what is a socialphobic? am i one?

Question

I dt hv much self-esteem, I hv alot of insecurities about myself, cos i'm plump, not too pretty.. and stuff like that..

hmm and I get v nervous if I find anyone liking me, cos i dt like to get too involved in human relationships for fear of being hurt. it's been this way since i was 13. i suppose. i got over my parents' divorce - which happened when i was 6 - long ago (when i was 11 i stopped crying) do you think this affected me?? i dt miss my other parent.

help i dt wanna remain a recluse! i dt hv friends in sch cos i dt really talk that much, just no mood, but if ppl talk to me i'd talk to them.. i'm not antisocial, only i dt initiate smiling or talking..

i'v tried stuff like self-esteem workshops.. n hv a great friend who tries to encourage me, but she's a little quiet too.

Answer 1

There are so many labels for everything. Different people are different. Some are social, and some are not. Everything we experience molds us, so yes your parents divorce affected you, had they stayed married that would have affected you also. That's the way life works. If you want to be more social you don't have to be loud. Just make it a point to make eye contact and smile at people. Your better off with only a couple good friends that having "acquaintances" Even pretty/thin people have insecurities probably more so... Thats why the prettiest girls seem to be so rude, or shallow... Just be yourself... I don' t think you have a problem...

Answer 2

I think you just need to take baby steps and find people who share some common interests and talk to them. Focus on them while talking to them by focusing on them it takes the pressure off of you and you will slowly gain more confidence .