and i've started being a girl every day. i often wondered if i liked guys, sometimes i thought different guys were kinda cute but was never sure if i wanted to go out with a guy. but now, when i'm out as a girl and i see a guy i think is really cute, i'm hoping so much that he notices me. and even though i know i can't go out with him, i kinda wish i could. how come? please be nice. thanks so much.
2006-11-18 15:41:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
why did you change you avatar? don't let people be that way i think if you always wanted to be female that's your choice and you deserve to be happy and if this makes you happy well good for you .and that's how guys are you want them to notice us and you should go up to him and ask him to dance ..
and thank you for you advice - jen
2006-11-19 11:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're either a straight tgirl or a gay crossdresser. Depends on what you're gender identity really is. It normal to be attracted to men. Lots of people are. I'm trans and bi. I've noticed that I'm more willing to date a guy now that I'm transitioning too. It may be that you are looking for a straight relationship with a guy and not a gay relationship. When you're living as a woman, that straight side comes out I guess.
2006-11-19 00:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think before you start on the dating scene you need to take care of you first. You say you've just started being a girl everyday,,does that mean you are a guy and are transgender or are you a confused girl? Kind of got me confused not being specific enough in your details. But anyway here is a website to help you out.
http://www.pflag.org/TNET_Support.745.0.html
Good Luck Sweetie
2006-11-19 01:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at the primary relationships from the earliest times of your life. My friends who are this way have a history of experiencing significant loss, pain, abuse, dysfunction that causes them to still crave the love of the same-sex parent, and that all gets mixed up with your sexuality sometimes. This is especially true if you begin your sexual experiences with the same gender as yourself.
Gender Identity is mostly formed by the age of 5. Many factors influence this. One example is of friends with an emotionally absent Father, with or without a domineering Mother.
These things/unmet needs get thrown in with sexual activity outside of marraige/with same sex, and the original healthy
craving of love from that gender gets all mixed in with the sexual pleasure itself. Ypu begin to associate that with your identity of who you are as a human being.
If you really don't want to go down the most difficult road, I suggest you seek a counselor from a loving and supportive (& well-informed) source such as 1-800-a family, they can refer you and will do so in the most understanding & uplifting way, not telling you how worthless you are because of these feelings, etc. but to absolutely help you figure it out and not use sex as a substitute for healing. Also 1-800-new life, they can reccomend top-notch help in your area just like the first group, but thier line is not open 24 hours.
My friends have gone through so much heartache, and added layers to thier pain including drug and alcohol problems as they unsuccesfully try to bury it in innapropriate relationships.
Please, listen to that part of you that speaks to your heart about something not being right with this, and don't let your sexual desire take over your lifestyle and cover up your pain. It won't stay buried, and when it re-surfaces, it's even more difficult to deal with.
God's blessings on you & my prayers go out for you to take the first step in the right direction to get some healthy support & guidance through these rough and murky waters.
2006-11-19 00:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason you were confused about what gender you like, was because u were struggling with your own gender indentity over the years, and now that your sure your of a female state of mind, your not thinking so much about that and now focusing on being female, which includes looking at the opposite sex(or same sex, or both, whichever)....it'll take some time, but you'll soon discover what it is you truly like and want and it'll get easier, i wish i could tell you all the "whys" and "hows" of everything, but thats not possible to do for anyone...
best of luck
-Calli <3
2006-11-18 23:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Calli S 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you gender identify yourself as a heterosexual girl. If this is the case then it only makes sense you'd want to go out with guys you find attractive.
2006-11-19 00:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rageling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By this question do you mean you have never been really interested in guys? I dont mean to be mean, but are you a girl or a guy? This question no one will really answer, becuse it is confusing. My advise, is to do this question over, so we can understand, and help you. K?
2006-11-18 23:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have aright to live the way you feel, it is up to you how far you take your transformation, but dont despair there are guys out there who like being with girls like us
2006-11-20 09:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are "TG", with a guy's body but a girl's psyche? Well, OK, but what is your question??? What kind of help do you want?
2006-11-18 23:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the name of sam's hill? I'm lost. I thought you are a girl? Your name is 'Melissa' and you have a female avatar? Seek medical help.
2006-11-18 23:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋