i have a friend who is in love with a guy who has beaten her to where she has been hospitalized, he has moved to a different state and taken another women with him, my friend she maintains a relationship with his sister as a means of keeping up with him. The problem is when he dose something she doesn't like she get pissed as though she still dating him, then she trys explaining it to me and i don't want to hear about him and his woman, most times i just say unha just to response however when i do say something like why are you in that man's business anyway, what he does should not concern you, she gets pissed off at me. Now i am pissed off because i feel she is stupid and setting bad examples for her teenage children.
should i not deal with her anymore?
or should i just continue to grin and bare it even though it's getting on my weakness nerve
2006-11-18 16:02:04 · 5 answers · asked by Reenell W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This woman is in denial, and sorry what ever you do is not going to help. you might tell her if she wants to remain friends that she not speak of him in your presence, I doubt she will agree but you need to get you sanity back and she is not helping rather making it worse, because you can see what she refuses to see
2006-11-18 16:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if I really considered her a good friend I would tell her we need to sit down and have a serious talk. Ask her to listen until you finish then she gets her turn. Explain that she obviously does not realize she had a one sided love affair, the man was abusive and how she is carrying on now is not healthy for her and is having adverse effects on her children. Tell her you value her friendship, but can not stand by and watch her self destruct over a situation that is not good and will not change for the better. Tell her if she thinks this over and can not make the effort to stop this irrational behavior you will have to end your relationship because it is taking a toll on you and you are not going to deal with it anymore. Put the choice on her and whatever she decides go with it.
2006-11-19 00:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obsessed with him. She would probably go back to him if she got the chance. Tell her that she needs to talk to a counselor and get some help. If you decide to stop dealing with her, tell her why. She is not helping herself or her children with this kind of behavior.
2006-11-19 00:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called batter woman's syndrome. She needs counselling, which the hospital should have provided. Hold an intervention and get a psychologist to help. Talk to her parents and family. She needs counseling. The last thing she would ever want is her history to repeat in her kids.
The last thing you would ever want is for them to get back together and for him to kill her.
2006-11-19 00:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that if she keeps telling u about him that you and her wont be friends for much longer because it's obviously bringing you down and pissing you off too.
2006-11-19 00:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by oohLa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋