My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have 3 kids. It seems like anymore he's just some guy I live with. We never have any fun or do anything romantic anymore. I want to bring the spark back, but truly don't know how...we're in a rut! Any cool ideas I can try out to "fall in love again"?
2006-11-18 13:32:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First you have to try and set time away for just the two of you everyday. This will be a start on building and maintaining your relationship. when he comes home or when you get up in the morning even if you leave before he is awake always give him a kiss and tell him you love him. Take time to show emotions and attention. Always ask how was their day and act interested and be a good listener.
Romantic Gesture? Make plans for the kids to go spend the night with a grandparent or friend.
I would get some candles, massage oils, good music, start with back massage for him, let him relax and then move the massage to other places of the body. You have to feel the mood get in touch with your feelings enjoy the caressing and touching before you start to just have sex. Fore play is the best thing in a relationship to help spice up your sex life and your relationship.
Try something new in your sex life that you know your husband would love and that he may be ashamed or afraid to ask you to do.I am not talking about a threesome or being with another woman while he watches either....lol. I am talking about sex toys different positions, role play those types of things.
Good sex is a key to a successful loving relationship.
2006-11-18 14:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Shell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Find a trustworthy babysitter so neither of you will have to call and check up on the kids...
2 Plan a little bit, but don't overdo it... (Once in awhile is OK...!)
3 Get in the habit of doing something together weekly...
4 Pay the babysitter well and she (nobody EVER hires boy babysitters... Why IS that...?) won't invite others over for fear of losing her j-o-b...
5 Keep expectations low and just enjoy the time together...
6 From time to time, give the babysitter the night or afternoon off and do something together as a family... You don't want the kids to get the idea you both ONLY have fun when they're not around...
7 Scheduling is ALWAYS a hassle, so either set up a regular day (good for getting a sitter reliably and helps to schedule other events around THE DATE) or just make it a HUGE priority to do it weekly...
8 Remember to tell each other fun stories of things you've both done together...!
9 Have fun. That's an order. LOL
2006-11-18 21:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey Indiana girl! I was born in Marion Indiana, moved away some time ago! but i would try the dating thing again with him and go from there. have date night with the bottle of wine at the end of your evening.
2006-11-18 21:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave several notes in places only he goes - tool box, in the pockets of the clothes he puts on in the morning, etc.. Sensual notes are good, but passion is better. Remember, passion is not lust. Passion is when someone is sexually aroused by love.
2006-11-18 22:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Long Gone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋