Oh man, What to do?

Question

Ok see there is this guy, who I really, realy, really, like and he says he likes me too! (your thinking great! whats the problem?) well the thing is, I'm on a long list of girls that he likes, his "multiple crushes" as I call them. He keeps giving me mixed signals, like one day I'm his "buddy" and the next it seems like he's getting all jealous! See when he's my "buddy" he talks to me about everything, and then one day I told him abot another guy who likes me, and he told me "go for it,its not lik eyou have any commitments" so I thought about it, and well I started likig the other guy too. So I tell him (because we tell each other everything) and I tell him that I fel wird having 2 crushes at one time, and he tells me, "Dude, its like super rare to have 2 crushes at one time, I don't even do that" (this is all on IM) and I'm totally confused (as you are probably feeling now) and I tell him "wait...what about your "multiple crushes?" and he says "I've got to go" and so I say

" No hold on answer my question" and he just signs out! So it seemed as though he got jealous or something, and I asked him about it the other day and he said he was just kidding! I just don't believe that though! So I'm wondering, Does he really like me? Should I tell him how I feel? Why can't he make up his mind when it comes to girls!? What should I do? Should I pursue BOTH guys, stick to the first or go with the second? Why are guys so confusing? Guys, why do you always seem to send mixed signals? Why do you all seem to hide your feelings for the girl you really like? Could he be doing this? I am so confused! (nd by now your brain is probably getting ready to pop, so I will leave it at that! I just hope you can help me! (and understand what I'm saying)

Answer 1

Well I've inclosed some lists that help me out:
How to get a guy to like you!
1. Laugh at his jokes, but don't go mental over the lame ones
2. Smile a LOT
3. Talk to him a lot, and get really funny/interesting/good conversations going, ya know, get to know him
4. Be REALLY nice
5. Stick up 4 him when he is insulted (For instance - "At least HE'S not a loser")
6. When you talk to him, use his name more than once so he know's that you know his name, (boys like to hear that)
7. Do not put on makeup/lipgloss/fix your hair in front of him. Always do this BEFORE seeing him. :-) (and don't overdo it)
8. Be yourself!
9. Bring him a little something on his birthday - not like a HUGE gift, may B like a little card/note or something (let him know u care)
10. Talk about things u guys are interested in - maybe you have some similar interests that u can talk about! 11. Never hesitate to let him use your pens/paper/other junk he needs to borrow! And let him use the BEST pen you have. :-)
12. When other people accuse u of liking him, IN FRONT OF HIM, say that he is very nice (LOOKING j/k), and what is worng with that?
13. Say hi to him in the hallways
14. Tell him your e-mail address and get his!
14. When you talk, do not avoid his eyes. Look straight into those pretty blues!
15. Make some jokes! (Not lame ones)
16. Avoid bragging (this goes w/ out saying)
17. If you ever write a note to him, write "Your friend" or if it is a little more intimate, write a heart or "luv" before your closing. Make the letter *colorful*
18. When you talk, don't do all the talking - let him say stuff too, and vice versa
19. Be yourself!!! (yet again!)
Expectations for the almost Perfect Boyfriend
12) Someone who holds your hand whenever possible.
11) Puts his arms around your waist and whispers in your ear.
10) Kisses you every chance he gets.
9) Holds you close when your cold.
8) When you are alone-holds you close and KISSES you.
7) Kisses you on the tip of your nose (it will give you the hint that he wants to kiss you.)
6) While in the movies, puts his arm around you and then you'll automatically put your head on his shoulder then he'll lean in and tilt your chin and kiss you lightly.
5) When you complain that your neck hurts he'll massage it for you.
4) When people diss you he stands up for you.
3) Looks deep into your eyes and TELLS you he loves you or that you are adorable.
2) Lays down under the stars with you and puts your head on his chest so you can listen to the steady beat of his heart and link your fingers together while he whispers to you as you rest your eyes and listen to his voice.
1) Open all doors for you (it makes you feel so special!!!)
I really hope this helps you out, if all else fails then follow your heart, it won't lie. Wel good luck!~Alison~

Answer 2

I understand what you are saying.... and guys can really send mixed signals. Sometimes I think they do that just to find out what we are really feeling, you know, to get us to talk. And then they use it against us if it doesn't suit them..... I don't know if he really likes you or not, but I can tell you that he is not going to stop playing games with your head, so if you get frustrated by this, then maybe you need to move on.... he may never change.... Good luck...

Answer 3

Just ask him, If he says yes hooray! and if he says no then so what!
20 years from noe people won't care what you hair looked like or who you went out with they will care about what you have accomplished in life.

Answer 4

..........sounds like he is leaving you hanging and is in no way ready to commit to one relationship.

Keep the friendship and forget the romance with that one. Start dating the other guy.

Answer 5

he is a kid in a candy store. You won't land him he's enjoying the field. don't be desparate!!