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I told my family that I'm a transgender, and my mom is being very supportive. I haven't actually told my dad yet, but that's because he wouldn't accept me (Trust me, I'd know). Now what do we do? I have to start taking hormones soon, but how do I get into that? Please tell me the steps, don't just give me a site.

2006-11-18 16:26:47 · 12 answers · asked by Stephen 1 in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

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Allie, you didn't say how old you were, so I'd guess if you are/were afraid of telling the folks you'd be under 18. In any case, age doesn't matter in all this, what matters is your view and actions to carry on with what you are seeking to do.

1) Therapy. First and foremost, get into some kind of councelling. The ability to talk this out with a non-judgemental person will do wonders for you, plus they would be considered the gatekeeper to transition.

2) Blood work. Mail order horomones and self perscribed meds are NOT the best way to do this. Liver damage and even death could knock on the door to your heart.

3) Understanding your are transgendered is a big step and one that will never go away. How you deal with it both internally and externally is next.

The therapist will help (look up the Harry Benjamin Standards of Care, they'll have a list of approved folks that deal with this in almost every city in the US).

You'd said no sites please, but for you to make this happen, you will learn more and read more about what this is, doing and needs to happen than you did in high school. The more educated you are the better, informed decisions you will make, and healthy both mentally and physically choices.

I will direct you to one site from a gal that has gone the distance. 1,000's of pages, sorted by topic and should be read, cover to cover. http://www.tsroadmap.com

Be prepared to get a tough skin kiddo. Fear from within is one thing, prejudice and hatred from outside is as tough if not tougher to deal with day to day.

From my chair, middle aged, I have resigned to being me and keeping "her" quietly inside and dealing with my issues by stealth. I have read and read, sen therapists until I am blue in the face and cannot come past my fear, so I applaud YOU that you would soon be on your way to finding YOU and be happy. (saddness is a very big part of being transgendered, as is depression, knowing that helps me deal with my non-transition life).

Get a qualified therapist, seek medical assistance and more therapy work. Hormones WILL change your attitude, life, outlook, feelings the whole smash. You'll read that over 50% of the transitioning community commits suicide, don't be counted among that number. get qualified help, get help on both the megtal and physical aspects of being "T".

2006-11-21 07:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Opportunities 1 · 0 0

Just about every place follows the standards of care that have been set up for treating "gender dysphoria." You'll need to see a therapist and get their approval. For me, it only took 3 therapy sessions to get the therapist's approval to start hormones. Since you have started puberty, you can start a testosterone blocker immediately to hold off the effects until the therapist can approve hormones. Generally hormones can be started at 16. You *may* be able to start them sooner, as the standards of care are starting to get out of date.
Basically:
Step 1: See a therapist and get approval for a testosterone blocker.
Step 2: See a doctor and get a prescription and blood work. Taking these meds can cause health problems for some people.
Step 3: Get the therapist's approval for hormones as soon as you can.
Step 4: Go back to the doctor and get more blood work and a prescription for the hormones.

Oh, and congrats on telling your mom. It's great to hear that she's supporting you. A therapist may be able to help you get your dad on your side too.

2006-11-19 00:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 2 0

Well you may not want a site but I am going to give you one. This one will help you all out. Because you all need to have support and go to support meetings. Transgenders are also welcome to PFLAG. Not sure if you heard of PFLAG but it is for Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. And yes transgenders are welcome too. As a matter of fact they have a new support group and site. You can find a chapter and get you and Mom going to one and there will be others that can guide you into the right direction with their experiences being transgenders too. They can tell you if what your doing is safe and also tell you which doctors are the right ones to go too. So if you wanted just a quick fix, sorry but as you know this is much more than just me telling you a few steps to take. So Sweetie I wish you the best and you will have it too. I know because I am a PFLAG Mom too.
http://www.pflag.org/TNET_Support.745.0.html

2006-11-19 01:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1 0

This day in age is something our parents will never understand completely. They were brought up around people that never were open to that. Your dad may never understand, but you should never let that get in the way of who you are as a person. When I came out and told my dad he told me that he accepted me, but didn't understand the lifestyle. They were never meant to understand because they came from a differnt time where it was not acceptable..You should continue taking hormones and live your life for you, not anyone else. Besides, I think you've been through enough. It's your time now! SHINE!

Lots of love,
Kelly

2006-11-19 05:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

This is something you have to go to a doctor who specializes in that sort of thing for. There are psychological as well as physical steps they will put you through to be sure you are really ready.Talk to your Dr. & see if he/she know where to get you hooked up. Good luck honey!

2006-11-19 00:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by evemarkra 5 · 0 0

it's kind of like depression. Take it one day at a time. Right now you should be feeling happy and proud. It's not at all easy to do this. If you try to plan step by step you willl overwhelm yourself. my best suggestion is to take it one day at a time and possibly you can see a therapist to talk to about it.

2006-11-19 01:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by mom_in_love 4 · 1 0

u took the first step next steps r going to be easy

2006-11-21 01:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by john 7 · 0 0

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hormone_replacement_therapy_%28trans%29
You do not have to be scared or feel strange about the factuality. Face it bravely. Above sites may give some insight.
Wish you all the best.

2006-11-19 00:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by rjbendre 3 · 0 0

well, I'm not sure but I think you could probably use some medical advice in this area...I would contact your local GLBT center for a referral to a gay friendly doctor.

2006-11-19 00:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to go see a doctor.

2006-11-19 01:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0 0

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