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divorced and can't bring myself to go out alone. Any suggestions? In Rhode Island, no idea what there is to do.

2006-11-18 14:22:39 · 12 answers · asked by justcurious 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

12 answers

go to a club,bar coffee shop introduce yourself to the neighbours and if all else fail come back on answers

2006-11-22 08:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by arfa54321 5 · 0 0

I'm seldom troubled by loneliness because I have a hundred odd projects that need a lot of attention. But you must be much more people-dependent.

Use your interests to branch out. If you like to read, join a book club or go to one of those big book stores where people hang out for hours reading, drinking 6 dollar cups of coffee and TALKING LOUDLY ON THE MOBILE PHONE. Join a hiking group such as Sierra Club. They even have Sierra Singles in most cities. Go to a computer user-group meeting. You can learn something and meet some nice geeks. If you like social / political causes, there are dozens of "Friends of the..." whatever where you can lend a hand and meet people who are fired-up about something. Take a cooking class or painting class. You might even see my friend, Joe Wales who used to be a nude model. Well, maybe not now. He's getting a bit grey and wrinkled.

I don't suggest meeting people in a bar because most of them like to drink and prowl so they might not be interested in your finer qualities. Church is for church people and if you are one of them, you've already been. Me, I a confirmed Agnostic-Buddhist-Pagan so they don't want me. Some people say you can meet people in a large supermarket by asking "How do you know a good tomato?" But all I ever got was a tomato.

2006-11-18 14:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by SilverTonguedDevil 7 · 0 1

Be encourage, the end of a thing is often the beginning of something else. Depending on your personality, I would locate a support group for divorced people. If there is not one in the area, start one. Print flyers announcing that you are having a meeting for divorcees who need support. Post it in the library,the book stores, the community, the court house and whereever you fel. You will likely meet plenty of people and who knows, maybe someone special.
Also try taking time to determine what you want to do with the rest of your life and spend your days planning and acting on those plans. I would encourage you tonot rely on internet dating, although sometimes it works. This is a moment for you to get a fresh start.

2006-11-18 14:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by Willard S 2 · 0 1

Actually, there is a lot to do. First, I don't know if you're one that goes to church, but it is a good way to meet people. I'm not a big church goer, but my wife and I just moved to a new city and she started going to teh Catholic Church and joined the bible study group. Now, all of a sudden she has 15 close friends. There are a couple other things to try. There are website that put you in touch with other people for going out or for sports. If you look in google or yahoo and enter your city and "meet friends" or "meet people" there are a bunch of sites for that. here in Austin,TX there are sites for if you want to play sports that link you with groups of people to do that with. There are sites for social clubs etc. I would definitely try the church first because we've met some great people so far. Also, I'm not sure if you're a college graduate, but I just found out that there is a club here in Austin for my school (FSU) and I met some people there as well. (Of course, it's a little easier to meet guys who want to get together for football). I hope this helps a little:) Rod

2006-11-18 15:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by rodrage34 1 · 0 1

Oh, you are so in the same boat as me. It's a tough question; best thing to do, I'd say, is to find some local classes/programs that interest you, and go do those. Good way to keep yourself out and about, as well as meet some new people.

2006-11-18 14:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sean 2 · 0 1

Coffe shops are easy. Grab a paper or a book and just start hanging out. After a couple visits you may recognize a few people and can start up a conversation. You could always join a church, people are always friendly there. Best of luck to you, it sucks to be lonely.

2006-11-18 14:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by julie b 2 · 1 1

Read, write, use the Internet, take up bobbies ~ learn ~ that is, if you are determined not to go out.

The space you have found yourself in is useful, to you. You can learn from it ~ about yourself and the world and how you relate to the world itself.

It's a good opportunity ~ for all the above.

Unlike me, try to use it wisely.
Regards.
Sash.

2006-11-18 14:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0 1

isn't TAPS in rhode island? go ghost hunting with grant and jason.

2006-11-18 14:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0 1

Find volunteer places.. Force yourself to go.. At first you might feel foolish, but you will meet folks, who might be handy at getting you onto other endeavers..

2006-11-18 14:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mintee 7 · 0 1

Introduce yourself to neighbors, or go to a bar. Always someone there willing to talk.

2006-11-18 14:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by jperk1941 4 · 0 1

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