after a person cheats is it possible to forgive them?

Question

will the relationship ever be the same?

Answer 1

No, the relationship will never be the same again; however, if you truly love the person, a second chance is fair...do it again, and it's over!

Answer 2

It is possible to forgive a partner... but if your goal is to forget you are kidding yourself. The important part is the forgiveness and being able to learn, move on and and grow from the experience.
Cheating usually has layers that include other issues within the relationship. The key is figuring out what those are and working them out... and reestablishing trust.

The relationship will never be "the same". It may be stronger...or more vulnerable after the cheating depending on the healing process.

Answer 3

It might be possible to forgive them, depending on the situation. If they confess to you, or you find out from another source. If this is a serious relationship. If they have been faithfull before and this is the first time. If they are truly sorry for what they have done. One of the main questions you need to ask yourself is if you can trust them again, because without that the relationship will not last.

Answer 4

It depends upon the person who was cheated on and the circumstances surrounding the affair. My husband cheated, we went through three years of counseling and we are still together. But it's been a long road. We had to find out why he cheated in the first place before we could begin to move forward. For us, it's worked...in fact, it's actually brought us closer together. We were making some big mistakes in our marriage before and we've learned from it and put it behind us. In all honesty, I'm much happier now than I was back then.

However, it's not that way for everyone. Sometimes people cheat just to cheat...as if it's in their nature. Cheaters of habit is what I like to call them. They'll give any excuse, blame everyone else and continue to do it if they find the right person who will keep taking them back. Those, are unforgiveable.

Either way, being the cheater or the one cheated on, you go through a series of emotions, and yes, it will change you, but it doesn't always have to be for the worse. Bringing light to my husband's affair has taught him to be a better man and allowed me to take off the rose colored glasses....nothing in life is perfect, but it is what we make of it!

Answer 5

Forgiveness is really a choice!
You can choose to forgive a person 'or not'.
The problem comes in the aftermath, TRUST..
Trust is something that is earned, not freely given.
We would 'all' be fools to trust people all the time.
As I said, forgiveness is the easy part, but will you ever be able to
trust this person again.
Time truly is a great healer, and with time this person may prove
they can be trusted again, but to put your trust in them too soon, after they have betrayed you, is none less than foolish.
Hope this has answered your question..

Answer 6

There are too many variables to answer your question completely here so I will answer in general.

Yes you can forgive them
Yes the relationship can be the same....

Those rely on a few things most importantly is how did you discover he was cheatting?

What caused him to cheat?

How would that person feel if you cheated?

Answer 7

It really depends on ,amy factors, what had happened, and whether trust was eroded. Forgiveness should not be if but when, it is healthy because you can not live a life of unforgiveness, forgive one aother that you to amy be forgiven.

I however believe that we can restore any relationship to even a beter level tha it was before, because every party wants to work for the other and not hurt them.
Start with your side of the birgauin by forgiving, and then let the other party work on restoring the trust.

Answer 8

No. It won't be the same ever again.

There is a promise of trust in all relationships. Once that trust dies, it can't be brought back to life, and even if all things appear to be fine, there will still be that everlasting, nagging memory to haunt the relationship. If you love him/her enough to ignore that, then sure, forgive them and move on in your relationship. If you don't think you could live with that or think that, somehow, the feeling of mistrust will ever go away, too bad. It won't.

Answer 9

well it actually depends on u.if u want to forgive the someone u can and if u don't want to forgive him too u can.if the someone always cheats u,i think it would be even better if u just ignore and forget about him so that u wouldn't feel bad about it because the more u think about it the more hateful and revenges u want to make towards him.if u just forget it and go on with your life u will feel much better.i know about it because i've been through it and i know what it felt.if the someone u really like but he cheats on u,i think u should just forget about him and move on to other guys.trust me u will feel better if u did that.but if u think the someone is forgiveable then u should just forgive him and forget the past and move on with your life.

Answer 10

well honestly, when somebody cheats on you of course you can forgive them(god forgives you for your sins), but it doesn't mean that person is going to be faithful to you ever again, if that person went out on you that means that they weren't happy and thers a problem somewhere. all i can say that it happened to me and i as better of being by my self, even though it was hard cuz i loved her but it's better to hurt for a little bit then to hurt for a life time.