Depressed from all of this?

Question

Have any of you ever masturbated and thought about a step dad or any family member? I feel really depressed about it. I did it like 1-2 years ago. One of my friends told me she did it too and some people tell me it is very wrong to do and some say it is normal. I did stuff with my cousin (a girl also) about 1 yr. ago and before that too but i realize now it's nasty and i guess i never really thought about it. I hear alot of people especially mostly girls do things like that when they are around that age. I am 17. I did stuff with her for awhile and stopped about 1 year ago because i am so depressed from that and actually having those thoughts. If you don't want to admit it here because it's not something you tell people then you can email me.

Answer 1

why would you tell people about that? i don't know, that seems so weird to me i guess because in my family, no one every wanted to hear about my "problems" and i ended up not caring about anyone else's which is probably why i couldn't keep a lot of my friends, my sister got so fustrated with me, i think my mother and a don't like each other as much and i disliked my brother a lot. i usually hate sympathizing with people and i hate even more faking thinkgs but i'm used to that. i guess there might be something weird about me for thinking like i do and sometimes acting so mechanical. it sometimes weirds me out but c'est la vie, there's nothing i can do about it so i let my life take on its natural course...you probably shouldn't listen to anything i say but you sould try and talk to someone about it but you might end up crazy because you feel guilty or something, idk do whatever you think is right. you should listen and consider what people tell you but you should never do what they tell you. think for yourself.

Answer 2

This doesn't make you a bad person, or a sinner, and it certainly won't "destroy" you. Don't listen to that crap.

Incestuous desires can actually be a genetic trait passed on through family members. Of course, it could also be a socialized thing you've experienced. The cause isn't so important, as much as how you deal with it. Our society looks down on this sorta thing, and always has--so, it's natural to feel guilty and depressed about it. You're going against the grain. While I would like to say that this is okay, and you should accept who you are, due to such adverse effects it could have in your future if it comes out to others, it should be corrected. It's not a short process, but you have to control it--or at least keep it secret, as long as you can control the negative feelings you experience as a result. The actions are easy enough to stop if you have the will power for it. If this is a serious problem for you, you should have the ability to stop it. The thoughts and fantasies are a little harder, because sometimes it's hard to control what we think, especially when in such a passionate mindset. Again, it's a matter of will--or distraction. Keep yourself busy, distract yourself from even masturbating however you can. Hobbies, friends, work--whatever. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Jessica there is nothing "normal" about sexually yearning a family member. To carry it out even to masturbation u spiritually commited sex with that person without their knowledge u spiritually raped them. Imagine how many times predators do the same thing until they carry out their fantasies. Please seek help immediately. U have some underlying feelings or notions that could carry u to the point of self destruction because u know in ur heart u r and have done the wrong thing. Pls see someone in the mental health system and don't let it go on for too longer. It will destroy u eventually. It almost did me.

Answer 4

It's understandable at your age, because the teenage sex drive is rather strong, but you're building the habits that you'll have the rest of your life. If you have thoughts that you don't want to have, then don't give into them.

Answer 5

Listen to me ok, It is ok to have these fantasies most younger younger adult go thru this also utilizing members of their family, But as long as you keep these felling and thoughts in realm of fantasy and not try to act them out in the realm of reality. You will grow out of it and turn to non family members to work out your sexual frustration.

Answer 6

Sounds like you are having issues with feelings of guilt and that's not healthy. You are just a normal teenager going through one of the most difficult stages of your life.