I am sort of a tomboy. I am str8. I dont understand why they just can't accept it.?My mom used to support it??

Question

My mom hates the fact. My step-mom dislikes it and my dad doesn't mind.
I don't care that they (dis)like it. Its hard to get a boyfriend though. I dont understand why they just can't accept it.
_I can't stand the comments from my mom:
"You walk like your father" (Whom I lived with for four years w/o a female in the house)
"can't you be a girl" (which I am I just can't stand dresses/skirts/pink/etc)
"Your a f*cking Dyke" (I am straight)
"Your feet are to big" (I am sorry 9.5 isn't big compared to my dad's 12's{yes they are both mens sizes})
"you only have one boyfriend"(my mom is a whore and I do have proof{she doesn't understand that I am not})
I don't mind the comments from my step-mom:
"Can you try to find a skirt when we go school shopping"(I kindly say yes then find nothing. she knows that happens every time)
_My dad's comment when I talk about others comments:
"Who complains that you like to different things"(cars, guns, jeans, sweatshirts, 4wheelers)
"I dont mind"

I still live with my dad at age 14. I love my step-mom. I despise my mom.

It's not like i want to be a boy I like being a girl. who wants that thing hanging between your legs all the time. I just am all-around outside of most stereotypes.
including:
girls like pinks
girls wear dresses
tomboys are lez
teens are dumb
teens don't understand politics
teens arent religious or have no faith(I am in this but I have a reason behind it)
and many more.

I have most nintendo except Wii and sony game sytems except PS3

I have no brothers nor sisters

no make up either

I understand I am me and I am not changing for others I just don't understand why the can't accept it. Though my mom does not accept anything about me

It is better said than done because for going on 8 year (I am fourteen) my mom has had comments that were mean. I get yelled at for telling the truth in court too. Yes she is verbally abusive. No she is not physically. But I wouldnt put it past her the next time we go to court. But her weakness is getting yelled at back cuz "she can dish it but she can't take it." She breaks down instantly if I yell back. She only yells after we come back from court (on average every 6 months). I live with my dad and go to my mom's every other weekend. I do understand though that she is emotionally unstable. She is very spiteful too.

Answer 1

Honey you just be what makes you comfortable. Just keep up your grades in school. Religion is also very important, but that has nothing to do with who you are. Stay out of trouble and enjoy being who you are. God Bless you. Hope you will have the happy life that it sounds like you are seeking. I love little tomboys myself. They are not snooty or finding fault with others. Good luck my dear and have fun.

Answer 2

Your second sentence sets the mood for your entire question. It is hard for a mom to see her daughter not conforming to the "roles" society sets. She is probably wanting to become a grandparent and thinks that will never happen due to your "lesbinasim and non whore attitude". The problem is ... you are only 14. A LONG way from thinking about kids (hopefully) but based on the "norm" you are off the charts on the wrong side of the scale. No dresses, no makeup, no constant calls from guys.

Do you like rollercoasters? I personaly dont. I "think they are stupid". True or False. False. I dont think they are stupid Im scared of them so I say they are stupid. Its a human defense to belittle something that bothers us. It is definitly NOT a good defense, but it is there.

If you would rather rebuild an engine than play barbies, good. Mechanics have better job opportunities than fashion police.

Dress or Skirt VS Pants or jeans. Here is a statisitc for your step mom... Over 75% of fully clothed rapes (fully clothed being that they were not already in bed etc) take place against girls wearing dresses or skirts. My daughter HATES dresses and skirts and I love that comment. My mother (her grandmother) made the comment about dresses and has not mentioned it ever since.

I hate to say it, but I, and your father, and any other Dad has custody or primary care giver responsibilites, are at fault. My daughter likes to do things that I do. She is three. So I am pretty secure in the fact that she will never wear a dress. Why, because i dont. And, just guessing, I dont think your father did either. Becuase my feminie side is about as big as a. well ok its bigger now as I do wedding photography, but you get my point. I love cameras. Guess what my daughter loves to play with? How many 2 year olds have done their own self portraits? Think that has anything to do with daddy being a photographer?

You are simply a product of your upbringing no the outside. On the inside you are still female and your wants and desires are the same as most other females. You simply, like your father, keep your feminine side hidden unless it is needed.

Im sure others have said this, but I want to spell it out for you again as I was once 14 years old and needed lots of things hammered into me....

YOU ARE NORMAL!!!!
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!


Just in case you had not gotten that from the statements above.

Dont worry about boys. Guys your age are not comfortable with themeves. What does that mean? Most guys your age are way to unsure of themselves to go out with a girl who is more of a guy than they are.

I was in the USMC. I leared how to shoot while there. My wife, however, was a certified range officer for ... CANADA, yea the whole country accpeted her scores and knowledge and allowed her full privlige as a range officer. Do you think it was easy for me, a highly trained military man to accept the fact that I didnt know squat about guns compared to this girl I had met? Yes it was easy.. but then I was not 14 when we met.

Answer 3

You are 14, just let life soak in a little...in a couple of years everything will have worked itself out. Maybe even the way you now feel about your Mom will change. You really shouldn't call your Mom a Whore...she is an adult...what she does is no bodies
business.
In just no time at all, you will have blossomed into the person you are meant to be....hang in there for now. Just work on being a good person....by the time you are 16, the comments and the complaints just won't matter so much. Get ready to enjoy your life. It is suppose to be the best of years for you ! Being happy is the best revenge. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Do not worry what others think..Never live your life trying to please parents or others or give You up to be accepted by others.You are doing exactly what everyone is jealous of..You are being you, living life for you and enjoying life so far...Do not screw this up....You will never forgive yourself being someone that just is not you....And most important pass this gift on to your children. Let your ma read this too....I married a tom boy when i was 19 and we are still together,,,That was 33 years ago and she still is my best friend....

Answer 5

Don't mind them... Be yourself even if its different from what your parents perspective is..

But your school life is good right?

I don't think any parents should say "you're a fu*king dyke" to their daughter, seek counseling or help...

I personally think tomboys are cool, I rather date a tomboy who I can share my interests with instead of a girly girl who all she wants to do is watch chick flicks and go to the mall to get her hair done and crap..

Good luck

Answer 6

Just continue to do whats comfortable for you. Deal with the comments and move on. Young guys don't understand, they have not matured enough to know you are special and how lucky they would be to have you with them. That will change too.
Good luck

Answer 7

Just be yourself. No matter what you do in life or what decisions you make, people will always have a problem with it or have something negative to say. Do what feels right to you and tell people to live their own life the way THEY want to live theirs and let you be who you are.
Don't expect people to leave you alone about certain things.

Answer 8

You need to date a guy who is very feminine, but not gay. And you two can accept each other for the way you are.

Answer 9

Just be your self its the only way to be truly happy.

Answer 10

be your self don't do what other want unless you want be your self!!