HELP!!!! I'm stuck in a moral dilemma?

Question

Hi! I'm 15 and last night I was walking down the street with my parents to dinner. When we walked passed a homeless person, I was surprised when I noticed that the homeless person was a girl a couple years older than me. I wanted to give her some money, however I couldn't bring myself to do it. Now I'm stuck with a moral dilemma, do anyone have any advice for me?

Answer 1

go back and give her some money, she is probably still there.
they usually go to the same place,

Answer 2

What is the dilemma, it sounds like your feeling guilty or sad that you didn't give any money. So you have a few choices, you can try to find the person, unlikely and hard, you can give some money to someone else next time they ask, or you could just think about what it is you're feeling sad about or guilty about. You're 15 and you're probably just trying to figure your own thoughts and ideas about everything. You realize that everything is not how you were taught and that you have to make up your own mind. There are all sorts of homeless people, most of the stories that I have heard are tragic and depressing and sad, but a few dollars isn't going to fix anything either. Finding your place with having, when others don't is a tough own, keep caring that's all I can say, figure out what it is that you can do for others, you can never go wrong about caring about others around you.

Answer 3

I can understand why you were hesitant to give her money. Listen to what your instincts tell you. Do you feel this girl could really benefit from money or something else you could give? I don't mean to sound stupid either, I understand she is homeless, however there is always caution in giving money to a stranger. After all some homeless people have been found to not be homeless at all and just pretend to get money from strangers. You don't always have to give money either. Maybe you or someone in your family has some clothes to donate to her. This time of year a nice warm jacket would be wonderful. Most people have things in the cupboard that have been up there and not been eating. You could donate that food to her. Like chips, crackers, and other such items. Most importantly if you decided to donate to this girl make sure to bring someone with you. Just for your own safety. You could also suggest some places the girl might get help.

Answer 4

You sound like a sailor with a love in a every port. I advise you leave those two women alone. You do not love the first one, or you would not be interested in the second one and ;neither do you love the second one. If this second one is in an abusive relationship, that is more reason to stay away from her as far as possible, you are no salvation army even thou you are in the military, so stop picking up left overs with heavy baggage, you do not need that in your life. You should just enjoy your two years stay, date here and there temporarily and then settle in a city where you can then meet the right woman you will be faithful too and establish a serious and long lasting relationship.

Answer 5

A situation like this, she could be a victim of bad parents and that's why she's homeless, or she could have made some retarded decisions that ended her up there. If it's because of her retarded decisions she's still young enough for life to teach her a hard lesson that she can learn from and bounce back, and she needs to learn that lesson. If she's a victim of bad parents that kicked her out or abandoned her, that's a different story. And you don't know which one it is. So I would have offered her food. If she takes it and shows appreciation then maybe she's a victim, if she refuses it and asks for money then screw her.

Answer 6

You can't go back to last night because it has passed, but you can remember to follow your heart if the opportunity ever presents itself again. Don't be too hard on yourself. It's pretty clear to me that you are a caring person so I'm certain it is "very" clear to the Lord. May He bless you forever, and may you and everyone in your family always have the necessities of life so that you will never experience the devastation of homelessness personally.

Answer 7

At least you noticed her, and have taken some time to think about her as a real person, and not just walk by and forget her. I would encourage you to talk about it with your parents. You can buy gift cards for fast food places or grocery stores besides just giving money. I hope your city has some help for homeless teens.

Answer 8

I always give money to homeless people if I have some. Some people just hit a bad spot and need a little help. If I don't have money I'll offer them whatever food I have. Doggie bags from restaurants have more uses than you ever thought. And some of those people really appreciate it.

Answer 9

Don't feel bad. There's lots more opportunities for you to do something good. You are not bad because you didn't give money to that girl. Posting this question here proves that you are good. When I was your age, I felt the same way. I felt sorry for the poor and homeless. I found a way to satisfy my need to do something. I volunteered for the American Red Cross when I was 15.

Answer 10

What is the dilemma? I would go back to the girl and give her some money.

Why couldn't you bring yourself to do it before?

Better yet, bring her some toothpaste, toothbrush, blanket, pillow, a brush, hand wipes, (maybe feminine products)...in an old backpack or some bag you don't use anymore. Throw in pens and paper and a few snacks. Your soul will be happy, and you will have made someone's day a little better.

Answer 11

I don't think I see a moral dilemma here...we are all a bit hesitant to give money to homeless people because we here they will just use it for drinking or drugs. It is a decision you as an individual have to make about what motivates you to give.