We haven't had sex for 3 weeks.Previous to that it had been 3 months.I come on to him and try to get him interested,but it doesn't work.He even gets a little irritated sometimes with me.I usually end up just sitting up late and crying.I feel like just leaving sometimes.Please help!
2006-11-18 17:11:14 · 31 answers · asked by brownifox2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to talk to him about this. The key to a good relationship is COMMUNICATION!
You need to tell him this has got to stop, or you will need to move on from him. You MUST tell him how you feel, and you have to both come to a conclusion on what to do.
Don't lsiten to the people who will answer and tell you to get rid of him. You need to talk about this with him, and maybe get couples therapy. Perhaps he is even depressed?
- Hope this helps
2006-11-18 17:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-21 08:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Eunice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obsessed with the fakeness in porn. Porn is so stupid. It just makes men have unrealistic expectations from their wives. I find porn degrading. Do they ever stop to wonder why someone has choose such degrading profession. The people in porn usually have had a very sad and troubled past. I just heard on the news that a young woman in porn commited suicide and left her young infeant son motherless. Porn is sickening and very sad. The people performing it and watching really need to take step back and think.
2006-11-18 18:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your hubby is a sex addict. Believe me, this is not a life that you want to live with him. You should go to the website for Sex Addicts Anonymous. They have a little questionaire and lots of links for the wives or significant others of SA's. You need to talk with him and start working on this problem immediately or you will be miserable because his behaviors will only increase as he gets more mired down in his addiction. Next it'll be cheating and sneaking and lying to you about everything. This addiction will do as much damage to your marriage and family as if you found out that he was addicted to crack. Do something now before it's too late.
2006-11-19 04:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by You know who i am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know....it is sad to say, but I think it's just a guy thing--like those little toys cavemen have. That's why there are so many porns nowadays. Porn customers are worldwide.
In your situation, I think you guys need counceling since he has ignore you. This isn't right. I mean I think it's okay for guys to watch porns, but if he becomes addicted and shows no interest in you at all, there is something going on. Ask him to go to a councelor with you. If he refuses, you can go alone and go from there.
2006-11-18 17:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well then u have a huge problem. look talk with him and tell him why he wont have sex with you and whatz with the porn. maybe hes feeling bored in bed so try spicing it up a little. change positions that way itz not the same thing all the time. if hes still not having sex with you and is still looking at porn get him some help because it can lead him to become obsessed with it, and that wont be good in a relationship.
2006-11-18 17:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll be very honest with you!!
Your situation is a little scarey in my oppinion..
He is obviously 'sick', and I'm not saying this in a mean or crude way. You don't mention age, health or having any kids, so I'm
assuming you're still young and healthy, no kids either.
But regardless, any man who lacks interest in sex with his wife,
yet looks at porn every day,(or even once a week) has something
else going on. He's either screwing around, or prefers 'self
satisfaction' (masterbation) than having sex with you.
Either way, something is 'very, very' wrong with this picture..
Try talking to him and see what happens..
2006-11-18 17:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some major issues. It may have nothing to do with YOU but sounds like it's his problem. It's not normal. Sure some guys like porn in addition to being with their wives or like to watch it with their wives. But sounds like he is more in thralled with the porn than grounded in the relationship and reality. Talk to him. Tell him you are frustrated and it is so serious you are thinking of ending the relationship. I would suggest counseling. If he won't go then YOU need to go. And you might need a marriage counselor who also does couples sex therapy, because there is more beneath the surface with him than just relationship problems.
Even if you don't stay I would seek therapy because he has hurt you deeply and that needs to be addressed.
2006-11-18 17:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Guinness Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how that feels...try something completely out there. What type of porn is he into? Pay attention to any reoccuring themes. (leather, S/M, nurse uniforms, whatever) If it is something you can do, or dress up as, try it. Surprise him. Be a dirty slut for the night, if that is what he wants. At least you will be taking action, and that will help. If he doesn't respond to that, you need to sit down and talk. You deserve to be treated well. Not ignored.
2006-11-18 17:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by tankgirl190 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Irritated or not, he does have obligations, and I understand that you don't want it to be an "Obligation" but if he has a problem, he owes you an explanation.
There may be a reason, but he has to be fair with you. Try to tell him that you have to know whats going on or you both must go to counsiling. Is he masterbating while watching porn? If so, I would get a third party involved.
2006-11-18 17:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋