I am insecure, I doubt myself, I get nervous every time I talk to people, but at the same time I am ambitious, so I want to get rid of these disadvantages.
I think I need to take a course or something, but I don't want to spend money, it'd better to be free. Anywayz what do you guys think?
2006-11-18 14:05:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i would say stop telling yourself that you are nervous and that you doubt yourself. low selfesteem is probably most of the problem
2006-11-18 14:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by fyre975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a teenager I was shy about alot of things. Would say something to try and fit in and only screw it up and embarrass myself even more. But after high school I started working and met alot of real people. Not the high school crowd, and found that nobody really cares. people who judge are only insecure about themselves and you can't stop them from doing that. The rest of the world has more important things to do.
doing something important helped also. People might gain confidence if they are doing something important. But I am not sure about you. You may be a doctor for all I know. But that helped me.
2006-11-18 22:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
. Extreme debilitating shyness, and self doubt, can be symptoms of chronic depression. Chronic depression is not being depressed about something; It is more a case of being depressed when you have nothing to be depressed about, or of finding something to be depressed about. The manifestations can range from deep, I'd be better of dead, unhappiness to the sort of self doubt and shyness you describe.
. Counseling might help to dispel the shyness and self-doubt to some degree. You will discount feelings of self doubt, and be more able to push shyness aside, when you can tell yourself,"That's just my depression kicking in!". . You learn to work past it, like a runner runs in spite of little pains.
. For some, medication can be very helpful. I am quite familiar with one case, in particular, which is treated with great success with Lexapro, a serotonin re-uptake inhibitor. (This person was one of those self-doubters, in spite of his knowledge that he had significant talents, and prone to significant unhappiness, in spite of many good things in his life.) There are a few of these on the market, and different ones may be more effective for different people.
2006-11-18 22:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by PoppaJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Give yourself some time. Take a speech class! Facing your ultimate fear and speaking in front of a whole group and succeeding will give you the self-confidence you need to feel betteer about conversation. After that, talking to others will be a breeze.
2006-11-18 22:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by Design Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Day...!!... ..and a good question...as i had the same problem..and still do sometimes...mmm... what you have to do is step across that safety line ...one step at a time and be yourself....Smile...learn to chat with the many people on line...then try to call someone you know....then in person ..if possible... and maybe a long term relationship will develope ..just from that one step ..to change your entire life...good luck.!!.
2006-11-18 22:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your inhibition, don't let others bring you down. There's always going to be someone who doesn't appreciate your uniquness, but so many more people will. You will have friends up to your ears. Just let go of the cage surrounding you. Be your self, your happy loving self. If what I say sounds corny, I don't care. you should listen to your heart as people tend to say.
2006-11-18 22:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Figneuton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol sounds SOOOO much like me, i am SUCH a clutz!!!!! i ALWAYS trip knock stuff over.... break things... i HATED tht about myself, so i would stay quiet and pray that I wouldnt have to walk around and talk to anyone.. but i found a new friend tht helped me just laugh whenever I trpped... mainly cuz she trips alot too!!!!! well mostly its my falult.. but the best thing to do is just Accept your differences And it truelly is easier to Talk to people I promise!
2006-11-18 22:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Build your confidence!
Start small talk with others!
Embarassing yourself? Who doesn't!? It'll be a good laugh when you look back on it and a funny story to tell your friends and family!
2006-11-18 22:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by 0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u feel you've said something embarrassing, give them a dirty look
2006-11-18 22:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read some dale carnagie books and then practice practice practice
2006-11-18 22:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by Skorpian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋