I am 14 and in high school. I do not have many friends. How do I get more?

Question

I am 14 and a freshman in high school. I have some friends, but not many. I am mostly alone in all my classes. Outside of school is worse. There is only one person I spend time with on the weekends, and he is always gounded. I am very shy. I have a terrible speech impediment . When I talk I know that people stare and even laugh. How do I get more friends in and out of school.

Answer 1

Get out there and get involved in school (sports, clubs, student government, etc) and in the community (volunteer at something you're passionate about) - the more you get involved, the more people will notice your interests and talk to you,,, the more you interact with people, the greater opportunities you'll develop the skills necessary to meet and keep friends!

It'll take motivation from within you to get involved, but believe in yourself. People will sense your confidence and would like to get to know you more.

All my suggestions increase your chance s of making friends, but aren't necessarily guarantees. The relationships you make with people are subject to your interactions with people. You can't make people like you. However, you can lead a life with a positive outlook, which people will tend to be attracted to.

You may wanna consider seeing how you can improve your health, lifestyle, expand your interest interacting with people...

good luck! be well!

Answer 2

Well Ty Asking Someone In Your Class 4 Then Maybe Start A Convo Maybe About Anything Like From What Sports Do You Play To Whats Your Favorite Color Random Things You Know & Since You Are Shy Maybe Try Talking To Yourself In The Mirror I Know It Sound Crazy But It Woks Im 14 2 & I Use 2 B So Shy But Then I Realized To Be Myself & Speak Up Im Am Very Popular Now & Have Tons Of Friends && Also Maybe Tell A J/K But Get 1 Online That Is Really Funny && Maybe Try Changing Your Style Maybe Try Aeropostal Or If You Are Punk Try Hot Topic Or SumthinYou Know Then Try Joining A Sport & School Actvity,.. Well Hope I've Helped Wish You Luck Hun

Answer 3

Huh. A speech impediment would set you apart, wouldn't it. I'm not going to say any of this is flawless, surefire advice, but I think simply acting like the impediment isn't a problem for you would be a good starting place. I've known of guys with speech impediments, physical handicaps, etc. who were pretty popular, so I think its largely being confident and getting over it that will make you more approachable/likeable. You'll gain a few friends, and they'll back you up, and then the impediment won't be a problem.

But being popular and having friends are really two different things. The only way to be either one, though, is to start talking to people and being friendly. Not overtly friendly, like you have something to prove, just not shy and reclusive. Find people with similar interests and a similar outlook on the world, and these will be your friends.

And always remember that old addage, "When we fall off the horse, we get back on." Or bike, or whatever. Even if people think you're nuts for talking to them (and people will, there are "classes" amongst teenagers) you just keep it up. Be smart, be aware, be friendly, and I think you'll be alright.

Answer 4

Just be true deep down inside you and let them come to you. I had the same problem when i was 14 and i got very angry for not having alot of friends. Thats when i decided to give up and not care anymoe. After a couple weeks i had friends coming out of the wood work..lol (figure of speech). Just know that you are an important person and when you see yourself that way others will see that it would be nice to have a friend like you. Good Luck In High School. I hope things will go smoothly for you.

Answer 5

shyness is the worst!! i was sooo shy in high school...but i learned that a sense of humor (even if your making fun of yourself like i did) will draw attention to you ..and everyone love someone with a sense of humor..try and watch some comedy stuff on t.v then re-use what you hear when you within listening distance of people even if you just talkin to your buddy..someones bound to hear your laughter and start listening to the funny kid..(not the kid with the speech impediment!) good luck honey!!maybe you'll even become the funny kid with the speech impediment!!

Answer 6

Is there any kind of club you could join? Maybe the yearbook commitee, or drama club(behind the scenes). I don't know if you like sports, but you could think about that too. Think of clubs were speaking isn't the main focus, so kids won't shut you out. Kids can be very cruel.

Answer 7

you dont need many friends keep the amount you have because having a lot will make you get hurt by someone from being very fony towards you talking bout you behind your back.especially if you talk funny they are going 2 talk bout you behind your back sodont get but like three friends or so because there is a lot of fony people in this world that say they are your friend but really not

Answer 8

well i hate to say this but not from your computer. do you like any sports? try out for a team. do you have a boy and girls club where you live? go there. i no all about being shy, and as i have gotten older i have grown out of it more and more each year. don't wait to grow out of it like i did try to push yourself everyday to speak to someone new, answer a question out loud in class, wear something that you like but have been unsure of wearing in the past.

Answer 9

Hard question to answer. Just talk to more people. Join a club. See what you have in common. Music, movies, books, sports. stuff like that

Answer 10

I'm with ya. I don't have anyone outside of school to talk to, so I just do homework, and hope for a better day tomorrow.