deep long friend help please help?

Question

i had a slight arguement with my friend today. Where she offered me a ride home and i wouldnt take it
she wanted to know why i wouldnt take it and why i push people away
i basically told her that she never has to worry about me
shes says that she just wants to help and cares that if i ever needed her she was there

then she sent me an email saying this

I just wanted to apologize for how hard I pushed you tonight. I had absolutely no right to butt into your personal buisness like I did. I hope that you can forgive me. Just please understand that it hurts me so much to see my friends in pain. And no, you are not "dragging me down" and yes, I do care, and I care on my own free will. I'm truly greatful that you accepted my offer for the ride because you live a long ways away. Know this: if you need me, I'm here for you...and I know Will is too. You've helped me so much in the past, I wouldn't be as happy as I am now if it weren't for you...so please let me do something for you in return. Even if what you is for me to stay away now, I will. I apologize again. Good night mon ami.

Your friend
Christa

so then i sent her this

i saying this as softly as I can

your not sorry ok

you did nothing wrong

im going to say it again

you did absolutely nothing wrong

its me Christa

i always pushed away its come from my experiences

its the way ive been brought up

I wont ask anyone for a dollar, i wont ask anyone for a ride its just the way i am

if i had to walk 3 miles out of my way to help you or anyone else out i would because that was never done for me


I truly appreciate the care you give and what you both did tonight

its just i never had that before i never had that caring

i didnt know how to react



if you want to know whats really going on with me right now i would tell you


i dont want anything in return as far as im concered i didnt do anything for you that you wouldnt do for me


i just want you to be yourself

thats it


i want you to laugh at my jokes when you think there funny i want you to smile when you want to smile

watching you or anyone else laugh because of something i did or said gives me more than you could imagine


Christa i know you still dont want to hear this

im the last person you ever need to worry about

i think its spectacular how you care after i say that

ill find my way through anything ill go over anybody

I would never hurt you.

i would never tell you to go away ever

im sorry for what happenend. Ill take responsiblity.

thank you Christa you gave me something i never had.

if you ever need me for anything im right here
ill always your shoulder to fall back on

shes read it and she hasnt replied back so what i want to know is did i do anything wrong is she angry what can i do to make this right or have i already made it right

Answer 1

You have to let her care about you and worry about you. I am her only not her. I have a friend who is going through a very difficult time right now and I can't stop caring and worrying. I don't want to stop. I've never had someone who I cared about so much before in my life. I know the potential happy person he could be and I want to see him through his troubled time and see him happy.

Right now, I think Christa is probably sad. You have to let her care and you have to tell her - in person - that you are so happy to have her in your life and have her give a damn about you. "if you need me, I'm here for you" means she WANTS to be there for you. Please let her. I would go to hell and back for my friend, let her do the same for you.

Answer 2

She is taking it all in. Let her be. As for you, and your email to her, you are long winded and repeatitive. And yet, did NOT tell her what was bothering you. Which, to many, makes you selfish.
She will get back to you within 48 hours. And if she asks again, ttell her, the truth.

Answer 3

I know that is not easy for you to express your feelings face to face but i think you should do it. believe me... is not that she's mad at you right now is just that she's really sad because she likes you and alot. and you don't want her help or she feels that you don't want her close to you. But you have to understand that is not easy for her, but you already made it right.

Answer 4

I would say she probably keeled over trying to read that mess you wrote, which is nearly unintelligible.