My youngest 10 grandchildren have learned to be very MOUTHY and have bad attitudes . How should I handle this when they are in my care? Believe it or not --their mothers are twin sisters and are loud bossy and controlling--One of my sons is loud and but loves kids and is somewhat of a perfectionist , but the other is quiet and lets wife control everythng. I do not want to punish the kids but don not want to be disrespected--Help!! I am 65 --my kids are 41 and 46-daughter-in -laws are 30 and did not have a high school education . I get along well with all of them and go with the flow. Please know that I DO NOT want control of anything or anyone . I just don't want the kids to be so negative and ungreatfull for all the wondeful ways their lives are good in . They can use some pretty nasty language and sign language,,, you know what I mean .
2006-11-18 15:28:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would try the best I could to let the grandchildren know just how much I do love them and it really hurts your heart to see them act out in that manner.
Always let them know you will always be there for them
no matter what--But you only wish the best for them in life .And attitude will always be very important all through life .
I hope this helps you
2006-11-18 16:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by jc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean... I think that you should have rules that are for when the children are in your care... it could be the parents don't know that the kids are doing this.. but put your foot down let your kids know that you will not tolerate this attitude and the language, spoken or otherwise. These children need to learn manners, set rules with the input of the parents rules and consequences for breaking those rules. If your kids will not agree to the rules for your house/ care then simply refuse to care for the children any longer... you do not deserve to be disrespected as hard as it maybe stand up for your self and let your children know that you will not be treated this way!!! You may go against the flow for a bit but eventually the parents will come around.. Good Luck and Stand Up you are right in this situation!!!
2006-11-18 15:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When they are in your care, then YOU have the right to EXPECT that they will follow the house rules you have in your home -- and ...
At that point, you need to sit down with all 4 adults, and tell them it is bothering you when the kids are coming over and screaming at you, swearing, using ugly language, being mouthy, and making signs that you know are bad.
At your age, in your home, that is your right. IF the children or child is acting out -- then you have the right to call the parents up and ASK that they remove the child right now from your home, because you can't take it any more.
AFTER a few times of calling the parent (and it is tough -- because you want to be a peacemaker -- I KNOW!) -- then maybe the kids and the parents will get the message that they need to respect you and your home.
OTHERWISE -- limit your time with the children -- for your own sake.
2006-11-18 15:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husbands relatives is Italian and that they are consistently asking that question. i think of the grandmother does this better than the others. i think of that is as a results of fact all and sundry is often traveling her by using out the day and he or she is often cooking someones well known dish. what's fairly attractive, we are able to consume it and tell one yet another later " how long do you think of this has been interior the refrigerator"? each and every thing is often wrapped up and he or she does not be attentive to what she is pulling out till she opens it, so it fairly is often a marvel. fortuitously she is a huge cook dinner and we've not gotten ill. FYI-She is first technology and in her ninety's and nevertheless acts this sort. Gotta love your grams! ; )
2016-12-30 15:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by peentu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can tell you to do is this, talk to your children and explain to them that their children are disrespecting you, and you think it's about time they handle their own children and teach them some manners, they should not get offended in any way but if that is the case, tell them if the children can't handle themselves in your presence then not to bring them around. Time will tell every one needs their grandmother. My children would never disrespect my parents because they know they will get their butts kicked, not only from me but also my siblings.
2006-11-18 15:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by LuNis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house, your rules. Please, Thank You, Pardon Me, I'm sorry, May I, etc. There is no excuse for rudeness.
It's only going to happen if you allow it. Let the parents know. It doesn't matter how old they are. You deserve respect.
Lack of education is not an excuse for lack of common decency and manners.
Perhaps for Christmas, you could get them etiquette lessons...
2006-11-18 15:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say ladybug, this is the way the children are being allowed to behave at home. There is nothing you can do about it since your loving sons are allowing their children to behave like brats. I for one would tell them they could come visit when they clean up their act as it is upsetting to see them behave like this. And I`m writing about your sons.
2006-11-18 15:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes i do know what you mean ...kids are very disrespectful...my mother takes care of my sisters child and she has the same issues...i know they are driving you nuts - but as you know they all go through that stage where they think they are grown... try to ignore the verbal abuse.. because arguing about it will only make it worse....you really cant stop them, but you can let it effect you only as much as you allow
2006-11-18 15:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aww just like the granny on the package of cookies . . .
2006-11-18 15:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes old and cranky leave her alone ! Poor grama !
2006-11-18 16:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋