So, I've never really danced that often, and I've kind of assumed that I can't dance, but my girlfriend, who I love dearly and have known for a long time, loves to go clubbing, and she's expressed an interest in going with me. I want to share this part of her life with her, but she's a great dancer, I am not, and while I know that she will love me even if I don't dance well, I don't want to embarrass her or make an *** out of myself. Mind you, confidence is not an issue--when I dance, I do it confidently, but I'm not so sure it looks good, ya know? So, what do I do?
2006-11-18 17:30:53 · 15 answers · asked by Agnosticasaurus Rex 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
Just go. Dance really close to her, and no one will know the difference. Trust me, no one is watching you dance, so don't feel self conscious. Your girlfriend loves you, so she won't be judging you. She'll just be happy you're there.
But if worse comes to worse, our good pal Jack Daniels can give you a little bit more liquid courage.
2006-11-18 17:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay - I was in the same situation and here's what I did...
Find a place where you can turn on some music and dance by yourself without having to worry about anyone watching.
Then you need to simply dance - it will feel odd and uncomfortable at first, but trust me - keep dancing. Force yourself to dance for a minimum amount of time, like 10 minutes or so.
Do whatever feels good. Try inventing some steps. Turn the music up a little - if a mirror is around DON'T LOOK AT IT until you reach the point where you feel comfortable.
What will happen is your natural rhythm will take over and you'll begin moving with the music instead of thinking about how you look or whether you're dancing "right". Dancing is an inner thing - it is best when you feel free to move with the music.
Try it - I went most of my life afraid to dance and now it's one of my favorite things to do.
2006-11-19 05:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what a jive club is, but this is the kind of stuff that makes a sidcom. Ha, ha. Anyway, if it's old fashioned dancing like, you can look up western swing dancing. It's easy and impressive, just ask someone else to practice with you. I learned it in about 30 min. Good luck.
2016-05-22 02:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Nedra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your girlfriend who you have "known for a long time" knows you aren't the best dancer...yet, she loves you anyway! (Or she would never have asked you). Sometimes it's not so much about the dancing as it is about dressing up, going out, and spending time together.
Clubs are generally packed tight, dark, and full of energy. No one is going to be staring at you...trust me....there's too much happening in clubs for one person to stand out.
Buy a drink to loosen up, get out there, and have a great time. You'll enjoy yourself I'm sure.
If you're really concerned, then the two of you should dance at home before you go out so you can loosen up more.
2006-11-18 18:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go take some dance lessons on your own then try clubbing on your own to see if you can dance well and women are impressed before you knock her out with your dancing skills.
Women think good dancers are sexy
2006-11-18 17:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just move. Try to make it look like youre dancing. Try dance classes too.
2006-11-18 17:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first calm down dance is fun and its better if you just go with it.Now for some practical advise
1) stand up straight ,feet shoulder length apart
(you should play something in the background music that you enjoy ie;if im happy i listen to green day)
2)start rocking side to side in time with the music....relax your shoulders move from your hips.
3)if you like take small side steps again in time with the music and just relax and feel it.
Oh and if you get stuck watch "hitch" were will smith teachs albert to dance,good luck x
2006-11-19 09:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by glitter kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares. If you say you have the confidence then it probably looks alright unless you're trying to breakdance/pop and lock/ etc. and you have no clue at what you're doing.
I guess you can always look at your dancing as a balancing act. If she is really good than it would balance your so-so skills. :)
2006-11-18 17:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by drdrewo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come up with a dance that u can do to any type of song. and just lean back and basically let her do most of the dancing since she loves it so much. all u should have to do is back her butt up. you better go with her clubing cause she will leave your butt at home and find someone else.
2006-11-18 17:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by giggles19120 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Try. Pay attention. That's all.
Let's say you love football, and she knows nothing about it. Do you want her to avoid it because you might be offended if she asks why there is only one quarterback but two full backs?? Or why the kicker wears two different shoes? No, you would like that she tried.
She will like that you try.
2006-11-18 17:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by onenonblonde 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋