My husbands good friend lives very far from us. Every holiday there 11 yr. old son calls & say's he's coming over.(my husband is his god father.) I do'nt mind him coming over, it's that his parents don't even have the respect to call and ask what we are doing. Mind u , we lived in abig apt. but just recently moved into a very small 1 bedroom. (i havent even finished unpacking.) Now for thanksgiving me & my husband were planing a quiet night not even making turkey.there's no place for him to even sleep. Iam so upset at my husband that i dont even want to be here on thanksgiving.On the other hand (my husband recently just had a stroke about a month ago) i feel really bad that i don't want him to come but just look at it my way .For god sakes iam still upacking. How can i tell my husband that i really dont want his god son to come for thankgiving?
2006-11-18 13:32:01 · 8 answers · asked by t10t15t66 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
I can understand why you are upset, I would be also. It's one thing for a godchild to come to visit when he's "invited", entirely another for him to "invite" himself. Just because he's always done that, doesn't mean it's right or that it has to continue.
Look, marriage is based on love, respect and communication. Talk to your husband. Explain how you feel, there's no reason why you should have to have his godson over "every holiday"!
His godson's parents are being very inconsiderate by assuming that he's welcome for every holiday. It's up to your husband to put a stop to this, you shouldn't have to be involved.
You just moved, you have no room and your husband just had a stroke. Why should you have to turn your life upside down to cater to someone else now? If his godson's parents can't understand that, it's "their" problem, don't let it become "yours"!
Good luck.
2006-11-18 13:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband just had a stroke??? It is understandable that you would like the time for just the two of you. BUT if this is what your husband would like for this little boy to come over for the holiday then do what your husband wishes, after all he did just have a life changing experience. AND we are women and we can make anything work, right ??? Do not be so selfish ( I am not saying that to be mean) It is only a day or two out of the year. Yes, the other parents should be more considerate. There are plenty of other nights you can have a special dinner with your husband. If on the other hand your husband does not feel up to having the child over and would like to just spend it with you then he should tell his friend that this year would not be good for his son to come over. Good luck..
2006-11-18 21:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Karlee bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a reasonable point of view. Just tell your husband that you don't want to have the godson this year. You are being reasonable.
2006-11-18 21:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband has been through a rough time...he might want to see his relatives. I think I would leave this one alone and just suck it. Good luck.
2006-11-18 21:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him...he's your husband. Does the kid live close by? I don't understand how you get stuck with him every holiday.
2006-11-18 21:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yout hubby your concernsd, and suggest that you all have Thanksgiving at the godson's parents house. since you've played hosts so many times, it can be their turn.
2006-11-18 21:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you want a break from entertaining this year.
2006-11-18 21:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and explain how you feel. It will be ok
2006-11-18 22:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋