my husbands cousin is so clueless. he is 18, been in this country since he was like 5. he comes over and stays the night a lot. sometimes he won't even call and just show up to hang out with my husband. he will go digging through the fridge and he has a big appetite! if he needs something from my husbands closet, like for example, a t-shirt, he'll just go right in there and get it. I wouldn't mind it as much but i have my undergarments in the same closet. he once decided that he wanted to watch a movie i had in my tv so i walk in and he's laying on my bed watching tv.i have told my husband that i don't feel comfortable with others in my room but he tells me i'm just being paranoid. this is a normal thing in his culture but why does he not respect my wishes. i'm too nice of a person to say anything to him i feel bad because the boy is nice but GET A CLUE MAN! how do you think i should handle this!?
2006-11-18 17:27:36 · 13 answers · asked by adam's_mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would lock my door but i lost the key and that door is impossible to open w/o a key! he thinks i'm cool with everything cuz i'm only 25 so he thinks we're buddies. i think i'd look dumb if i didn't say anything for so long and now i'm gonna say something. (Been married 2 1/2 years). also, he lives w/ his folks like 15 mins from me and he's always coming over here for dinner, when its hard enough for me to make dinner all the time with a newborn baby around!
2006-11-18 17:35:33 · update #1
put a lock on your bedroom door - lock the door when the cousin is around, when he tries to go into your bedroom and the door won't open he'll get it.
2006-11-18 17:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband into therapy with you and the therapist will tell him to shape up or you will pack and leave.
What this cousin is doing is disrespecting you, and I'd have placed up and left a long time ago. It can only get worse.
2006-11-18 17:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convey the gravity of it to your husband. He should be the one to deal with it (because it is his cousin). Being 'too nice' is an easy way to build resentment. Just a thought, good luck!
2006-11-18 17:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was u i would have a little conversation with my husband dont exploide in his face just tell him how u feel and be calm dont talk loud just tell him exactly how u feel and i hope he understands. also his cuzin is his cuzin so hes probably used to doing these types of things. just ask ur husband if he could talk to him about it.
2006-11-18 17:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get a clue you have to give one. Express yourself and set the limits. I think the kid might have a thing for you.
2006-11-18 17:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy but be firm and say no more. Tell him this behaviuor is unnacceptable and you don't like others in your room (which I couldn't blame you for neither do i) and remember to stand your ground
2006-11-18 17:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by whay i lost my ?s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're suited, this is rude. and that i assume she plans to decrease and serve it publicly. that should come off to watchers/travellers as Naa naa, we've cake and you do no longer. Very juvenile. and clueless, or thoughtless. One wedding ceremony i grew to become into at had champagne for the marriage party, made a gigantic deal of having specific flutes for it and having people watch the internal maximum toasts, yet that grew to become into rude too. If everybody had champagne, and that they only picked an costly one for the top table, great. great, have a sprint fancy cake to decrease, and get a sheet cake from the grocery for each individual else. yet cookies? Gee, adorned ones from the bakery might fee as much as a sheet cake. must you become in touch? relies upon on her, if she is often open to techniques. And do locate out what form of cookies, get her to enable you to already know her plans approximately them, and consistent with threat in case you tutor her that they could be costly... in spite of everything, she needs your help on account which you have been there, executed that. it form of feels to me particularly you tell her, or no longer, it ought to come again on you. She ought to come again with "why did no longer you tell me?" as nicely as being mad in case you do. And in case you will locate something in a omit Manners form of internet site or e book that mentions an "A" record menu, that should help. in any different case that's her wedding ceremony, and you ought to maintain your nostril out of the cake/cookie project. yet don't be indignant or slighted at no longer even getting a bite of cake on your project. Serving foodstuff on the reception isn't a reward to travellers for delivers or help, it particularly is the act of breaking bread with the bride and groom to honor them. If people particularly won't be able to deal with to pay for a great party, it is not disrepectful to travellers to do the terrific you are able to. in simple terms no "A" record menus or cakes. this isn't fifteenth century feudal Scotland, and the common of the foodstuff a individual is served isn't desperate via their rank or the proximity of the table they're sitting at to the Laird and his bride. good success with your determination.
2016-10-22 08:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and explain to him why you find it disrespectful. If he is a jerk about it, dont let him in your house again!
2006-11-18 17:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a guy... Tel him you dont like him doing it.
2006-11-18 17:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you should confront him. Tell him that its your house, and set limits.
2006-11-18 17:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋