We were married for six yrs. We've been divorced for three yrs. and have a seven yr. old daughter. For the past year he has called me everyday (almost) and talks to me like we are best friends, we've always managed to be friends. This past month he's been talking about getting back together. This week he came over and we had sex and acted like we were married again. The thing is, I've been through some rough relationships and so has he, and this has left me feeling skeptical. I wonder does he just want sex or what? We haven't discussed where this going from here b/c we said we would just see how it works out. But, I'm wondering if he is playing games on me like the rest of the men have? I'm just an honest person and I don't like games so instead I'm at the receiving end all the time.
2006-11-18 15:23:51 · 7 answers · asked by precious girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may be a good idea to remember why you got a devorce to start with.After that if you are still thinking about him just go along for the ride and see what happens.If you rush it things could go bad again.
2006-11-18 15:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd imagine after 6 yrs that you have a pretty good idea what your ex's motives are. You have to stop thinking about what his intentions are and figure out what it is that you want. Take control of your life and the games will be just that, games. I think that the fact that you had sex means that you are holding on and think that he may be true. But only you know. If you take some time to yourself and get your act together and don't worry about the ex, then you can gain some perspective on where you are at. You are insecure and vulnerable and good decisions are not made in this condition. Take care of your daughter and yourself and figure out what YOU want.
Good Luck
2006-11-18 23:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go backwards. Anything that wasn't resolved from when you two were married will come back if you get into a relationship again. If he cheated, you will still have the major trust issues. This is just my opinion, on the other hand strange things have happened with people. Relationships that you think would never work out, end up working. Make sure if you give this another try, it's something you both really want, I bet your daughter would be thrilled if it worked.
2006-11-18 23:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like just waiting to see how it will work out? You haven't discussed it but you're sleeping together. This only can complicate what you're feeling. If you have doubts, then you have answered some of your own questions. What is your agenda? Do you want to have a relationship again? Start answering your questions and stop wondering what he wants and if he is playing a game. Be honest enough and say what YOU want. This way there won't be any misconstruing the information.
2006-11-18 23:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember... there is a reason that you two divorced. Now after saying that, do you really think you want to try it again? Just something to think about. After time people seem to forget what happened and get back together & then it starts all over. You need to make sure this is what you want & then make it plain to him & see how he reacts.
Good Luck
2006-11-19 01:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by kenzi2730 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on him coming over, you had better plan on no sex with him. You will answer your own question pretty fast.
If you want him back, tell him the sex returns when he does as part of the family.
Good luck
2006-11-18 23:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be having sex with your ex --- don't you remember why you two divorced?
Be polite to each other and raise your child. Let him unload his feelings with a psychiatrist....
2006-11-18 23:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋