I was involved with a married person before. I admit it was a big mistake and I know I was stupid. Anyways, he migrated halfway across the world and I was left here which I think is a good thing. We need to be separated anyway. However, I really get very lonely sometimes and feel very bad. I guess I need some good advise or any senseful opinion as how to move on.
2006-11-18 17:40:48 · 9 answers · asked by Fireworks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When we are in love with someone, we believe everything they tell us. We believe they are really in love with us and logic seems to go out the window. You are not alone and it doesnt matter how old you get you still fall victim to love. It is a good thing I reckon...if we mistrusted everyone we met and everyone who ever said anything nice about us, we would be pretty paranoid people. You have to believe, you have to trust. This one experience doesnt mean to say you are stupid, it means you believed his words of love. Gee, I am in your position right now. I have it in the back of my head that he will never leave his wife, but I continue to believe he loves me. I also am keeping it in the back of my mind that love is blind. I dont know what the future holds but I refuse to blame myself or to beat myself up over believing that someone loves me. I felt it, I believed it and I dont think there is anything wrong with that. How to move on is a different matter. It is so hard to move on from someone you love and I guess the only answer I have is self control. When you want to contact him, dont. When you think of how lonely you are without him, think about his negative points.. Think about all the bad things you possibly can think about him and I guarantee you wont stay lonely for long. Nothing stays the same. You dont know what or who is around the next corner. You can hang onto this love or you can think positively and look forward to the next phase of your life....wondering who is waiting for you around your corner. If you were in love with this man and it felt good, just imagine how much better it is going to be when you meet someone better, and there is obviously someone better...someone who is going to love you exclusively, someone you dont have to share....someone you can believe in 100 percent. He is out there, so dont be lonely for too long because you could miss out on the real love of your life.
2006-11-18 18:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you already beat yourself up enough about even see him or dating a married man and now that you have been through that and understand you don't wish to ever put your trust into some that can't even be true to his self In his marriage....Marriage is a very deep thing and not being a devoted person to his wife there is no way he would be all that to you ..Not just him but anyone that is married lady or man .So now go on and get a real person that is not a person to lie and say things to you just to keep you around for his self.But please don't give any person the time of day that is married.That is not a man.You should want better 1st for yourself and you will find him...He is not worth you feeling bad and lonely over,That's for sure.
I have a single brother 42 and a very good person.....
Get out even if its just "For You"
2006-11-19 02:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself first. Start doing the things that you enjoy the most - make them healthy. They try a few new things to see if you enjoy them. Start exercising, join a club of some sort, do volunteer work. You will meet other people who enjoy doing the things that you enjoy and that give you a bond - a common element to begin a relationship.
Good Luck
2006-11-19 01:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by FortyLoveTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should start going on dates with other guys. i dont mean you have to jump into a serious relationship, but going on a few casual dates will help you move on. another thing to do that will not only help you meet new guys, but also be something for you, is to join groups of things you enjoy. (such as taking painting classes, volunteering, bowling league... whatever you like to do)
2006-11-19 01:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well........... take a look at your career - do you want improve your financial situation. or try volunteer work in ur freetime.
or sign up at a fitness club - and work out every day - work on having a sexier body(howss that for motivation?)
or try helping poor people.
or do this -- write down 5 things which you would want to do in 5 yrs time and write 5 things which could make you achieve each of them and work ur way up.
2006-11-19 01:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We watch fireworks every NEW YEAR. Each one is different because each one goes off at a different angle, time, size, color, combination with others.
So, change y our wardrobe, eating tastes, furniture arrangement, way to work, restaurant, grocery, and mutual friends.
Find new channels for your passion in arts, service, etc.
Repeat the mantra: "I distinctly remember choosing a new life." every time he comes to mind.
2006-11-19 02:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always date other men, preferably single men, but keep in mind that just because you have someone in your life it doesn't necessarily mean this will cure your loneliness. Your state of mind is something you are solely responsible for.
2006-11-19 01:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you just gotta move on with your life..get to go places and meet new ppl..you will meet someone else who loves you and that you love...a time for yourslef is a good thing..with no relationship..you become your own person..and become very independant..it will do you good.
2006-11-19 01:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you learned from your mistake- so go on- and forget it- move on- get busy- that will help-D
2006-11-19 01:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋