Me and my friend got drunk and ended up havin sex when we went on vacation hes definatley not the gay type but he really acts gay towards me. he admits that we had sex but is like im not gay. he has a gf.weve done little stuff like kiss, we always hugs me and we cuddle up when we watch movies.but he keeps sayin hes def not gay.he always flirts wit me.all our friends are like does blank like you cuz he flirts wit you alot! we talk about wat happened alot and he always is like we were really drunk and wat happened, happened. but i thought about it one night and we werent that drunk. and he remembers everything from that night, and if your drunk and remember it you were aware of wats goin on and could have stopped it if you didnt want to do it. hes got money and alot of clothes, but whenever i see him he has this pair of boxers on that i gave him.he doesnt tell anyone they mine but me.(i think thats fishy)but i feel like im in love wit this guy and cry over him every night! i need advice!
2006-11-18 15:04:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
its called metrosexual. some straight guys may act gay, yet their not.
he may be bi, JUST ASK HIm.
okay ive realized you are a guy...so im assuming your gay? so you guys buttfucked? yikes..uhm well yea im sure he is gay, no straight drunk guy is going to do that...
you have some issues, stop posting this question over and over, i looked at the questions you posted and its the same DAMN thing! get over it!
gays are so emotional!
2006-11-18 15:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your 'friend' has a lot of personal issues he needs to sort out. At the very least, by definition, he is bi, I mean sex is one thing but the other stuff, the emotional and romantic type stuff, folks don't generally do THAT kind of stuff unless they have real feelings. The problem is that no one can tell anyone anything.
He obviously is not quite ready to face whatever feelings he may or may not be having for you. This is a hard place to be, for you especially. At some point you will have to make a decision, either you will have to just get over it and move on or you will have to talk to him, honestly and openly and take the consequences of whatever may happen (good or bad).
It is a tough situation and I really feel for you. GOOD LUCK!
:)
2006-11-18 15:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First there is no such thing as gay or straight. Everyone is on a continuum. Some people are mostly attracted to the opposite sex, some mostly to the same sex, but a large amount of people fall somewhere in the middle. MOst people are afraid to admit that they are in the middle because it isn't socially acceptable, and the middle ground is often the hardest to defend because human nature is to categorize people (same with race... are you black or are you white, people tend to push away from admitting they are mixed) So likely this guy is probably in the middle ground. He is likely curious, or has special feelings for you, but either still likes women more, or also, or is just more comfortable with having the girl around to cover things up. Just give him time and space. Don't pressure him, just let things play their course. By pushing him to admit something he's not ready for, you may end up pushing him away. Just let him know that you will be supportive of his lifestyle, no matter what he chooses, and let him know he can trust you and tell you things without worrying that others will find out.
I had a really close male friend for years who would ask me to spend the night whenever I was single, and we would just talk, but he would make out with me in front of other guys he was friends with. He finally admitted to me and one of our other friends who were supportive that he had feelings for guys as well as girls, but was afraid his preferences would alienate his other friends, and he wasn't at a point in his life where he was ready to lose the companionship of those friends if it came to that. So things remained the same for a long time, and most of the guys just assumed he and I were hooking up, but really it was just snuggling and movies. Just be a good friend, be supportive, and hopefully the truth will come out of that type of low-pressure relationship.
Good luck, and I hope things turn out well for you, either together or apart.
2006-11-18 19:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Balou0017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the whole story of brokeback. It sounds to me like he's gay but just doesn't want to admit to it. Maybe he's not ready to yet, or maybe he's just trying to figure things out still. I'd give him time.
2006-11-18 15:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by T L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not see any problem.. You are both gay so stop trying to figure out this and that.. If you love each other.. then let it be at that. what is wrong?
2006-11-19 00:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly.. are you gay??
maybe your guy juz doesnt want to admit.. the fact that he acts that way to you, and to his gf.. probably he's just trying to say he's straight but in fact he's not...
hmm suss him out. corner him, ask him straight what i just put to you. see if he admits, if he doesnt, ask him why he acts that way with you then.
another thing, if u'r drunk i dt think u could hv had sex.. muscles too limp to even do that act.. hmm.. fishy..
2006-11-18 15:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by nobodyknowsme™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your friend it gay, but to ashamed to admit it. you should sit him down and tell you think he is and if he really is the show it and if he isnt then stop acting like it.
so good luck to you and i hope he is gay, cuz i think there should be more gays/lesbians. so i hope he loves you like you love him!
hope i helped.
2006-11-18 15:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by ?Victoria? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both gay and he is in extreme denial about it.
2006-11-18 18:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine your chum is perhaps gay. He of route likes adult males because he enjoys gay porn and the male anatomy. which means he's not immediately. then you reported that he claims he thinks about females to boot and that he is going on dates with females. that is maximum likely purely not desiring to be gay. He hasn't time-honored the shown truth it really is okay to be gay. purely be at liberty with your existence. Our society has compelled your chum into questioning that homosexuality is inaccurate and a sin, yet i do not trust that even for a second. Your chum is maximum likely gay yet purely doesn't have the middle to confess it yet. i desire that he receives the braveness to be pleased with who he's faster fairly than later or lower than no circumstances. residing a lie or dealing with existence with a deep darkish key's excruciating, trust me.
2016-11-29 06:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both gay and he is in denial about it.
2006-11-18 15:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋