My mom wants to divorce my father but he thinks that he can fix everything. The thing is my father has done not really nice stuff behind her back. She is furious but is only with him so that they can sell the house. She also doesn't want to start problems so that in the end he will get that it won't work out. To make a very, very, very long story short, I would like to know how some of you dealt with it. I need HELP. I feel like the only person with this. I cry myself to sleep and my father is trying to be so nice to me. He wants to buy me. It is so annoying. I need help. Please don't let me be the only one with this problem. Anything is acceptable. Thank you.
2006-11-18 15:06:18 · 11 answers · asked by Elena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your not the only one hun, my parents divorced when i was 5 and thats been nearly 15 years ago i am now 20, it wasnt easy at all the only difference is my mom tried everything to be with my dad and he would not acknowledge it she was married to him for 22 yrs and had 4 children by him and the day she left she took me and my little brother and walked away she left the other 2 there so there wasnt child support involved. And it was hell after that my father out of all people tried to ruin our lives. You as the child just have to take it one day at a time and realize that divorces happens but as long as mom and dad both love you and treat you right you will be just fine. One thing is sweety dont blame yourself for what happend to mom and dad thats what most children tend to do is blame themselves for it and its not your fault mom and dad need some time apart from each other they may or may not get back but they need that time. I hope this helps you out.
2006-11-18 15:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents seperated when i was 7, then for the next 3 years they were constantly figting, in court, dragging me into court, it was hell. then they divorced. the number of fights that they had meant that i moved around a lot. i'm 14 and have moved 15 times.
My dad tried to buy me as well, to buy my love and I hated it, I was only 10 at the time, and to be honest when he was trying to win me over so he could win over the courts, that was the nicest he's ever been to me. The sucky thing was he didnt give a **** about me, he still doesn't.
My parents are now living together again, even though they're divorced. My dad's an alcoholic as well, with a really really quick temper which is made worse under the influence of alcohol.
I know how you feel. It can all suck, but it will sort itself out. trust me.
I didn't deal with things to well when I went through it. If talking's not your thing (it's definetly not mine) then write or draw, and burn it afterwards, or run. Anything healthy to let out stress. Playing PS2 games with lots of shooting helped me out a bit.
Sorry I haven't been much help, but trust me heaps of kids go through it, and most of the time it's sucky so you're definetly not alone.
2006-11-18 23:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by tallica_child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad. Sometimes I am happy that I was raised in orphanages and foster homes. The level of despair out there with the children of divorced parents is heartbreaking. Hang in there girl. Touch base with some of your friends whose parents divorced and you will find similar feelings of loss and confusion. Talk.
2006-11-18 23:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by craigbrwr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. Hang in there it's going to be a long process. It sounds allot like me my mom who wants to divorce my dad. But both of them still live in the same house. (2yrs) My mom would try to pull me to her side. Not giving my dad a chance to really explain what really happened between them. Now I talk to both of them equally not really take either side. You need to understand that they are your parents and they both love you very much. "Be strong, take care"
2006-11-18 23:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to friends, especially ones that have been through this. Their great for times like these. Maybe seek counseling at your school if you'd like to talk about it with a professional. Confront your dad, tell him you don't want him to buy you and that you'd like him to treat you as before. Let both your parents know that you love them.
2006-11-18 23:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. Remember, at one point your parents did love each other very much. Love is strange, hard and often ridiculous. The best advice I can give you is love them both equally; don't ever blame them for having troubles; find happiness for yourself someday and be honest.
2006-11-18 23:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents divorced when i was very young and i took it hard.i learned to accept it by telling myself that it wasnt my fault and that i wasnt losing my parents they still love me but from to different houses .i also felt that it was better that way because they would argue a lot and i didnt have to deal with it after the divorce.its hard at first but youll find a way to help put your worried heart and wondering mind at ease.good luck
2006-11-18 23:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and it stinks! its not the life u want to live! i am stuck in the middle of them arguing and one thinks theyre a better parent than the other. so stupid! whose house to do i go to for xmas?, birthday?, new years?, etc. its hard! i dont like it and wish they never would of divorced. i get the blame for things happening between them too if u no what i mean, when it was their fault they divorced!!!
2006-11-18 23:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by mack c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask them to try counseling before filing for divorce, if that doesn't work and they do divorce you can still get counseling to help you deal with the situation. you're not alone, there are lots of people in your situation
2006-11-18 23:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by Cruella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it .
2006-11-18 23:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋