I am maybe thinking about having sex with my boyfriend but he's 10 years older than me i'm 19 and a virgin. he's really experienced and he's had sex before quite enough with other women who were experienced. but i'm not and i'm so scared i won't be good enough for him. i mean i don't know how to know sexual things at all. i've never done those. i don't know does it turns guy off to sleep with a virgin ????
2006-11-18 14:26:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
personally Id say save your virginity till your married. think of what a gift that is for your husband.. you waited for them.. not to mention not having to worry about things like this or STDs or pregnancy or anything else..
but if you feel different... don't worry about it. if he loves you then it shouldn't matter.
if the only reason he is with you is for good sex then you don't want him anyways.
2006-11-18 14:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by malibuboatgu 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he's not thrilled that you're a virgin, and doesn't see your first time as something of value but a liability because you might not "satisfy" him, then he is NOT the man for you. Now I'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that you might not satisfy him... if it is only your own nervous musings, then let me assure you: he is probably thrilled. Think of it this way, he can teach you everything he wants you to know. Most guys like that idea, provided their "pupil" is willing and enthusiastic.
You also have the advantage of being with someone who knows what to do. I lost my virginity to a fellow virgin when we were 17 and 18 respectively, and it took about five attempts before we actually achieved the act. By the time we succeeded it wasn't romantic so much as it was a major accomplishment for us both! Fortunately, we loved and respected each other. But being with a man who is experienced when you are a bit nervous is a big plus. He can focus his efforts on finding out what pleases you, because he already knows the basics on his end and how they will work. If he doesn't have this attitude, that is a red flag, and again, a sign that he is not the man for you.
Just make sure that he's a decent human being. You will always remember your first time. And use a condom. My baby sister got HPV with her first time (which you can get even if he uses a condom, so a conversation is a very good idea, but a condom will help anyway) from a guy who was 28 when she was 19.
2006-11-18 14:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others, think about it long and hard before you give your virginity away, and make sure it is something that you want to do. Don't feel pressure to have sex, because it is your decision and choice to make, besides make sure he loves and respect you enough. The reasons why most guys are turn on by virgins because they want to be the first. But if you are going to do it relax, follow his lead, and have protected sex: remember no sex unless it is safe sex. But my advice would be to wait and see how the relationship develops, I may not know from experience
( I' am a 20 year old virgin) but I would want to lose my virginity to someone I can see myself still being with 6 months from now. Good Luck and be safe.
2006-11-18 15:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys think of it as a conquest to sleep with a virgin. Honey don't do anything that you might regret, cause you can't get what you give away back. Watch out for std's especially HPV, many people have it without knowing, (no symptoms), and it can cause infertility and cervical cancer.
Not to mention pregnancy. Protection is Not 100%
Don't be pressured into anything. I was 25 and married before gave that away to someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Have a talk with an older lady that you respect, and please don't get used or have regrets, cause it often comes back to bite you (shame and regret), your too important for that to happen to.
You are also young. I'm glad your thinking, but THINK ABOUT YOURSELF, and not him. Sex is a big decision that will affect your self esteem if not considered carefully.
If he loves you, he won't pressure you. I know it sounds old fashion, but sex in a marriage commitment means something. It was the way God made it to be.
Take care!!
2006-11-18 14:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by D. S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God Girl...I lost my virginity when I was 21....after 6 months I broke up with the guy....I didn't know what I was doing but it was amazing...I'm 24 now and I've been with my boyfriend fiance to be in December for 3 years {{SMILES}} and our sex are amazing...If you want too..don't be afraid..Plus I think if your BF doesn't make you feel safe enough you shouldn't do it...Just talk to him about it...he'll understand... I HOPE. Just make sure is something you want to do. Being a virgin is plus most guy love that...my ex actually cried because I was the first virgin girl he ever had!
P.S My ex didn't know I was a virgin...until he saw the blood all ever his sweeter.
2006-11-18 14:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by marcela_ipa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just relax and let him take the lead then you will be fine. He will teach you what he want's you to do.. and u will soon find out what you like and don't. Never be scared to say if you do or don't like something tho. and don't worry about being a virgin... guy's love going where no man has gone before... or so i heard
I had a bf who was also 10 yrs my senior at your age and it turned out he was lousy in bed so don't assume cuz he may just turn out to be not so good after all but i hope that is not the case for you.
2006-11-18 14:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by talkintame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you and cares for you, you will be perfect to him in every way.
Don't be so nervous, and don't try too hard, things will happen naturally if you are right together.
Also, make sure you're certain you want to have sex with this guy, because your virginity is an important thing.
2006-11-18 14:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by tahanni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it make sure he dont want to hav sex because u r 19 make sure he is the right man because it isa very inportant thing in ur life believe me because im a man and would love to get a young girl like u but i hav a littlebit of a thing called respect but its your decision so just be sure in what ever u do and if so make sure u use protection
2006-11-18 14:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by saphires69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you guys really care for each other it won't matter how experienced you are compared to him. he will show you what to do and be sweet about it.
and don't think tht just because he is older than you he will automatically be good at it. sometimes it is just the opposite
2006-11-18 14:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep your virginity and what is a 29 yr old man doing trying to pick up a 19 yr old? When he geaduated high school you were like 8 years old
2006-11-18 14:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by mbs1669 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋