How many of you [teens and adults] approve or premarital sex?

Question

and porque [why]?

Answer 1

As a teenager I used to justify NOT having premarital sex by saying that I didn't want to run the risk of getting pregnant- I knew quite a few girls who had abortions or had babies before graduating high school... In fact I knew I just wasn't ready and it disgusted me to see so many other people my age humping anything that made a pass at them. I waited until after my freshman year of college to lose my virginity... I think the only reason pre-marital sex is an issue is because we've got so much rampant dogma in this country. In many other countries couples are in loving-long-term relationships without being married and that's quite normal, the residents of these countries report higher rates of happiness and overall health, they have children that are just as well adjusted or better so than those of married couples... I think sex is a natural act and sooner or later everyone gets curious about it. It's my thought that we don't give teenagers/young people enough credit for independent thinking... I know that my family just assumed that I was having sex in high school when in fact I waited until I was 20 to become sexually active. We just need to give them the facts, share with them (not force) our own families thoughts on the subject, and then lay off... You and I can think for ourselves and so can they...

Answer 2

By Nature, SEX is how we get here! If you want children, that is the thing to do!

For those that think it is a game, what happens when the child shows up?

Oh yes, we can always kill it. (Abortion)

I don't want to be married, I can raise it alone!

Wrong answerer, Nature dictates that both male and female emotional input are required to support stable mental development of the child. Day on week/s off is not a viable answer.

People not parenting or no parents is the root cause of the majority of today's social calamity.

Premarital SEX? The females have not yet learned that they pay a really rotten price, second only to the child!

Put the question this way, How many are for your mothers sleeping with all the men that comes along? Or should she become a prostitute, at least she would get paid, the other way, she gives it up free and get the name of WHORE!

What are the names males give to girls that they can sleep with?
Bitc%$s, whore, my whore, slut, good or bad lay, ****, god/bad piece of ***, (ownership), that's mine! Man, I was into that, it's easy! Yea, she'll give up quick.

Check out the male responses to your question. Note the level of respect and decency.

Answer 3

Premarital sex, also called fornication, has been condemned by most societies since the beginning of time - and for good reason. It has only been in our so-called "enlightened" time that sex has been considered "recreational".

Much of this has to do with the relatively recent advent of fairly effective birth control. I say fairly effective because it is still the rule that nearly all women who are sexually active eventually get pregnant. Birth control and easy abortion has reduced some of the consequences out of non-marital sex, but has greatly increased others.

Since the acceptance of non-marital sex unwed pregnancies have skyrocketed. Literally tens of millions of children have been born without the advantages of a two-parent family. These kids are much more likely to be involved in drugs, crime, abuse, and their own early sexual activity. The teen moms are typically abandoned by their boyfriends who "loved them", and these young lives are made very difficult.

When I was a youth pastor I had a young Christian girl ask my wife and I about making out. "How far is it okay to go?" she wanted to know.

I told her that the physical aspect of romance was like a water slide. It was designed to take the slider "all the way". Once you've said that first "yes" at the top of the slide, it's virtually impossible to stop and get off the ride. It wasn't designed that way.

Therefore, you shouldn't even begin the ride unless you are truly ready to go all the way. That doesn't mean you're "in love". It means you are established in a home with a husband and are capable of responsibly bringing up a child. When you are ready to have a child, then you are ready to begin "making out".

Otherwise you're like that little 4 year old who thinks he's big enough to go on the Monster Slide. He's only going to get hurt. And when a little girl gets pregnant she hurts the life of the child one way or another.

Wait till you're married. That's how mature people do it.

Answer 4

I disapprove. I am a teenager, and have therefore had "urges", but entirely disagree with premarital sex. My bf and I have discussed the issue and have decided that it would be emotionally hard for both of us if we had sex and then broke up. It would also be hard for the next person if we had already done it. In other words, we'd be hurting ourselves emotionally and hurting future relationships. There's also the issue of pregnancy, which kinda goes along with the emotional difficulties. There ya go. The end.

Answer 5

ok; I'm just going to list reasons I've seen on here and say why they can be bogus reasons.

1-"Sex should be special and with the right person."

Ok, I've been with one guy for the past for years. He's the only man I have ever been with and we have had premarital sex.

2-"You could get pregnant."

And? I had children, I'm still not married to their father. Our kids are happy, we are happy.

3-"You could get a disease."

Okay, you mean to tell me there is no possible way you could marry someone who has herpes? People lie all the time. What's to say your future husband hasn't lied about being a virgin. I've had sex, had kids, and have no STDs.

4-"The guy could leave after he has sex with you."

What says that men never leave their wives? It happens all the time. Divorce rates are close to 50%.

Now for what I have to say; You shouldn't have to have a piece of paper stating that you can have sex. Some people stay virgins until they are married and wonder what else is out there. A lot of times that will lead to divorce. I think that it is better for someone to be happy than to be a prude. If someone doesn't agree with premarital sex, don't do it. It will be a miracle if st. helena woman's marriage last anymore than 7 years. That woman controls the way her husband pees for christ's sake. Check out her questions...lol. This is just my opinion though. Good luck with whatever you are asking this for.

~*~Tiffany~*~

Answer 6

I approve. Why? Well if people are responsible and realistic about sex it can be enjoyed with or without love for a variety of reasons.

I'm female 22.

Answer 7

Here is what I tell my kids....Do not have sex with anyone that you would not want to have children with....because no matter how safe you think the sex your having is, there is always that chance, so if you cannot afford children, care for them etc. And you do see yourself being in a relationship with this person where you could raise kids together then do not have sex with them.

This rule applies whether you are married or not....It is not about the piece of paper or the act of sex....it is about being responsible enough to not bring people into this world if you cannot care for them. That is the bottom line.

Answer 8

I don't have a problem with premarital sex as long as it is between two mature people who are responsible enough to protect themselves from unwanted pregancy and STDs, although I think that sex is much better when it with someone you love. It's also much better when you know the person well enough to know if STD risk is even a factor.

Answer 9

Diapprove- Sex is a wonderful loving and bonding act between married people and should be done in the marriage bed only. It is not for single or teen people.
I waited until my wedding night to make love for the first time.

Answer 10

I certainly don't approve!!

I noticed that a lot of people don't approve for different reasons...mainly the fear of becoming pregnate...but why don't they want to become pregnate?!?! I mean the reason I don't approve is cause ITS A SIN!!! just cause your sin will be found out if you become pregnate....

Also, sex was meant to be ONLY for your partner, if you don't have a partner, why have it?

Ok, I don't want you to think I'm being judgmental about it, but I know what God would think about it, cause he tells us.

Is it worth having a greater punishment in hell for it?