When me and my husband were dating, he was flowers every day, could not get enough of me. Now its like eah are you still here. I love him, but I need some major romance in my life. I want the man I was dating to make me feel like a woman. Tell me how I can get him to kick it in high gear and get busy making me feel like the sexy mama I am?????
2006-11-18 15:00:19 · 17 answers · asked by May_May 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Perhaps you should make the first moves and have him respond
2006-11-18 15:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time in every long-term relationship when it feels as if there is no romance. I went through the same thing. I was getting all worked up about how he never tried etc etc. Then I realized, hey maybe he's thinking the same thing about me. When you are first dating someone of course it is going to be romantic, each person is going to do everything they can to get the other to like them, then, once the dating part is out and the real relationship begins you stop trying to impress the other person, this is where a lot of relationships fail. If you can get through this part of your relationship then I'd say you are in a good marriage.
That is another reason why it is a good idea to date for a long, long time before getting married, because that way you can see what the person is REALLY like, not just the person who is trying to impress you all the time, that fades with time.
All you can do is try to make the best of it, I know it sounds hard, but you can do it. Show him that you still love him (even though it doesn't seem fair because HE should be the one doing the trying). If he is any sort of good person then he will realize that he loves you and will give you the attention that you deserve. Give it time, get though it.
Good luck!
2006-11-18 23:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lexie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you figure this out, let me know...
Everyone says "make the first move" or "do something first". Well, I wouldnt really be asking for advice if I had done this already.
I figure that some men just dont get it. not to get people upset but it is true.
I asked to go out to dinner and the response I got was, why bother? My fondest memories are us dating, men maybe dont look at those same events as we do. Then he says plan it I dont know what to do or where to go? Funny...
I have just learned to deal with it basically. Just fish through my memories when I want even though I would have loved to add to those memories. Makes you want to cry doesnt it?
woman look at romanctic events as part of something that is more profound then men do.
ok.. here is my suggestion..just tell him like it is..this is how I am feeling, this is what I need, it would help if we had a little more romance...
2006-11-18 23:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you were dating,you were younger-what do you do to make yourself look sexy for him when he gets home from work or do you look like a old hag with a robe,slippers or do you make yourself look and act like you did when you and he were dating-go out on a date-make him a meal that he like-ask him if the two of you could take one day a week and just enjoy each other-do some of the things you two did before you were married-put the romance back into your marriage if you love him
2006-11-18 23:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all start that way. If you feel that you have tried everything to make him want you like that again then maybe it's time to MAKE him remember why he feel for you in the first place. Make him think twice as to whether or not you'll always be there. Maybe you should go stay with your family and give him some time to understand how you feel (alone, unloved and unsexy). Maybe then things will change.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
2006-11-18 23:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that same problem. I have noticed since I compliment my husband more: thank you for been a good father, thank you for keeping a job, thank you for helping with the bills. I am proud of you for being so strong. He has been more romantic with me..
Men like to feel that they are important also. They might not tell you but they do.
Try making him a romantic candle light dinner, then after the dinner ask him how he like it. If he says he did, then say I would like you to do the same for me....
Ask him things he likes to make him feel sexy...
2006-11-18 23:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cook, clean, don't talk too much (30 min a day is enough), don't complain, and find ways to make him feel good about himself. Make him feel like you love him and he will respond.
2006-11-19 10:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bollingg1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you need to stop doing is waiting for him to make a move and do it yourself. show him that your are that sexy mama he knows, hey girl this is your relationship, you need romance set the pace, they usually follow.
2006-11-18 23:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by lyn-lyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to married life. COMMUNICATE. Tell your husband what you want. More romance. More attention. This may come as a surprise, but most guys are not mind readers. They have to be told. Not all, but most. Also, when your man is happy, he will want to make you happy.
2006-11-19 01:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by tankgirl190 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious talk with him may be that will help, and if it doesn't tell him you will find someone who can give you romance. that should do the trick.
2006-11-18 23:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by LuNis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋