Ok, my husband thinks tha he doesnt have 2 do any of the house-work! He refuses to do ANYTHING! What should i do?
2006-11-18 15:21:25 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-18 15:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my husband pulled this a while back, I just quit doing ANY of the housework. I let the dishes pile up and the laundry go unwashed. Also, I quit going to the grocery store and quit making meals all together. He couldn't stand it! After about four days, he actually hired a housekeeper so be BOTH do not have to do this vile house-work! Even if you cannot hire someone to help, you can split the chores up. If he refuses, whatever you do, do not keep doing the house-work! He will turn around eventually, I promise!
2006-11-18 15:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by wendy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a pair of your tightest panties and ask him to wear them. After a vain attempt he will say he can't get into your panties. Then you can tell him to remember that, because he isn't getting into them until he starts pulling his weight around the house.
Really, marriage is a partnership. Sometimes we all have to do something we don't want to just to keep our spouses happy. There is less quality time available to spend with him if he is sitting watching TV while you try to clean house as fast as he messes it up. You would like some down time before bed also. Two pitching in gets it done twice as fast as one and he needs to get in a habit so that he can set a good example for the children when you decide the time is right to have some.
2006-11-18 15:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cute Pic on your question...
I assume your hubby works, and you stay home.
The solution is to get a job yourself, and work the
exact same hours that he works.
When you both come home from work, you can both
slouch down on the sofa and moan about what a hard
day it was at Wal-Mart, etc, Common ground will have
been established once and for all.
The other thing you might try is to order a bunch of cardboard
boxes from one of those moving companies and have them
delivered to the house. At the appropriate time you can
begin packing some of them. Make sure you have some cash
stashed away before you try that one...
2006-11-18 15:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by zahbudar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trainedbrought up that way. Show a little patience and do not force the issue. Are u working or non-working wife? If later, u probably cannot have any grouse as the division of responsibility is clear. Appreciate and never depreciate what if and whenhe does something about housework.
2006-11-18 15:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mimicry can be a very useful tool. If he doesn't do any cleaning why should you? Leave the dishes, stop cleaning the bathroom, whatever it is that he takes for granted. If he notices, and catches on, great. If not, he can make his own meals, clean his own clothes, so on. It is a partnership, not a one-sided thing. But the key is to talk about it. If you don't it will continue.
2006-11-18 17:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by tankgirl190 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he works long hours and you're not working at all, then he's got to be putting some effort in.
Try splitting up some of the house-work so that he has his own tasks, eg. dishes after dinner or something along those lines. Start small though.
2006-11-18 15:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by HJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both work, and we both do the work around the house. If the two of you love each other, then both of you helping split everything is part of it. Just sit down and have a heart to heart with him.
2006-11-18 15:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing. And when he's tired of wearing dirty clothes and cannot find a clean dish in the house to eat from, much less any food, cooked or not, and asks you why......tell him you refuse, too.
2006-11-18 15:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't have the time and energy to do the chores either. Tell him he needs to pay for someone to come in once a week to catch you up on your chores. When he realizes that the problem is not going to go away his attitude will improve and he will help. If not you have that cleaning lady to do them.
2006-11-18 15:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for 22 years to someone who expected me to do everything, plus work, and he did not
household-help much of anything.
Stupid me never questioned it, accepted it as my "Role" and so never set any guidelines...or division of labor. If he would not discuss it with you, when they are all dirty, and gathering mold, go to paper plates. I'd just do MY laundry, wash MY dishes, dry them and put them away, make MY side of the bed, and so on....sort of passive aggressive, I suppose, but at some point something has to get noticed.
Please DO NOT LIVE FOR THE NEXT 22 YEARS MAKING THE SAME MISTAKE I DID, PLEASE! PLEASE!
Have you had this conversation with your mother, by chance?
You might be surprised by her spin on it!
Good Luck!
(Some Men! Harrumph!)
2006-11-18 17:04:58 · answer #11 · answered by susieque 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋