In the past year I have lost most everything. My family (I had a falling out with them that can never be forgiven as I can't make up for it and my daughter doesn't live with me anymore although I have custody, she lives with my mom and is a teenager so can't be forced to live with me), I lost a good paying job and have a much lower paying one and I sometimes make mistakes on it from not being throroughly trained and having to guess at stuff, I have no real friends, no man in my life and live in a bad neighborhood where I can't be out past dark even if it is 6 pm. I have no way to meet people because I work every weekend and evenings. I don't work that many hours, it's just the hours I work make it difficult to meet people as it's hard to find singles activities at church or anywhere in the middle of a weekday. On the nights I am off I stay in because it isn't safe to walk to the busstop as I was robbed by my apartment door last year and no, I can't move anywhere.
2006-11-18 17:02:13 · 8 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't make enough money to be able to move anywhere and I do have to be in walking distance to work and so that when I have to take a taxi at night, it doesn't cost too much as if I lived further away. I have no insurance so I can't get conselling or anything , not that I believe that helps and as far as free help, well that requires alot of waiting and traveling to the other parts of town as my neighborhood has many medical centers but they aren't free. I would like to make new friends and stuff but I seem to fall deeper in the hole and the rate I'm going I will be homeless in a few months, if I'm lucky enough not to lose my job any time soon. Even with my job , I am short hundreds of dollars and work an odd schedule so I never know when I'm working which means getting a second job would be difficult since I work in mostly retail and stuff, they all want you to work on weekends, and I already do that. I am over 40 and just don't seem to be headed anywhere.
2006-11-18 17:06:40 · update #1
I think about dying all the time, especially when having a stressful moment at work dealing with people who think the world revolves arouond them. I see no way to fix my broken life.
2006-11-18 17:07:49 · update #2
I had a fairly good pay job before but it still wasn't enough to pay everything since my living conditions changed completely. The prior job only paid good because I had been with it for many many years. I started out at minimum wage and it took almost a decade to make 10 dollars an hour. But when you have to start over in retail, you are down to 6 or 7 dollars an hour if you get that.
2006-11-18 17:28:48 · update #3
You sound really down- let me help pull you up!! Maybe you cannot undo what you did- but there is restoration and forgiveness- and there are other jobs out there- ask for more training or ask intelligent questions to someone that knows their stuff-you don't work 24/7, and you can move and even share and apartment w someone in a safer neighborhood-you can move when your lease is up-there are women's bible studies and stuff that go on during the day in the middle of the week- call around - they are out there- you may find an open door- take care-D
2006-11-18 17:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to reassess your life, your goals, and your accomplishments, your abilities and your skills. It would seem you have many positives in your life that you aren't acknowledging.
While you may not be able to participate in groups at night in church, many have day activities. Some offer assistance in finding better work, and it's a great place to network if you become involved.
Another possibility is a community cernter. Many will help you assess your skills. There are sites you can use to write resumes, and the Employment Development Department will help people find work even if they are employed.
I don't know the details of your falling out with your family, however, take an objective look at whether you can repair the damage by eating some crow.
I'm a firm believer in the effects of a positive attitude. When you act positively, you begin to feel positive.
I sincerely hope that you experience an upturn in your situation.
2006-11-18 17:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here is an Idea, maybe you can look for another job during the week when your not working maybe something a little more people friendly. You have to feel the need to make it better, even if it means comparing your life to someone elses, examples you have a beautiful daughter, you have a job, and even though its a crappy neighborhood to live in at least there is a roof over your head. Do you have a spare bedroom, maybe you could look for roomate who could help with finances, and maybe introduce you to a nice man. Life is cruddy sometimes, you cant get ahead no matter how hard you try, but Jesus stuck it out when life handed him some pretty bad situations so maybe its not so hard after all keep praying, and maybe try to fix the relationships with your family, and show them how bad you want to make you life better they may suprise you and help you out.
2006-11-18 17:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by donnakygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sir, first just tell yourself you can be happy still. Maybe look for another job the best you can. you have internet, thats huge. You had a high paying job before, so your obviously qualified for something. Spend sometime really just looking your unhappiness in the face and don't just try to fix things as well, understand fully what you are trying to fix before bringing out the rachet. If all you know is your uphappy, that is not sufficient information to get the antidote. Why do these many things make you unhappy, and don't just look at the obvious or the surface level. I think to say you are not going anywhere is only through societies lens that it tries to sell to everyone. This could be a huge opportunity for you to learn things that you would have never learned in your nice comfortable life of the past. Simply learn my good sir.
2006-11-18 17:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Nate K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes problems hit you all at once. The best way to deal with them is one at a time.
Your first action should be to stabilize your job. Get training if you need it. Ask for it at work. Employers respect people who want to do well.
Next, list the things you want to fix in your life and prioritize them. Then take one at a time and work things out. Remember you aren't looking for perfection just an acceptable solution. Get one and move on to the next item on your list.
2006-11-18 17:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bugged Out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;M SO SORRY you are going through such a rough time.but don;t give up family is too important and so is your daughter.Send a card saying your sorry;even if you feel it was not your fault;do what ever you can to make your life better. got back to school;good way to meet people too.;plus get a better paying job. hope things get better for you. -- try talking with your Pasteur at church some have free counseling their.you really need to move away to a better place' no one should feel trapped in their home ;find away;M SORRY YOUR Thinking of death;' things seem dark right now and a lot of us have been their ,but you can;t give up just try harder ;it can get better. prayer works to put it in his hands.
2006-11-18 17:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest and quickest way is the hardest. Drop the poor me attitude. It won't change a thing of the past and it will only sour your future.
2006-11-18 17:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't confuse your career with your life!
2006-11-18 17:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋