Were your parents divorced? How did you feel about it? Did it have a negative influence on your life?

Question

Children are said to be very adaptable, but is that always true?

Answer 1

My parents are not divorced...but I am. Think my kids are happier they way our lives are. We have more family around us then when I was married. My kids hate seeing their father cause he does not spend anytime with them....they like being with me cause I spoil them by spending quality time with them.

Answer 2

Hi Buzz,
Yes, kids can be very adaptable through a Divorce, but also, it really depends on how it affects them.

My Parents had a "Legal Separation", which I don't know if it's heard of anymore or not. They decided on this and I believe it was due to my Mom not wanting to lose the Military benefits by getting a Divorce and my Dad agreed.
I was in the 7th Grade when my Mom told me about splitting with my Dad. I was shaken up at first, then my life turned out happier once he moved out, you know and adapting to life without him under the same roof. So, the turnout had a positive influence on my life, YES.

Answer 3

My parents divorced when I was 14, I had to step into the mother role for my two younger siblings and I had to be there for my mother, because emotionally she fell apart. My father, left and didn't bother with us much, an occasional card. Children are adaptible, but they shouldn't have to adapt to certain things after a divorce, the parents, should still continue to be parents, they have no option in that! A child needs both their mother and father in their lives, to help mold them into adults. I know in some cases, one or both parents are abusive in some way and shouldn't be around the children. My siblings and I, were all affected by our parents divorce, in alot of ways, and we are still trying to understand and cope with the problems its caused.

Answer 4

Yes.We felt the divorce was somehow our fault and we felt abandoned. Children do adapt. In this situation I had to be the Mom and still play mom to my brother and sisters.They didn't adapt well. And are still making poor life choices. Not to say that I didn't make poor choices myself. This situation was horrible with violence on a daily basis along with several suicide attempts of my mother. So is not a typical case scenario. But in divorce nothing is typical.

Answer 5

My parents remained married but I'm devorced for 6 years now.I have two daughters ages 20 and 18.Both of them had a very hard time with the separation.Both held alot of bad feelings towards their mother for messing around.They are doing OK now but for along time they went through depression,rebellion,didn't want to visit their mother and had very little respect for her.Because of the way everything happened I think they made alot of bad decisions based on the way their mother acted.They have always stayed with me and treated me with respect.We get along great.I think that if their mother had been a more positive infulence in there life they would have made better decisions during their early teen years.

Answer 6

My parents are still together, but my ex and I are divorced (split a year and a half ago) and we have 2 children ages 13 & 15. It may still be too early to tell, but at this point they seem to be adjusting just fine. Well behaved, doing great in school etc. I have made sure they stay active in sports, and discussed things with them early on....especially that even though their dad and I are no longer together - that does not mean they can act out (a friend of my daughter's began a downward spiral after her parents split) or anything of that nature. They also know they can talk to me about anything, or their uncles (my brothers) if they wanted. I have also tried my best to keep my issues with their father away from them and made it clear to them that is not ok for him or his family to discuss things that they should not be burdened with to them or in front of them and they have every right to tell them to stop if they do. So far...so good..

Answer 7

my parents were divorced since I was 2,though that was many ,many yrs ago,plus my dad was married 4 times more after that and my dad kept all the kids,i was very confused growing up,but i put in my own beliefs not how i was raised,and have been married for 18 yrs.i just thank god i got luck and we are still together and our kids are almost grown.all my other siblings have been divorced and the kids,were much happier,because their parents together was to stressful and fighting all the time.

Answer 8

My mothers and dads have been divorced, and their divorce had no impression on my own view on marriage in besides. I later have been given divorced too, nevertheless it did no longer substitute a element. i be attentive to that in the time of the destiny i visit meet a individual who would be precise for me and could locate me precise for himself besides. finally, each little thing will paintings out for the final.

Answer 9

my parents were never divorced but I wish they had been. I knew my father had other women and my mother was always unhappy. it was not a fun way to grow up. I always wish my mother would have had the strength to leave him and move on.