What should I do about her?

Question

I have a friend that constantly makes me feel bad about myself. She makes jokes about my looks all the time (I don't find them funny at all really offensive) And she always calls me and a lot of other people stupid. She is just always putting me down in different ways. I confront her and tell her that that offends me all she does is get mad at me for getting mad at her. She dosen't even care that she hurt my feelings. Then later she does something like push me or make a comment, acting like she dosen't even remember that I am mad at her. She never has apologized to me, ever. I can't just avoid her, I have seven straight classes with her plus we are in some of the same extracuricular classes, and I am not quitting any of them.

What should I do?
I tried talking to her it dosen't work at all. She just gets mad at me. She dosen't care. Her and another one of my so called friends were talking about me one day after she had mad me mad. They think I am stupid or something.

I knew they were talking about me.

I really want to start hanging out more with the people I hang out with on occasion. Those people don't hurt my feelings and put me down all the time or annoy the crap out of me like my so-called-friends do now plus these other people aren't as boring and lame as the people I hang out with now. The only problem is the people I hang out with now are like in almost all my classes so it would be really awkward to ditch them and the others, I have very few if any classes with them.

Should I just keep pretending to like them or explain to them that I have changed, and I don't even share the same interests as them and that it is time to go our seperate ways.

What should I do about that particular girl?
She is the main but not the only reason I come home upset almost everyday from school.
What sould I do about all of my friends?

I am not the type of person to make someone else feel bad just because they made me feel bad. I don't think it is right to do that. I don't want anyone to suffer and feel bad especially because of me.

Oh and I do hang out with other people in the same activities as me. And I hang out with other people in most of my classes unfortunatley she is always sitting around me in my classes. Oh, we also had seven classes with each other last year as well. Personally I am sick of her, I need my space, and she is always putting me down. Before she was moved in my classes I only had a few classes with her and I was happy. Until she moved in then I started getting in bad moods a lot. She is always negativie and I think she is bi-polar. She has even once or twice admitted that she was. I am sick of her constant mood changes, it is annoying .

SORRY FOR IT BEING SO LONG

Answer 1

I don't know you, and I don't usually like to anwer Questions that sound like High school stuff (because I'm very glad I am no longer in high school), but I can almost see what will happen here.... first things first... Quit letting them make you question yourself! You sound very intellegent. Next, just tell this friend next time she says something that you know she talks behind your back as well as in front of it, that is not a friend, and you don't find it funny. Then next time she talks to you, just decline any attempts from her to do activities together. Anytime she talks to you, answer in as short responses as possible, almost sounding emotionally detatched and very bland, but NOT rude. Last, nothing is wrong with taking a different path than others think you should... People might not like it, but it is your life... not theirs. Also, that "friend" isn't that much of a friend.... I had one just like her. She used to insult me in front of others to get people to laugh, I would ask her why she would do that, and she would say that you make friends and get popular, by making them laugh. The problem is that she did it at my expense and at some other people's expense too. Today, I am not friends with her. Another one of the friends that she and I were friends with... she slept with her BF. She told me (when we were still talking) that she could get her back as a friend anytime she wanted. She just thought she could toy with people however she wants, and they should just accept it, as if she thought she was doing them a favor to be their friend. It is really sad, but she had seen nothing wrong with manipulating "friends" for her own selfish reasons.

Answer 2

I used to have a "friend" like that, well I still do. The first one did cause she was jealous of me, I don't know why but she was. So I guess she tried to make me look bad and stuff so she could feel better about her self, not that there was anything wrong with her, but whatever, some people do that because they are not happy with themselves. This other girl I hang out with tends to do the same..and its starting to get on my nerves. What do I do? I talk to her mean and tell her to shut the f*ck up. lol I know that's mean but if I don't say anything, shes going to think that I'm scared of her, and I think that's what she wants. She does it all the time, like when a guy comes around you know? Like shes trying to impress them. That's why I don't even consider them my friends, 'cause real friends wouldn't talk crap behind your back or try to make you look bad.
Point is, your homegirl probably is jealous of you. The way you can take care of if...depends on what kind of person you are. You already tried talking to her, and she doesn't respond so well, so I would give her a taste of her medicine. But if you're not that kind of person, then I guess talk to her again.
p.s. Why do you even consider them friends if they talk behind your back?

Answer 3

That makes me mad i know how you feel girl but I'm not going to lie to you this girl is very very far from being a friend you need to talk to her and the very first thing to tell her is if this is how you are going to treat me our friendship is over if she get mad move on you sound like a nice girl i know you can find friends that will love and respect you, you deserve better hope it helps you bye bye

Answer 4

Smile at her even time she comes up to talk to you and walk away. Don't think about what she says, if you go on, it'll just get to a point where you won't care. Sure it's annoying. If you have to say something, smile and say, "I don't want to hang out with you anymore if you won't respect me." then walk away. Find someone else in your extracuricular class to hang with. She's not worth the pain if she's going to mock you.

Answer 5

She isn't your friend. She is just an acquaintance that uses you to try to make herself look better by putting you down. She's not a nice person and you would be much better off just spending less and less time with her. You don't have to drop the classes, just slowly start ignoring her.

Answer 6

sounds like she needs some serious help herself....self esteem issues....tell her that you don't want her to talk to you any more and if she makes fun of you for that just ignore her....walk way, switch desks. be serious about what you want. really let her know that you are not going to take that sh*t... you don't deserve it, nobody does. give it time and be consistent...it might be hard at first and she may try to provoke you but keep your chin high.
In the mean while try to find someone else to talk to in your classes.....
be strong and hang in there.

peace
Stacy

Answer 7

She's not a real friend. If she was, she would respect the fact that you don't appreciate the way she treats you. I would get away from her. You don't need to be around someone like that. Don't subject yourself to that, it will only hurt you, as it is already. You don't deserve that.

Answer 8

well hun im sorry but friends dont do that
i mean im 15 and sometimes me and my friends joke about r looks but there is a point wen u have to stop
friends r soppose to treat u with respect
try telling her dont be on here telling us
just say
"u no i dont find ur jokes funny,maybe u do but i dont so u really just need to stop"

Answer 9

hey jus i had the same problem too..wat u hav to do is ...1. for a few days be harsh towards her.....2 do not respect hre opinions.....3 dont get into her sight for a week or so ..jus try to be with sum other friend in ur class ...most preferably a boy..this will make her feel jealous..and eventualyy she will fall into ur track..if u hav done this well .u mite evenn get to boss her...if that amuses u!!!!!!!!!!!11

Answer 10

She is insecure and a bully. She is not a good friend at all. Keep as much distance from her as you possibly can. Make new friends.