay. I knew he was gay before He knew he was gay. I asked him...why the world needs to know what 'gay' folk's sexual preference is and he, too, does not understand why some need to let the world know. He said, and I agree...."A sexual relationship is between two loving people that should be intimate between just the two of them...straight, bi, or gay". So...the rest of you...Why? It just seems you stress yourself out "Having" to tell....Mom, Dad, etc. Run Silent, Run Deep is my motto. My Mom or Dad have no idea what kind of sex I have....and they never will.
2006-11-18
18:07:47
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Your bottom line "Kaorin" is my point....
"The world should mind their own business".....but then some homosexuals make their "sexual preference" everyone's business.....and we don't care and don't want to know!?? So....then you throw it in everyone's face and say ..."mind your own business"....then don't make it our business!
2006-11-18
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Cookie, I know what your talking about. And I believe that the coming out experience for some people are much different than for others. Perhaps for some it was hard for them to be accepted at home, so they are out in public. Some actually hid for so many years that coming out is like a rebirth to them and their excited and it's like a new life for them. They can finally be free and not enslaved by being closeted any longer. I don't think that some homosexuals really care who we think they have sex with. They know that straight people have questions and some are very helpful in answering our questions. Yes I am straight. But I have a gay son. And I also have a straight son, that equals two great kids! What I can tell you is that it is a process that a family goes through. There are different stages that a gay person and their family goes through. And this is evident in their behavior when they become relaxed and can be themselves. I hope this helped abit. I am a PFLAG Mom. Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. If you had more questions you can email PFLAG and they will be more than happy to answer your question.
2006-11-18 18:23:49
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answered by ncamedtech 5
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Hi,
I am not a lesbian, I am as straight as can be, but....
I do have a lesbian friend, (only a friendship, never tried kissing, sleeping what ever with me). She is in a gay relationship and I am engaged with a handsome kind man.
Yes, I actually do agree with you. I don't mind if someone tells me: "Hey, I am gay". But why they have to Parade, wear disgusting clothes ext, I don't know. That is a good question. I don't see straight people doing parades, dressing up like someone from Alice in wonderland, screaming like a cheep prostitute that's got paid well, that I AM STRAIGHT!!!!
OK great so you are gay!!! AS A VERY GAY QUEEN SAY: THE SHOW MUST GO ON!!!!
I think the reason why people has got a problem with "gay pride" is because some guy people are just too loud, sometimes even look rediculous like (especially guys) they've got something stuck in their as*s, clinching their bum, giving teeny weeny steps. That is why! What I don't understand, why do they go for people with sexchanges.
Could a gay person please tell me that?
2006-11-21 01:25:36
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answered by poepies 4
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... first of all, it is NOT a preference; it is an ORIENTATION! F*CK! Why can't you people freaking get that correct!?! Grrr...
Secondly, why do we have celebrations for African Americans? Hispanics? Other cultures and not whites? BECAUSE WHITES ARE THE MAJORITY WHILE EVERYONE ELSE IS THE MINORITY! Same thing applies for this... heteros think, "Why must gays state that they're gay? I don't care! They don't have to 'flaunt' their lifestyle at us!" You people don't realize that we ARE the minority group in a predominantly straight society, and therefore we feel compelled to speak out. It's natural to want to have a say when you have a smaller population. Why is the Senate there? So that everyone in the US has equal representation of two people, which is NOT based on the size of each state like the House is. Duh.
Thirdly, we're open-minded people. Do you conservatives not get that? It's why we're LIBERAL. We're already labeled the "alternative lifestyle group," so why not just be completely open with it and accept everything? I definitely do not think that I should have to mask the fact that I'm omnisexual or any of my turn-ons. If you don't like that, don't read about it. Simple as that.
Finally, if you're not gay, then don't even START on the family crap. You don't know the pressure of having to tell someone close to you that your own sex turns you on because you're just a happy breeder, aren't you?
2006-11-18 18:19:49
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answered by Anonymous
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Why do some straight people have to let the whole world know what *their* sexual preference is?
And, yes, it happens. All the time, every day. Walk through the mall; you'll see heterosexual couples holding hands, hanging on each other, kissing, hugging, etc. Gay people actually flaunt their sexuality much less frequently than straight people do. You only think they do it more because you notice it.
Sexuality is such a big part of a person; it's only natural that someone would want to share that large part of himself (or herself) with those he (or she) loves.
And, while you may not think of yourself as homophobic "at all", the fact you asked the question (and your wording) belies a small "homophobic" core. If your question were to have been truly neutral and non-homophobic it should have been phrased something along the lines of, "Why do some people have to let the world.....". It also would have brought up the straight men and women who do the same thing.
Please don't think I'm attacking you; that isn't my intention. I only intend to get you to think a little more objectively about your own feelings.
2006-11-18 18:43:21
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answered by BubbaB 4
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It's because of the oppressive nature of social expectations. 'Straight' is the socially accepted default - if I meet someone, they assume I'm straight. They ask about my boyfriend or husband, since I am a woman. In my case, I'm straight. But if you're gay then it becomes really annoying to tell people that you have a SO of the same gender, or that you're still looking for the right one. Over time, that can lead to frustration and anger at always being marginalized and treated differently, like a second class citizen, or less of a person. Some react by flaunting it, shouting to the world that they are gay and proud of it. They hope to force the world to acknowledge them and their orientation and their lives instead of just meekly hiding and accepting being treated like pariahs. Hopefully a day will come when this isn't necessary, when everyone can be equally accepted. For now, there's still work to be done.
2006-11-18 19:06:11
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answered by Rose D 7
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Why do some heterosexuals have to let the world know what their sexual preference is?
Some people (gay or straight) like expressing their feelings to their loving ones even in the presence of other people.
If a woman accepts a marriage proposal then her husband-to-be would want to hug and kiss her. Do you blame them? It's the same with gay people. Everyone wants to express their feelings without considering what others think.
2006-11-18 21:51:00
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answered by The Greek Guy 3
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Gay people don't tell their parents what their sex life is like, tey tell them what their sexual preference is. Just lik you parents 'assume' you are straight. I think that if you love your parents, you will tell them if you believe you are gay or a lesbian. It's a respect thing.
And I'm all for Gay Pride parades. I think it's fantastic they have the confidence and spirit to not care what the world thinks! (Not that the world should think anything, the world should mind their business)
2006-11-18 18:12:13
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answered by Anonymous
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You do not need to tell anyone that you are attracted to the opposite sex, since everyone assumes that you are.
You do not get asked:
How is your wife?
How is your children?
etc
I need a parade to make people like you aware that there are people like me. EVEN though you have worked with gay folks for ten years. If you do not know by now why someone needs to come out, you never will.
2006-11-18 20:39:29
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answered by Anonymous
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This is more than just a simple let the world know we are gay thing. It has to do with oppression. Think about every race, creed, sex, country. Everyone has something to voice their opinion about sometimes to the point it becomes overstating the obivous. I agree somewhat with you, but in that we must accept everyone's oppressions the same whether it be slavery, persecution, or just blind hatred. Only a heart filled with hatred is blind to the world.
2006-11-18 18:15:47
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answered by jls1znv9999 4
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The term is "sexual orientation". "Preference" sounds like something you can change at a moments notice.
What is your "sexual preference"? Is it a passing phase?
Straights are always flaunting their heterosexuality. Look at almost any TV show or movie and you see them pawing all over the opposite sex. We as gays simply want to be distinguished from you straight guys.
2006-11-18 20:07:41
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answered by San Diego Art Nut 6
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