Please help. I'm being stalked.?

Question

I didn't know what else to do. I went to the campus police about him and he threatend me and my brother.
He follows me around college and stands by the windows of my classroom and stares inside. He waits in the hallways so I have to walk by him. He asks around about the guys I have dated and starts to act and dress like them. He used to ask me out constantly, tell me I'm perfect and get angry when I'd always turn him down. He's gotten worse since I went to the school. I'm afraid to get a restraining order because they are so hard to enforce, and he acts on his anger. The last girl that did that to him wound up with slashed tires and sugar in the gas tank of her car. I'm positive I've seen his car parked outside of my house.
I never leave my house anymore, not even to go to school. I only see my friends when they come to my house to hang out (which is quite often as of late). I never open my windows or shades, and my door is always locked. Please, I don't know what to do. Help me.

Colleen O: Please don't answer if you aren't going to read it all the way through. I went over that.

I'm not concerned about my car, I'm concerned about my family... he's crazy...

hellraisintime5:
You don't think I would have taken that into consideration? He doesn't use the internet. He always told me that it's "for losers". He's an idiot.

jewels, I appreciate your input, but you don't seem to in any way comprehend the effect that something like this can have on your psyche. Not only is it nothing like rape, but I would be in even more danger if I were to approach him.

Ever hear of Shirley Lowery or Laura Black? THAT is why I'm afraid to get a restraining order.

Answer 1

I once had a guy stalk me. The final straw was when he told my mother over the phone that the next time she would see me was when my head was delivered to her in a box.
I did not want to give this man the chance to look at me again, let alone hurt me.

If I were you I would contact the police and file for a emergency restraining order before something happens.

Answer 2

Go to the police. Call them when he's around you sometime, doing something that is stalker-ish, and that you think he might continue to do until the police would come. Tell them the situation and I bet they will help you. I don't have experience with a stalker, but there was a panhandler who was hanging around my apartment at college, and we called the police and he eventually went away. They were really helpful. I would say to look up the non-emergency number, because it's not an actual emergency. They were really helpful to us, they gave us a specific number to call if we saw the panhandler guy again. I don't have any experience with restraining orders, but it might really help.

Good luck! Stay safe, maybe buy some pepper spray and keep it with you? A loud whistle is good too. As much as you can, have someone with you when you think he'll be around. Let him know very firmly but nicely that you do NOT want anything to do with him.

Answer 3

You need to contact the police, and go see the administration at your school. I'm a law professional and this guy could be dangerous, you need to stop this by any means possible, and if campus police aren't helping then real police will. Get a restraining order too, and for now never go out alone, and always stay in well lit areas when walking with friends...if you see him following you call police immediately and go to the safest place you can.

Stalking is a serious situation!

Answer 4

Won't you speak with the college administration, tell them what's happening. If you start telling people, he's more likely he'll back off or get fired because people will get nervous and fire him. Or you can transfer to a different college (which most people hate doing)
My mother said, you should record what's he's doing, any false move can end him up behind bars. Use a camera phone, take pictures etc etc..

If you go to a real police, they are going to take their sweet time and sometimes they'll think it's just a joke.

Thanks for the "answer" I'm not a spoiled brat. Thanks for caring

Answer 5

ive never been stalked b4 but i know the type and i know guys that do it they stalk to test ur bounderies and since the 1 thing he wants he cant have he obsesses about u and eventually it WILL build up to the point where he will take u by force rape u or even kill u like the old addage if he cant have u then no one can i know its a lot of work but the restraining order is the best for u to handle this if i knew u i would just beat his *** but im deployed in afghanistan as of now i really hope this helps and good luck

Answer 6

Well, you reported him to the campus police. That's good. The girl who wound up with slashed tires and a sugared gas tank was lucky. Some girls end up dead. If you're willing to stay housebound and not go to school, then why don't you just move. No forwarding address and an unlisted telephone number.

Answer 7

you need to go to the police NOW... not the campus police..this is a serious matter that is out of your hands..yes a restraining order can be hard to enforce, but as long as you have that paper, you can call the police and have him arrested...if hes outside your house, call the police and tell them that you have the restraining order and hes outside your house now..if you dont do something now, it could get worse..

Answer 8

Fact is, you are letting him win by dictating your every move.
He's basically raping you on a daily basis, raping your life,
your happiness, and even your thoughts.
I can hardly believe that YOU have allowed him to do this to you.
Stand up to him, choose a place in public, have friends with you
and calmly, but firmly tell him to stay away from you.
You should also tell him that you have been to the police and they are watching him, however, make sure you really DO go to
the police and file a report, taking witnesses with you.
I am still amazed that you haven't done something about this before now.. Campus police are there to protect you, so I'm wondering if they even take you seriously!!!!!! Go to the city police..

Answer 9

You're going to see this in a lot of responses, but you need to get a restraining order. Make sure the campus police get a copy. Report any time he violates the order, and keep a log of it also for use in court should you have to go that route later.
Never walk alone, record your calls, and please, please be very careful.
Best of luck.

Answer 10

oh my god do ur parents no? why cant ur friends help? um why dont u still get te restraining order just in case u have nothing to lose, also carry a nife or pepper spray with u at all times and a cell phone always on. also take clases about protecting urself say he attacks u . just be careful.