I have been in a realtionship with him for 2 years, I love this man so much. But he treats me so bad , like name calling that kind of abuse. I am tired of it, I can't leave him b/c I have no money and no family or friends i can go to, so I am at a huge disadvantage. I do have a job but I make hardley anything. Please help where can, I go??
2006-11-18 13:33:37 · 10 answers · asked by TM 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me applaude you for, if nothing else considering leaving this guy. Unfortunately though, you are amongnst thousands of women who go through this. It is called "co-dependent." That means you have become so used to that enviroment that you are finding it difficult to leave it and your income has become your reason to stay. Now work with me for a moment. No matter what your situation is there is always an answer. For example, what if, for a while you decided to get a room with some elderly person in exchange for maybe some very small fee and helping the person to get around to the grocery store and other things. You can contact any senior citizen program for help in locating this type of situation. Then there is the prospect that you can get a room for a little of nothing.So you see, you are not at a real disadvantage.There is hope!!!!! Get out while you can. Usually those type of relationships end tragically and things never get better. It is likely that the person has deep rooted respect issues that came from a child or maybe even somewhere in life. I am curious as to his relationship with his mother. Usually, men who can't respect women (and women) never had a good relationship with their mothers. Be smart and move on with your life.
Lastly, I leave you with this. Jet magazine featured a story about 10 years ago of a women who had about 10 children and no high school education. This women had a live in boyfreind who decided one day to leave her and rather than call it the end she went back to school and recieved her GED, later she went and recieved a nursing assistance certificate, then a medical assistant certificate and finally the story ends with her becoming a doctor of pediatrics opening a clinic in the very area she struggled in. You too can have a successful outcome. Exhale and pursue the dreams of your past. You will be glad you did.
2006-11-18 13:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Willard S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, Good on you for realizing even though you love this guy you know he is mistreating you.What he is doing to you is called mental abuse and he probably knows that you have nowhere to go and thinks he can treat you however he feels like. Why don't you try bluffing him, tell him you have found somewhere to stay and you are definately going unless he changes his ways.If you make him realize that what he has been doing is wrong and you will no longer put up with it, perhaps it will be like a wake-up call to him. If nothing changes and he still treats you the same way then l would suggest you move on. Look for a nice guy who will appreciate you and just be happy. Believe me you don't need him if he isn't prepared to treat you right. Good luck.
2006-11-18 14:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go to a shelter and then start looking for full time employment! and never be in this type of situation again to where you have to put up with anothers man sh_it again like this! You have money saved in the bank and ready to split when the going gets to rough!
2006-11-18 14:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They end on account which you base a relationship on intercourse----If issues have been particularly extreme you won't have hesitations on the subject of the relationship rather being extreme. you particularly need to seek for out a counselor and get some extreme finding into that head of yours----in case you do no longer you will pass with the aid of existence as you're suited now----and if it particularly is working for then you definately ok....yet sounds to me such as you prefer extra out of relationships than you're keen to furnish!
2016-10-22 08:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, what you feel about the relationship, dont be scared, and move on. Go to college, if you have not, and just make a new life. He is probably thinking you cant live without him, but show him is not thrue.
2006-11-18 13:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing is a form of domestic abuse. You can talk to him about counseling however if he refuses to go, or doesn't make an effort to change it is time for you to leave him.
2006-11-18 13:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be someone at your job or a sibling or something that can help you. even if it is only for a few days til you can really get your head together and get a plan working. never think that you are stuck. you aren't. good luck girl......
2006-11-18 13:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to see if he will get conselling and if you go to some of your churches or county assistant agency help centers they will assist you with getting housing.
2006-11-18 13:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To school, so you can get a better job to leave this loser!
2006-11-18 13:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him u dont want him and get another job
2006-11-18 13:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Da Princess of da chi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋